Would you tell someone they smelled

Maybe she needs incontinence pads. I've no idea how you would approach it. Unless in general terms saying most elderly people need them.

There is a condition called bromhidrosis that makes people's sweat smell particularly offensive. Its been described as boiled cabbage, sewage, and other such things, maybe she has developed this condition?

SallyatBaytree

Urine,bad breath and perspiration smells on others all make me wretch .
Something no-one has mentioned here is tobacco smell which lingers on skin,clothes and furniture..revolting!!!!

Agreed they are all sickening, but so are cooking smells. I knew a young man whose mother cooked a roast dinner quite often apparently. It must have permeated their house because when he visited our house you could smell stale roast dinner all through our hallway just from his coat hanging there!

I always remembered that and would change clothes after cooking if I was going somewhere special afterwards.

The other thing to remember is that clean hair picks up smells like you wouldn't believe. Swish your hair back and forth and you can smell nasties sometimes after being out. Especially smoke of course.

FYI :Spitting in the street is STILL a criminal offence!!!

Try "can I ask you something xxx?" (nobody says no!). Then "I don't know if anybody has mentioned but I've noticed that sometimes you don't smell very fresh' and then be guided by her response. As a friend, you owe it to her to promote her dignity. If it was me that smelt I would 100% want a friend to tell me even if it was an awkward/uncomfortable conversation. I've needed to tell employees before and they always appreciated it. Good luck OP.

I encouraged a close friend to work in the same library as me; six weeks fast forward and I was “deputised” to tell her about her personal cleanliness. I did it kindly- I thought - but that was the end of the friendship. I think the note idea is brilliant. No-one has to be embarrassed. Or, like others have said, pretend you are worried about your own leaks. Tough call.

To answer the OP
Only if I didn’t care if I ever saw or heard from them again.

Some foods produce a stronger urine smell. Especially fish. I might raise the topic by asking her if you have that problem and don't want to offend anyone. It was brought to my attention that way even though I was aware, I didn't think others were. Its just nature!

No, I wouldn't.

I hope your problem is now resolved 2Understand.
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Marydoll

Is your friend by any chance taking a particular medication, that can cause it?

I once had a pair of favourite shoes, which I hadn't realised, that in hot weather made my feet rather smelly.
I was going into classes round the school, when one colleague apologised for the smell in her class, mentioning a particular child. I realised it was my feet!

I said nothing, hurriedly rushed off and those shoes went straight into the bin, replaced by an old pair in my room! I was mortified.

Shoes!!!

Happened to me. One hot summer in the 1990's, the place I worked hired portacabins whilst the main building was being refit, they were all over the carpark! Well, summer, got me some REALLY COMFY shoes! I can honestly say they were comfy! I'm one of those who has to break in footwear over several weeks, these I didnt. They were a cross between canvas and blocky soles but nice shoes!

Went well with trousers!

Hot weather, think no tights or socks!

To be honest I could smell something around my desk but due to the effluent tanks (it was a production site) I put it down to that!

One particular day, we had a Director walk in, "What is that smell?" He asked everyone. We all looked feigning ignorance as we all thought it was the effluent tanks. It was only when I moved my feet, the smell hit me again and I tried not to laugh !

I made sure I was the last to leave the office and those beloved shoes never graced my feet again!

Yet I showered EVERY day.

After that wore sandals or boots and never had any issues. Fortunately, the effluent tanks still came up with smells so no-one was none the wiser.

Re smells:
The town I live in, has a BioDigester plant, "it won't smell" we were told! It stinks, that and the Refuse/Recycling Centre, especially in the heat! When the wind blows, it really comes up the way I live! They've built homes within spitting distance of both of them, £350,000 start price! The smell surely would permeate those homes and contents? Making them have a pong? People who smoke, they smell (one of my BIL's smokes, clean EVERY day, but you can smell he smokes!)