Being ignored

I think you are a little bit overreacting to your gingerbread Whiff she was probably just trying to make a joke about it I d just give her one when you give them out she can throw it away if she wants or she can say no thanks can’t she?

Back to the original post 62granny I wouldn’t lose too much sleep over it whenever you are within a group there will always be someone who doesn’t fit with you it’s a shame they are making it so obvious I d just carry on as normal with everyone and not be too worried over it all

I think chatting about it to the nicer person you have coffee with is a good idea.
At least it will be off your chest and it may help resolve it.

Have you been the subject of gossip? People are always ready to think the worst of people without even knowing them. Others are only friendly with those they stand to gain from.

Are they truly worthy of your friendship? Save yourself for those who appreciate you.

I go to a couple of pilates sessions with the same teacher. On is a collection of people from a fairly wide area who don't know each other and it's taken a few months for us to have a chat before and after the session. The other is at a village hall, most of those attending live in or near the village and know each other, I live quite a long way from the village and don't know any of them and it's taken a while for people to acknowledge me as they immediately settle next to someone they know and start chatting. I don't feel left out or ignored as I am there for the pilates but at least most smile and say hello now, but not everyone! Just enjoy your exercise class and smile!

BlueBelle she was serious when she said it. Her face never changed.

The only thing I have over reacted about when I got home a few weeks ago when I took my gloves off and my wedding ring wasn't on my finger. I panicked my husband died in 2004 aged 47. I have lost 7st between 2017 and 2021. My ring was loose normally I wear a ring tightener but forgot to put it on. I had been to my regular cafe so phoned there in tears they had found it and knew it was mine. My daughter had told me to put it on a chain as I didn't want it resized but left as my husband put it on my finger . After that scare it's safely on a chain I wear daily.

I am not the sort of person who overreacts to things. And takes things in my stride. Had to the things that have happened to me in my 65 years.

I would carry on as normal, be friends with those that are with you, not go over the top and ignore her antics.
Calling someone out can go two ways, they either see the error of their ways and change or a certain type will turn it into an argument or talk loudly so you are shown up in front of all the others then you could possibly be perceived as the troublemaker. I've seen this at work with new colleagues.

I don't think the replies given now will help with the feeling of being ignored as this post is from October.

BlueBelle she was serious when she said it. Her face never changed.

Whiff if someone had said something like that about your gingerbread to my Mum, she would have replied, "Oh well, all the more for the rest of us then" 😋
Try not to take it to heart xx

I found the same when I joined a Friendship group a couple of years after my husband died. I found they all had their own little clique and when we went out on day coach trips in the summer they were always saving seats for their friends.

I thought a Friendship group was supposed to include everyone but apparently not.

I gave it 12 months and left.

GrannyGrunter

I found the same when I joined a Friendship group a couple of years after my husband died. I found they all had their own little clique and when we went out on day coach trips in the summer they were always saving seats for their friends.

I thought a Friendship group was supposed to include everyone but apparently not.

I gave it 12 months and left.

I did the same with the U3A where I live. I didn't even give the group 12 months. I was passed from one person to another until one finally told me with reluctance that they had home groups as the group had gotten too big, it was Geaniology and I was to go to an address in the next village. When I phoned to say I would not be it was on the answer phone. They did not realise from my accent that my gggrandmother had run the post office in the house next door!!!!!!

I tried one of these exercise groups last week 2 of the ladies asked me to stay for coffee afterwards. There were only 2 men and no one spoke to them.