Paying family to clean

Yes

Yes

Yes

Yes if it was a genuine reason

Probably. Especially if it was extra clean the following week. Although I don't pay the girl who cuts my grass if she doesn't come. I hope she has insurance as she's self employed.
I bet her rich clients pay her.

Yes

I bet her rich clients don't. How do you think they got rich. I am assuming an entrepreneur or similar earning £250,000 min.

Yes.

Wow thank you so much for all your replies.
Sometimes I think it's me as I 100% would but my Mum pays my daughter to clean fortnightly ( pretty much minimum wage- 2 hours a session )
This week my daughter had a valid reason for not going and my Mum didn't pay her which i personally think is harsh as she is very financially secure and shes always telling me she has too much money and doesn't know what to do with it

M0nica

I bet her rich clients don't. How do you think they got rich. I am assuming an entrepreneur or similar earning £250,000 min.

I agree with this comment!

My advice is to make sure it doesn't become a pattern. Family business can be tricky but my son does gardening work and family pay him extra, but he doesn't take advantage.
If he turned up every week they would stop paying- likewise if he couldn't go he would just re-schedule.

Yes.

Maybe she just didn’t think about it. I can be thoughtless and then I’m mortified when the penny finally drops.
Is your Mum the sort of person you could talk to about it? After all, most employees are entitled to holiday pay. And DM might be pleased you raised it if she just hadn’t thought about it, she’s not a mind reader after all.

Yes.

justwokeup

Maybe she just didn’t think about it. I can be thoughtless and then I’m mortified when the penny finally drops.
Is your Mum the sort of person you could talk to about it? After all, most employees are entitled to holiday pay. And DM might be pleased you raised it if she just hadn’t thought about it, she’s not a mind reader after all.

100% she would have thought about it. Shes just VERY careful with money ( tight would cover it well )
Its something they started when my Dad was quite poorly and my Mum needed help.
It suited my Mum as she didn't have to have a stranger come in and she liked the fact it helped my daughter out too.
My daughter has always been emrrluable. Rescheduled if something came up and she couldn't go etc
Just hurts me that my Mum thinks like this as i'm nothing like that at all.

My arrangement with my cleaner is I pay her for the weeks she does. I can say I don’t need her one week and likewise at very short notice she can say she can’t come. It seems to work.
I am not at all surprised that your mum only wants to pay for the service she has had, the big problem is that it is family and I wonder if your mum half thinks she should help her for nothing

As a grandma I would and do, knowing my DGC will reschedule if they can’t do it e.g. the ground’s too wet to mow or they have sports commitments.
As a Mum I didn’t.
The pay was for the work and unless the reason came with a reschedule, then it meant I was doing the job and paying for someone doing it.
Having read all the yes above, maybe I should have done, but my DC were happy with the arrangement.

It's always awkward when you have a financial arrangement with a family member.
As long as the excuse is genuine - then yes of course .

Oh dear, I’m not surprised you’re hurt. It’s really difficult to change that mindset now but maybe you could talk to her about your daughter having a small number of paid ‘holidays’ off before it happens again. Particularly, as another poster pointed out, she will have more work to do next time. If DM disagrees it might give her something to think about that your daughter would want to look elsewhere for a job, with paid days off, if/as soon as she’s old enough.

Employing family isn’t easy, as long as they are making a reasonable effort to do the work, that’s fine.
Otherwise best they stop and find the cash elsewhere.

Absolutely yes

My garden helper bills me monthly for the hours she does. She doesn't include days she's not come so I don't pay.

Her parents are friends of mine. I think I pay quite a lot for the service I get as she's slow. However she is thorough and trustworthy and reliable. She has a qualification in horticulture so does know what to do.

I host volunteers who do big garden tasks which I wouldn't expect my girl to tackle.

Yes. But if it becomes a regular habit, maybe a conversation with her, to see if she has taken on more than she can cope with.

She has been cleaning for my Mum for about 4 years now and it has worked well. My Mum insisted that she pays her and my daughter has never let her down. Like I say it's a very informal arrangement she has a set day she goes but if for some reason it doesn't suit one of them then they just reschedule and it gets done another time.
My daughter had a very valid reason for not going this time so i'm just disappointed that my mum didn't pay her anyway.
She knows the reason behind her not going this time . I just wish she was a bit more thoughtful. X

My parents paid me to clean their bungalow when our children were young and I wasn’t working out of the home . Mum’s mobility and motor strength was compromised, Dad was working. I didn't expect to be paid if I wasn’t there, Mum never offered, if she had I’d have refused. We were both content. Different times maybe.