Should men have their own “Gramps Net” ?

Men just don’t tend to hang around.
In fact, sorry,
I’m going to moan now, but it really annoys me when someone joins; and everyone welcomes with outstretched arms, and makes a big fuss of them; and then they never post again.

I’m not surprised Fanny reading some of the comments on this thread!

I dont really understand the whole welcoming thing to be honest.

> Have a flounce on me

Sounds like a jazz song,

Galaxy

I dont really understand the whole welcoming thing to be honest.

No, me neither, and it's worse in FB groups when 76% of posts are people saying 'thanks for the add'. Just post something .

I think the bottom line is always that a board is the sum of its parts, and what we get depends on what people post. However much people want to impose rules, the only ones that will ever be obeyed are the ones that are actively enforced, and that can only be done by HQ, so we are all basically wasting our time pontificating over any of this. It passes the time though .

Actually, when I first arrived on Gransnet in 2021 I used a gender neutral username.

One poster speculated that I was a man, that I reminded her of someone she knew who was born in 1943. Then added that he was unliked.

One person wrote something like

Bet he's male, 78, no kids.

Though I use the word children.

Anyway, here is a video of an almost all-female event, but a man is there participating. No fuss, no problem. Just human beings being happy.

LINK > www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJsCEkpPdi4

Perhaps something worth noting and applying in this forum.

But my rules would be brilliant

That was a nice "welcome" then, wasn't it?

Galaxy

But my rules would be brilliant

Good point. So would mine, and I can think of a few others who would be good too.

We can form a Rules Committee, and let people know what we decide? We could be up and running by Monday, I think.

(for the benefit of the literal and/or humourless, that was a joke )

Could we have a committee?
Like the wheeltappers and shunters?

Tuesday is better for me. We needs some rules on who decides what day of the week is best .

Well, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to be dictated to about days of the week!

That was fun StarDreamer. I tried a line dancing class once, when we came to the end of the dance I was facing the wrong way. Every single time.

Doodledog wrote However much people want to impose rules, the only ones that will ever be obeyed are the ones that are actively enforced, ...

I don't think that that is quite true.

For example, as a fact, let's not get into whether I was right or wrong to do so, I specified vegan in relation to food in the following thread.

LINK > www.gransnet.com/forums/culture_arts/1312375-Virtual-cruise-from-Mainz-along-the-river-Main

It is not so much "obeyed" as being accepted as the ambience of the particular thread and people voluntarily accepting that in that particular thread.

Two people have commented in other threads about that thread.

One lady said that she is an omnivore, but went along with the vegan ambience of the thread.

Another lady expressed that she may make Argy comments in an Argy thread but whether she makes Argy comments depends upon where she is, and in fact the lady did not make such comments in that particular thread.

In the event a vegan restaurant was found. So that only happened because of the ambience of the thread.

A really happy thread with various participants suggesting things and they all being included.

I liken it to if, say, someone attends a wedding, and is not immediate family, so does not go and sit in the front few rows out of courtesy to the immediate family, nobody actually saying don't sit in the first few rows.

If another wedding is of a close relation, then on that occasion they sit nearer the front.

So I don't regard it as rules being "dictated" and a requirement to "obey", I regard it as various threads have various ambiences.

I know that some people think differently about the issue, but c'est la vie.

Have you just posted another flipping link to that blooming thread SD!?
Do I constantly have to keep tabs on you!?

Doodledog wrote (for the benefit of the literal and/or humourless, that was a joke )

Well, it a good job you said! [literal] [not humourless]

That was posted in good humour, btw, and I’m sure that SD will take it that way
(--please don’t call me names--)

FannyCornforth

Have you just posted another flipping link to that blooming thread SD!?
Do I constantly have to keep tabs on you!?

Do you mean the virtual cruise along the river Main thread?

The links are what makes that virtual cruise thread so good.

Opinions vary on whether links should be allowed in a thread of a virtual cruise, but different threads have different ambiences.

If someone else starts a virtual cruise thread then I feel that that person can suggesr the ambience. I could then decide whether or not to paerticipate, on the basis that if I participate then I respect the ambience that has been suggested by the person starting the thread.

Sorry SD, I was definitely joking.
Sorry for any confusion or offence

FannyCornforth

That was posted in good humour, btw, and I’m sure that SD will take it that way
(--please don’t call me names--)

I have never called you names Fanny.

I thought what you wrote was literal so I replied.

FannyCornforth

Sorry SD, I was definitely joking.
Sorry for any confusion or offence

Well, there was no confusion or offence.

I just took it literally and replied.

Ok, thank you!

I know that you don’t, (call me names, that is) I didn’t mean you.
Sorry again!

well, that's 10 minutes of my life I won't get back.

I care not a fig whether a poster is male or female.

StarDreamer How rude to start posting links on someone’s thread to your own thread.
I think you need to think more considerately.