Unflattering photo of me on Facebook

I think most people think they look dreadful on photos - I know I do, but the thing to remember is that other people don't think we look dreadful.

They think they do, and that we look nice.

So try not to let this photo worry you and spoil your recollection of a nice reunion with old colleagues and don't look at the photo again.

So you don’t take a good photo and you know that. Lots of people don’t. I don’t, especially if it’s posed. You could ask your friend to take the photo down if it’s so important to you. Perhaps you’re a little too self-obsessed? Nobody’s likely to give it a second thought.

There won't be much point in asking for it to be taken down now as other people at the event could also have saved it.

I do understand how bothered you are but it is already yesterday's news.

Some people may think that you do not look good in that photo but that is as bad as it gets, you have probably seen photos where you think someone has not looked their best but doubt you have told them so it doesn’t hurt anyone.

This reminds me of the afternoon party I went to for my granddaughters 18th birthday a few years back. Im only too aware I should loose weight but seeing the back of myself in some of the photoes that came through on the internet made me realise that from the back I look twice the size I think I am!! Note the word think….
And in my efforts to avoid the camera when this very enthusiastic person was clicking away, I look like I’m on the run and anxious not to be seen!! When I said to my son how dreadful I looked in these photoes he replied’ oh I thought they were rather good of you’.

I know what you mean! I take a horrible photo too - nothing like what I see in the mirror. It’s something to do with facial symmetry?

There used to be a colleague in work who looked dreadful most of the time - sorry! - but always looked wonderful in photographs. Could never work that out!

I would ask your colleague to take it down explaining how upset it makes you feel.

I feel the same about photographs of me honeyrose and always say I don't want any posted on face book. Don't worry about this one but in future, make it known that you don't want any of you putting on social media.

I am the same as the OP and hate having my photo taken. Mainly because I am overweight and I am self conscious

We have friends who post of Facebook constantly. In the past they have posted photos with me and my DH on them. We asked them to stop. In fairness, they have done. They just post photos of themselves now.

I have a photogenic friend who always looks great on photos. She has quite a bit of peach fluff/down on her face. I think this creates a bit of a filter and makes her look better. I believe that Marilyn Munroe also had this peach fluff. She always looked great in photos.

I also have a magic mirror which I don't think I look too bad in. I don't mind my face full on but I hate my profile.

Having said all that Honeyrose I don't think anyone will be overanalysing the photos anyway. There will probably be new ones on in a few days and you will ancient history by then.

If it is really still bothering you, I would ask her to take it down.

Fortunately for me, my family very rarely post photos on FB, mainly because of the unwanted exposure of their young children.
What you’ve got to remember, the one posting, will choose a photo that shows the poster at his/her best. He/she wouldn’t care what the rest of the group looks like 😂

I suppose another way of looking at it is - if we really look in reality as bad as we do in photos then at least our friends have accepted us as we are. 🥴

Trouble is whether we like them or not if you weren’t alone in the photo they are posting for everyone not just you
You were asked to pose and that was the time to say “sorry I hate having my photo taken I ll miss this one out” but you willingly posed with a colleague so you really can’t complain if it went on social media
I m sure no one else noticed and it’s just you being self conscious
It’s not going to be around long so just forget it, it ll very soon be history, probably is already

Like Smileless and Poppyred I would ask extra politely to take it down if it's just the one, and ask ever so nicely not to put one with you up in future.

They sound like nice people who will hear you out. It's not OK imo to be exposed on social media if you are not comfortable with it. People seem to take for granted it is OK nowadays, but whyshould they, unless you are a public figure

Explain that you are sorry to ask but you feel so shy and embarrassed about being publicly exposed in this way is agonising for you, would they be so kind as...etc. Anyone thoughtful should respect this, we are not all the same.

Yes, soon in one way it will be history, but that photo is up forever unless it's taken down. I dont think it does any harm to think before posting groups online that people may have very mixed feelings about it, but we are supposed to all be "good sorts" and jolly along with it.

I was involved in a press photo local rag about a work initiative and had no choice, but the thing was, that was paper and long gone!

There are so many pics of me online I’d never be able to track them all down! Friends, family, professional and I think I look ghastly in most of them, but I don’t care. Other people don’t think I look ghastly, and I don’t look at photos of other people and think they look ghastly. I would honestly let it go.

Do ask your friend to take the photo down , explain how you feel about it. Having said that it really will soon be forgotten!

People are usually far too busy looking at their own photos and not liking them that I'm sure they will hardly notice yours.

And in any case we all know how people actually look.

At the very worst they might say it was an unflattering photo of you.

Just let it go if you can.

I don’t post photos on Facebook anymore . I post on instagram or WhatsApp groups where it’s only a small group can see it . I also think long and hard before posting anything.

I completely understand how you feel - I just point blank refuse to have my photo taken - so if it bothers you, I would ask nicely if the person would take it down. My family even joke that if I were to disappear, there would be no 'missing person' posters as they don't have any photos of me to use.

You sound like me Blondiescot and I'm not convinced that a picture from our wedding album would suffice .

I know a lot of people will post on Facebook without asking permission of those in the photo, especially of an event. I think we all need to assume now that everywhere we go we are in the public domain, and available for publication.

Not to diminish your feelings, I think most people will get enjoyment of seeing who was at an event, and not criticize how they look in a photo.

If there were a specially unflattering photo, perhaps with mouth open, or sitting at an unflattering angle, then please ask the person to take the photo down, but otherwise I think most will think nothing of it.

People shouldn't post photographs of anyone on social media without their permission CanadianGran.

I think it’s a waste of time asking for the photo to be taking down, I’m sure we have all had photos taken that we have thought oh dear not a good photo, I know I have, but I wouldn’t ask anyone to take it down, I would laugh at myself!

I think is respectful to assume that some people really get freaked out by it, and why should they tolerate it? If you ask this once, and say why, then it won't be a surprise if you politely don't join in future photos.

Some people can laugh it off, others, not. Like I said above, there's an assumption we are all jolly about it - but why? Is it fair to those who don't feel that way?

Of course, it depends on the life you lead and how much social contact is inevitable and bound to be recorded, but I wouldn't post a picture without permission of those in it. it doesn't cost too much to say (when you get the group together for the photo) "I'm going to post this on Facebook so anyone who wants to opt out is just fine"

If you are at a ‘do’ with lots of people attending you are sure to find yourself in at least one photo that goes online although it means a lot to you it won’t to anyone else who ll be busy looking for themself
Just make sure you never pose for a photo again ata do We ve all been there I m sure

I always try to squeeze in the back somehow in a group photo but I still manage to be making some weird face!
Please try not to worry about it. As others have said, it's already been forgotten.