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Bare feet - fine or yuk?

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vickymeldrew Wed 14-Dec-22 09:44:34

Just that really. If you visit your friends do they sometimes have bare feet when entertaining and, if so, would you rather they didn’t?

Baggs Fri 16-Dec-22 11:50:04

I was checking whether I need to ‘man up’ !

I think it would be a good idea if only for your own comfort, vm! Good luck with that!

Hetty58 Fri 16-Dec-22 11:54:51

I find it really odd - this funny thing about feet. Does anyone object to bare hands? When younger, I was always barefoot indoors, sometimes outdoors too. These days, they get chilly - so I tend to cover them up. I'll be in sandals or Crocs in the summer though.

MissAdventure Fri 16-Dec-22 11:57:24

I quite like feet.
Old, young, straight toes, bent ones.

None of it bothers me at all.

Alioop Fri 16-Dec-22 11:57:44

I worked in a shoe shop and now I can't stand feet. The sights I saw, never mind the smell, oh it makes me shudder even now. I wear flip flops in the summer when I'm on my own, but when I've visitors I change into my slippers. It's so cold at the minute I've really thick socks on and my furry slippers, my toe nails are still painted though.

Treetops05 Fri 16-Dec-22 12:03:30

I don't mind bare feet, as long as people don't 'fiddle' with them when sitting down

Gabrielle56 Fri 16-Dec-22 12:03:42

One Christmas one of the DS girlfrinds turned up in massive boots and she took them off to reveal -BARE FEET! she had no socks either, we had bare wooden floors at the time with a big area rug, so I gave her a brand new pack of Pop socks ( I used to use for work when suited in trousers) and she cheerily said "oh no , you're alright I'm okay" blimey! I'm afraid I had to press her to wear them as her freezing purple edged tootsies were not a pretty sight and the marks she left on the wood were less than wanted! How can some peeps be so insensitive to manners in others'homes?

Gabrielle56 Fri 16-Dec-22 12:06:26

A friend once came for a coffee and we sat in living room where she kicked off her shoes and put her feet up on my chair!! Wha?? Anothe DS GF used to sit cross legged on y brand new suite, straining it at the seams! No matter how I hinted she carried on! One day I told her politely not to put feet on couch- I was met with a glare and a" ooh er...touchy!" Comment. Did I slap her silly? Nope I smirked then went and literally bit my pillow!!!!!!

Hetty58 Fri 16-Dec-22 12:22:45

Are bare feet bad manners then? It's the first I've heard of it. (Yes, I do know not to put my feet up on the furniture.) Unhygienic? I really like people to remove their shoes - as God knows what they've been walking through outside. I don't insist though - as (unlike the previous comments) I do have good manners, I believe.

Mimi54 Fri 16-Dec-22 12:33:55

I am either barefoot or wearing woolly socks when at home as I don’t like slippers. We have light coloured carpets so I do expect visitors to take their shoes off and not tread dirt into my house. However if they don’t automatically take them off I don’t ask them to but I’m not bothered by others bare feet. Mind you I don’t think mens hairy feet are that attractive!

SparklyGrandma Fri 16-Dec-22 12:37:10

When I was smaller, we were barefooted all day - only putting on shoes to go to school or church. I go barefoot in the summer - the feeling of grass beneath my feet is gorgeous .

rowyn Fri 16-Dec-22 14:09:32

NotGran, I.m pleased for you that you have no bunions, but your assumption that it's because you went barefoot in the house or wore Dr Scholls is not the reason.
I did both of those things , but have horrible bunions. It's all down to your genes. You have been lucky whereas your sister got lumbered!

TerriBull Fri 16-Dec-22 15:01:49

I hadn't really thought about it, like many here have already stated, I'm pretty barefoot most of the summer usually wearing some sort of slider and as the name suggests often slide out of them altogether, probably not at someone's else's house maybe. Having said that some people's feet aren't terribly attractive, but I guess like other parts of the body that's all in the eyes of the beholders!

