Unflattering photo of me on Facebook

A while ago someone posted a photo of a group I am in and unfortunately caught me with my back to the camera bending down. The size of my backside looked phenomenal. But then, that is the reality I’m afraid to say!

I have a "friend" who will use the worst photo of me to upload onto Facebook. She'll take the worst angle or zoom in on my wrinkles..its kinda passive aggressive in my book. I belive she only does it because it gives her a kick or she is a dick...one of the two!!! I don't post on FB but if I do, I wouldn't dream of putting anything out there m
That might embarrass or make anyone feel uncomfortable .. why would you?

Surely she should have told you it was going on Facebook.? If not she's out of order. I would ask for it to be taken down if you never gave her permission !!.

Oh, I also hate photos of me. I’m just not photogenic. I always look odd. It’s not how I think I look.
But people may not think you look awful. Not sure it can be taken down, but it’s worth asking.

I've never bothered too much about whether pictures of me are flattering or otherwise, but then I'm a bloke. Perhaps the way to deal with it, if you REALLY can't let it go, is to take loads of pictures yourself of everybody there. There's bound to be at least one or two really dreadful ones with which you can threaten the guilty by sending them to them and telling them they have two days to take the ones of you down or these are going up too

Did your colleague ask if she could post the photo on FB. No-one can post a photo of anyone without permission, so in future ensure you stay out of photos or tell friends you do not want to be on FB or anywhere else.
Having said that as already said it is a bit late now and only you will think like that,no one else will notice what you look like as they are too busy looking at themselves. The photo may however pop up next year and the year after as that is what happens on FB (Memories) so if it really worries you that much just ask her kindly to remove it. You could say you know you are being silly but prefer it not be to on there. Don't have to give any further reason. (I am sure you look just lovely anyway) If you look good in the mirror you must be lovely because the mirror is very unkind to most of us at it reflects everything, I have a lot of scars and look just awful in the m
irror and to me on photos, but everyone says I take a lovely photo!!

I quit FB about seven years ago, not because of pictures but what was starting to transpire on social media - hacking, misinformation, unsavory comments, idiotic attention seekers… it’s not just about how many “likes” or friends you can grab. For some it can have an unsettling effect, as you well experienced.

Best move ever!!!
Cheers
USA Gundy

Thanks again, everyone. Really helpful replies. I don’t know the rules (if indeed there are any) about posting photos of other people on Facebook, but I shall be more cautious in future and ask, should a camera be pointed at me, “will you be posting this photo(s) on Facebook? If so, leave me out of the photo thanks”. I just think that these photos are taken, at an event, and posted without another thought by anyone who cares to do so. I don’t like it, it’s an imposition, to me at least. I’m a private person and I don’t want to appear on Facebook! Especially as I’m not photogenic. I certainly don’t want to stop going out to events, I’m a sociable, friendly person, but I just want to chat to people on the night, and leave it at that - no unflattering photos on FB thank you! It’s my Achilles heel, having my photo taken. I can’t seem to smile naturally and appear “odd” on photos.

Join the club. Know just how you feel. The first time I saw myself in a really unflattering photo I thought well the only option was to be extra nice so perhaps others will ignore the ugly old woman I now am.