Partner refuses to speak to my 8 year old grandson

M0nica

'She only does it to annoy because she knows it teases' (with apologies to Lewis Carroll)

Curtaintwitcher, that is.

I am not actually in favour of a like button but I would use it for this. 👍

sandra13

Tin Soldier

I am a British citizen so immigration is not an issue for me.

That makes it easier but do be careful about tax implications if you will be spending more than six months a year in the UK.

Also consider whether there are any healthcare implications. British citizenship does not confer an automatic right to free NHS healthcare although the country in which you have your home may have a reciprocal arrangement with the UK.

I am not being nosey or probing as someone has suggested. A lot of people here are urging you to leave this man. I’m just flagging up some things that you might care to think about were you to weigh up the pros and cons of continuing this relationship.

Think carefully about carrying on this relationship take back the control and consider what is best for you

This is actually a true story.

His take on my reaction is that I’ve “made a major thing out of a hiccup”.

What are you going to do now, sandra13?

Maybe we can turn that round and say he has made a huge problem out of a tiny tiny one

Don’t you see Sandra that this all part of his personality …turn it round and blame the other

A woman is punched and the old sentence comes out ‘why did you make me do that’
(Of course it could be a man hit but in ‘my’ experience its more often a woman)

I return to the UK tomorrow. I will have a very frank conversation with him. I’m not hopeful that he’ll hear what I have to say though. I’m very sad.

I wish you well. Look after yourself.

Rekindling an old relationship is fraught with obstacles Sandra .
It can work if you are both determined to make it and I know 2 couples who have achieved this though one of the individuals has since died
It sounds as though your OH wants you all to himself and is keener than you are.
Keep him at arm's length is my advice. Keep your own home. Don't lose your independence. Your family is too precious.

Germanshepherdsmum

I wish you well. Look after yourself.

... me too.

Keep a level head sandra13.

OMG! My very first thought is why on earth are you with him! Sorry xx

Hope you work things out x

Curtaintwitcher

I have a totally different opinion from everyone else here. It sounds as though your grandson is spoiled, hasn't been taught any manners or respect. It is not ok to interrupt someone while they are talking on the phone, unless there is an emergency.

There is this assumption that a new partner must also take on the rest of the family. I don't agree. We all have different standards and your new partner seems to have higher standards than you. Find someone who is as lax on manners as you are.

Dear me!! It might not be ok but children have to learn; will make mistakes just like adults!! Noone is perfect!

And if this bloke is still sulking and refusing to speak to an 8 year old CHILD who made a mistake then it is the adult who is at fault and who is the one who needs to GROW UP! And he is NOT showing love and care for his partner either!!!

Take care sandra and good luck.

Frankly rude and unhelpful response!

Really, guess I too must be lax in the manners department!

Some people eh!

Curtaintwitcher

Above post is aimed at you, and no one else

sandra13

I return to the UK tomorrow. I will have a very frank conversation with him. I’m not hopeful that he’ll hear what I have to say though. I’m very sad.

He has no relationship with his own granddaughters (8 and 10) and blames his daughter, but I think he is the problem. His biggest concern with his GDs is that they are doted on my their mother.
That really does ring alarm bells.
I know the term narcissism is bandied around these days too freely but it might be that he has jealous narcissistic tendencies.

Chin up, you have your family whom you love and who love you, including your chatty little grandson.

That man does not deserve you.

sandra13

I return to the UK tomorrow. I will have a very frank conversation with him. I’m not hopeful that he’ll hear what I have to say though. I’m very sad.

What's the betting it will be all your fault!

But in fact, it isn't.

He sounds a real old misery.
It is a shame though, if you're very fond of him, but honestly, who wants to be told what to do?

MissAdventure

He sounds a real old misery.
It is a shame though, if you're very fond of him, but honestly, who wants to be told what to do?

Hello MissA!!
So excited to see you 😃

I have the most annoying GS possible. He never stops talking. drives me crazy at times. But if anyone ANYONE criticised him
like this man is doing it would be the selfish narcissist getting the silent treatment from me - for ever.

Blimey.
Excited?
Lovely to see you, too

MissAdventure

Blimey.
Excited?
Lovely to see you, too

😂😂😂
Well, it's been a while

It has.
A year?
Something like that

Well, it's good to see you back again.

Miss Adventure another person glad to see you back. You helped me so much talking about your fight to get disability benefits. I finally got PIP last year after going to tribunal and enhanced for both indefinitely. Thank you inspired me to fight only took me 35 years but at least I won in the end.

Hope you are doing well .