I often had the dilemma when we lived in our previous house, we had a living room on the first floor, when my kids were in their teens they'd tell their friends to take their trainers off in the downstairs hall, it was very much a case of what was the least offensive, the smell of odorous un clad boy feet or a bit of mud on the stair carpet, often the latter seemed the best option shock

Speldnan Fri 16-Dec-22 15:43:43

Flip flops all summer inside and out and even indoors in the winter. Slippers are dangerous and an aberration imho- nothing says ‘old person’ like shuffling round the house in a pair of slippers especially if with Velcro 😆
Ps I’m 72 and my mother is 95 and also wears Birkenstocks in the summer and also indoors in the winter. We do both have reasonable feet though luckily

Quokka Fri 16-Dec-22 15:49:45

No problem with bare feet, my own or other people’s. I don’t paint my finger nails - what’s the point it chips/wears off too easily? - but love a pedicure and colourful toe nails.

IrishDancing Fri 16-Dec-22 15:51:31

I like four pairs of feet - DS, DD, DGS and DGD. Mine are ok, I don’t think they’d put anybody off their meal but I wouldn’t assume other people thought the same. Some of the bare feet we see in summer are hideous but I just avert my eyes. As for going to the shops in bare feet - yuck - I wouldn’t walk on pavements/shops trodden on by who knows what.

GrammaH Fri 16-Dec-22 15:52:00

I'm often barefoot so I have no problem with others being so. I also don't have any hang ups about people putting their feet up on a chair, sofa, pouffe or whatever - in fact, I often suggest it as I love seeing guests happy & relaxed in my home.

GrauntyHelen Fri 16-Dec-22 15:55:20

I'm barefoot all the time at home as recommy by my stroke physio Of guests don't like it they know where the door is

timetogo2016 Fri 16-Dec-22 16:04:10

Bare feet make me heave,as do ears.

Plunger Fri 16-Dec-22 16:13:20

I am really fortunate to have great feet in my 70s. I have actually been complimented on them a number of times. Less fortunate are our next door neighbours' feet. Both are disgusting needing tin snips to trim their yellow horn like nails and one insists on wearing flip flops virtually all year. Yuk!

tictacnana Fri 16-Dec-22 16:37:38

I don’t mind other people’s feet. I can’t walk bare footed as I have a drop foot or what the Greeks call a fish foot that makes walking on a flat surface, bare footed, almost impossible. Besides that my drop foot looks like something from another planet so I wouldn’t inflict the sight of it on others. ( My other foot is very pretty).

Mcbab Fri 16-Dec-22 17:18:30

As a sufferer from plantar fasciitis bare feet are a no no. If I was expecting dinner guests I would certainly wear something on my feet !

Fleurpepper Fri 16-Dec-22 17:29:11

Just depends on the feet, really.

I love being barefoot. My feet have not changed, are in excellent condition, nails well kept, - so I do not feel embarrassed about them. If skin is dry and broken, nails in a state, etc, then I believe it is best to cover up in public and would expect anyone to do so, even in their own home when having visitors.

knspol Fri 16-Dec-22 17:59:56

Another one here with ugly feet, huge bunions on each foot. I do wear flip flop type sandals in summer with bare feet but I search for a type that cover the bunions and they're usually very difficult to find. Always dread going into other people's houses and having to take off my shoes.

varian Fri 16-Dec-22 18:08:45

Sago

Ah, the Meghan story, she proudly announced that when she first met the then Duke and Duchess of Cambridge she greeted the in bare feet and ripped jeans.
Bare feet and bare chests should only be seen by a pool or a beach.

Both the bare feet and the ripped jeans sent a deliberate message.

Bare feet might say "I'm a very casual relaxed , hippy type" which is slightly weird in the context of meeting future in-laws.

Ripped jeans are a hideous affectation - it denotes a total phony - a rich person trying to pretend to be a poor person, so very badly judged.

Ellie Anne Fri 16-Dec-22 18:23:02

I don’t like feet. Can cope with little children’s but that’s all. My friend has a visitor who takes off her shoes so that the dog can lick her feet. . I would throw her out! YUK