Why are people so spiteful?

Can’t stand this kind of thing and sometimes seen it among nurses I have worked with . It never affected me but I didn’t often go along to the clique things . Have seen people in tears for being excluded and one time worked with a couple of groups who really hated each other . A relief when one group gradually left . There was a near fisticuffs thing with one nurse stomping off the ward when she should have been working . Fortunately I wasn’t there when it happened . They were disciplined and one it was gross disciplinary behaviour. I often felt like piggy in the middle as they were all younger than me . Surely his group is mature in age ? I keep out of this kind of thing but it isn’t nice and hurtful for the poor excluded lady when she eventually finds out - because she will. Good luck ! 🍀

Oh Astitchintime, In my experience groups of men are far less problematic than groups of women. As a young woman gardener I worked with groups of male landscapers, who were kind, funny & considerate. It was only during a spell of working in a plant nursery that I suffered from the pure, mean spite of female co-workers. Men (generally) are far less complicated than a lot of neurotic women; sad to say. 😕

It reminds me of 'prisoner, call block H' with queen Bea.
I'm sure it's a leftover response from a time when being the Alpha of the group meant first dibs on everything.

Interesting theory MissAdventure. I always considered that some people are just intrinsically greedy & self-serving whilst others are altruistic, but, yes, in exceptional, dire, exteme circumstances, life or death, type of thing, who knows how we would all actually behave? 🤔

That's the interesting thing about watching the sort of reality programmes where people are dumped somewhere with others.

They automatically, unconsciously (sometimes) start sorting out their role in the group.

Some will use any tactic to ensure they are top dog.

OldFrill

M0nica

Becasue that is how some people are. nature? nurture? life experience? No idea. They just are.

Because it goes unchallenged. Some ego decides to rule the roost and others follow.
I'd call it out publicly on the group, asking if members are aware one has been left out and how would they feel if it was them. They'll probably delete you or start yet another group but one or two may stand with you.

Yes, I agree with this action too.

Ilovedogs22

Oh Astitchintime, In my experience groups of men are far less problematic than groups of women. As a young woman gardener I worked with groups of male landscapers, who were kind, funny & considerate. It was only during a spell of working in a plant nursery that I suffered from the pure, mean spite of female co-workers. Men (generally) are far less complicated than a lot of neurotic women; sad to say. 😕

Have to agree.

I'd be out of there. How do you know there's not a group that has excluded you?

I think I would post on the group “I see Jenny’s not here, is she ok or is there a problem, I thought she would love this group” then see what’s said. If others say “we don’t want/like Jenny then decide if you want to carry on with that group or just do the crafting.

Is it possible to carry on with the crafting but not join the new group?

Maybe point out the group is about crafting and not a personality contest

I once left a group with the parting Groucho Marx quote " I refuse to join any club that would have the likes of me as a member "😂

I like your style Grandadpete. 😅