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Should men have their own “Gramps Net” ?

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Sago Thu 25-Aug-22 08:42:50

I love to read Micks “Good Morning “ thread, Mick is a Gentleman in every sense of the word.

I rarely engage with men on GN, I took exception to a couple of men who were very crude and misogynistic.

I feel it is most unusual for a man to join a predominantly female space.
If for example my husband said he wanted to become part of the GN community I would be very against him joining. .

I realise there could be many men on here that we assume to be women but would you post more freely or discuss more intimate matters if this were a female forum only?

Do you think men should have their own site?

StarDreamer Thu 25-Aug-22 16:12:40

Doodledog

StarDreamer, I hope you know that I was not accusing you of anything- I was trying to work out what was going on.

Thank you for clarifying.

I was a little hurt that you used the word 'dictate'.

It just seemed to me that one should be able to enjoy a virtual cruise about culture without being required to go along with mainstream society's brainwashing of people from childhood about murdering living creatures in a place of beating down.

FannyCornforth Thu 25-Aug-22 16:16:54

Please don’t start SD!
And I mean that with that with very best intentions smile
Let’s please try to get on. Sometimes you just have to let it go

StarDreamer Thu 25-Aug-22 16:18:29

Alright, I'll ask GNHQ to delete the post.

FannyCornforth Thu 25-Aug-22 16:19:16

PS And it’s actually against Talk Guidelines to carry over things from past threads.
You have been treated very leniently in this regard.
I have had my account suspended for less

FannyCornforth Thu 25-Aug-22 16:20:14

StarDreamer

Alright, I'll ask GNHQ to delete the post.

Good, thank you.
Thank you very much indeed smile

StarDreamer Thu 25-Aug-22 16:21:09

Doodledog

StarDreamer, I hope you know that I was not accusing you of anything- I was trying to work out what was going on.

Thank you for clarifying.

FannyCornforth Thu 25-Aug-22 16:21:34

I will ask for mine to be removed too, and then it will be done with

Callistemon21 Thu 25-Aug-22 16:23:23

FannyCornforth

kittylester

But, lily, the only answers I get are automated.

Same here.

Including last week, I accidentally posted a photo of something of mine that was confidential.

I reported it at least twice.

I reported several of the pms alerting me to it.

At least four other posters reported it.

In the end I emailed Mumsnet, and it still took over three hours for it to be taken down.

There is also Spam that I reported well over a week ago still standing.

Me too.

I related a family anecdote on here a while ago then decided I wasn't happy about it. GNHQ completely ignored five or six requests to remove the post at my request, in the latter requests I was begging in desperation to have it deleted but no. It remained.

Callistemon21 Thu 25-Aug-22 16:25:39

My post's still there, LilyGransnet!

FannyCornforth Thu 25-Aug-22 16:27:16

Calli, isn’t that shocking.
LilyGN, you can’t really encourage us to ‘chat’ with HQ, when this is happening.

Lucca Thu 25-Aug-22 16:43:38

FannyCornforth

Please don’t start SD!
And I mean that with that with very best intentions smile
Let’s please try to get on. Sometimes you just have to let it go

Agree. Leave it be. It was precisely two posts about a Venetian specialty.

This is about men needing their own separate forum. IMO they don’t!

StarDreamer Thu 25-Aug-22 17:00:02

But is this thread about men needing their own separate forum, or is it about excluding men from this forum?

> I feel it is most unusual for a man to join a predominantly female space.
If for example my husband said he wanted to become part of the GN community I would be very against him joining. .

> I realise there could be many men on here that we assume to be women but would you post more freely or discuss more intimate matters if this were a female forum only?

Even if men were not allowed to post here, this website is open access for reading on the web.

Lucca Thu 25-Aug-22 17:03:35

I read it as “do they need their own forum “ to be honest

AGAA4 Thu 25-Aug-22 17:18:15

Most of the posts welcome men to GN.

Callistemon21 Thu 25-Aug-22 17:21:44

Lucca

FannyCornforth

Please don’t start SD!
And I mean that with that with very best intentions smile
Let’s please try to get on. Sometimes you just have to let it go

Agree. Leave it be. It was precisely two posts about a Venetian specialty.

This is about men needing their own separate forum. IMO they don’t!

Well, I did agree with you but I'm beginning to wonder ?

FannyCornforth Thu 25-Aug-22 17:23:19

As said by Galaxy and others, there really isn’t a gap in the market for a Mens chat site similar to MN or GN
If there was, it would have been exploited years ago.

MarleneOnTheWall Thu 25-Aug-22 17:25:54

The question I have is this. What do men find attractive and interesting about what they read on Gransnet? I wonder if a man could answer that please.

The name Gransnet is female. The logo is female. Almost all the ex-forum content is geared towards women. I can see one photo which appears to be of man a doing up his jeans next to a heading Menopause Weight Gain! I don’t see any specifically male products advertised. All the style and beauty advice is for women.

So men. What is it that you like about Gransnet specifically?

MissAdventure Thu 25-Aug-22 17:28:53

I expect it's the friendly ambience, at a guess.

Angela73 Thu 25-Aug-22 17:32:10

Or the sarcasm

MissAdventure Thu 25-Aug-22 17:35:29

Possibly.
There is message from gnhq stating that the site is for old, young, female and male, though, so that is explanation enough as to why a man may choose to use the site.

grumppa Thu 25-Aug-22 17:36:17

What an interesting thread!

First, I really am a male, and DW is another Gransnetter in her own right. I suspect DDs may dip into Mumsnet. I really cannot remember how or when I was introduced to Gransnet, but it was some years ago, and I have always found the range of topics interesting, from politics to grandparenting to AIBU to the more frivolous threads. The ones about sex and gender I have found particularly informative, as it is not a topic to which I had previously given much thought.

I feel no need for a male equivalent, even when some Gransnetters are up in arms about the patriarchy. I just duck!

Callistemon21 Thu 25-Aug-22 17:37:21

There is message from gnhq stating that the site is for old, young

OMG! Does that mean we're in danger of being invaded by our grandchildren? ?

MissAdventure Thu 25-Aug-22 17:38:30

grin
I'd object to that!

Callistemon21 Thu 25-Aug-22 17:39:00

Hello grumppa

Hoping you would pop up with a sensible post! ?

Kandinsky Thu 25-Aug-22 17:41:04

What do men find attractive and interesting about what they read on Gransnet?

Maybe they think it’s like being in ‘last of the summer wine’?