When you got married did you save escape money ?

My maternal Granny’s advice to me was never just have a joint bank account, always keep one of your own, the same with credit cards.

Along with always have a slush fund, you never know when or if you will need it, but everyone should have one

DH laughed about my slush fund but has never asked how much it is, I have absolutely no idea how much he has in his either.

No I didn't have escape money and thankfully have never wished I had.

I always had a 'running away' fund after reading a Nancy Mitford book which mentioned one. Also I've always had separate bank accounts from my DH.
I haven't run away yet but, just in case...

I have always had my own money. Fortunately I have never felt the need to escape.m
However, I would advise all women to have some money of their own, whether to escape or just enjoy being independent.

Never considered an escape fund, nor wished to escape in over 60 years.

Gosh no never thought about it. We had a joint account from the beginning. When we had a bit of money we put it all in my name for tax reasons.

I didn’t have, or need, an escape fund, but I always had my own bank account and savings.

Wished I d have had one never dreamed I d have needed it never anything said to me about one every one before me had had solid marriages 🙄

No, never had or needed an ‘escape’ fund, fortunately.

I’ve always been in charge of our money as such, but it’s something we have never argued about. Other things maybe, but we have always been in agreement over how our joint money is spent and saved.

Many years ago, I used to go into our local building society to pay the monthly mortgage and check our savings account.

I said to the girls behind the counter, “If ever my DH comes in on his own and asks to withdraw money, you’ll know we have split up, as nothing else would induce him to cross the threshold!”

It would never have occurred to me to have running away money! Keeping a thing like that from him would have felt like a betrayal. It wasn’t all plain sailing - what marriage is? But luckily nothing was ever so bad that we couldn’t manage to work things out. We never had “my money and your money” even when we were both working.

Yes I did. I had my local building society account before I married which I kept afterwards and I had a Nat west account after I married as I paid the mortgage which incidentally was in my husbands name !
Over the years I saved little by little in both accounts and this came in very handy when my husband went into a nursing home as without it he wouldn’t have been able to have had the little extras he enjoyed.
Yes I did jokingly refer to my savings as my running away fund and I honestly do think every wife should have a nest egg, you never know when you might need it.

I didn’t have an escape fund. It never occurred to me that I’d need one, and I didn’t. I did realise though, that by only having a joint account, our birthday presents to each other would be from ‘us’ and not from me to him, or him to me. So we each opened a private bank account. Silly really, because the money that was put in those came from the joint account anyway!

I was horrified when I heard of this - I thought it was a purely American notion. Why would you try to make a marriage work, if you knew you could just walk out?

I have always tried to have money in hand (or the bank) for unforeseen expenses, which can be hard on a low income, of if you have a husband who is less responsible with money than you are - and what woman does not have a husband of that description?

Looks like those of us with running away funds did manage to 'hold on to our marriages' as though that's a hard task!

Not a running away fund but my granny told me to keep a little stash ‘just in case’
When we were young I didn’t have enough left over to keep hidden so it’s lucky I never had a need for one!
I always disliked it when the only money coming in was ‘his’ not that we didn’t share but I was happier when I contributed too.

Nope. Went into marriage with complete trust and was wonderfully rewarded.

I think that if I had a running away fund I would probably have used it but I’m glad I didn’t because we have been married over 50 years and happy. You have to work at living with someone all those years because people change.

No, it never occurred to me, and thankfully I’ve never had cause to wish I had ‘running away’ money!

A friend’s dh used to refer to his ‘f*ck off’ money, i.e. enough so that if he really hated a job, he could afford to stick two fingers up and leave.

No, never thought of it.

However, I'd always had my own bank account and continued to do so.

Apart from this thread I have only come across a 'running away fund' once before. It was in the 1970's and I was having coffee with a friend. She told me she put money away every month and that was her running away money. This revelation really surprised me as she and her husband seemed to have a happy marriage.
We lost touch over the years and this thread has me wondering if my old friend ever needed to use the money.

No but I should have done!

I don't think it's any reflection on the quality of someone's marriage.
It's a rainy day fund, just the same as a lot of people have.

I did once keep some money back and put it in a tampax box in a plastic bag in the toilet cistern …. He found it …….it went

I did have a savings account in which I put some of my very small earnings I didn’t realise it was ‘running away’ money until it was. I was very glad of it.