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Manipulative sister part 2

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Nana56 Wed 12-Jul-23 17:25:19

Thank you all for your kind advice, it makes me feel that I'm not getting bitter.
Anyway she comes twice weekly for dinner.
Yesterday I cooked roast turkey leg,her favourite, potatoes, cabbage and broccoli. She won't eat, carrots,peas,beans. Anyway, she cleared her own plate away thinking I wouldn't notice most of it was left.
I feel really cross as I also looked after my granddaughter, and cleared up afterwards as husband had been at work.
I feel that next week I'll give her burgers and jacket potato. Sure its not her favourite but since most goes in the bin won't matter. Less washing up too.
Last week I cooked slow cook lasagne, no garlic as she doesn't eat garlic. Again in the bin.
Just wondering how anyone else would feel.
Thanks for reading

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ElaineI Sun 23-Jul-23 13:36:00

Can't you give her a child size helping or even toddler size. If she doesn't watch her diet is there any point in a kidney transplant? Haven't read other thread though.

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Nana56 Sun 23-Jul-23 18:53:57

Thanks for your input. I have started to tell her what i plan for dinner. If she doesn't fancy that I've suggested she bring something. Just I like your dinners. I'm starting to give her very small portion

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Fleurpepper Sun 23-Jul-23 19:11:32

Do you ever go to hers for dinner? Or why do you host her twice a week for dinner, without any 'return'?

I would say to her, in a very friendly manner - 'how about coming for coffee or a cuppa next week instead of dinner, as I have noticedyou don't enjoy the food I cook. Easier all round' and smile. See what happens.

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Germanshepherdsmum Mon 24-Jul-23 09:36:12

I don’t understand why you plate up her food. I always leave people to help themselves.

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pascal30 Mon 24-Jul-23 09:58:13

I don't understand why you feel the need to pander to her.Just cook what you like... she's an adult she can help herself or wait til she gets home to eat..

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NotSpaghetti Mon 24-Jul-23 10:08:36

I think the very small portion is a good idea if you want to "plate up" . You could invite her to look at what you're doing in the kitchen and say "is this enough - you can always have seconds"?
I do this for my mother-in-law who eats like a bird.

Yesterday she had a tiny portion and I gave her another tiny portion to take home for lunch/dinner today.

She likes not eating alone but no longer manages proper sized meals.

It's kind of you to be so considerate of her - in spite of everything.
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