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new baby card advice

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supergirlsnan Mon 08-Dec-25 16:03:11

Hi,

A friend became a new gran on Saturday. She was widowed earlier this year. When I write out the Congrats card shall I mention her late husband? Anyone been in this position? Thanks all.

Nannan2 Tue 09-Dec-25 21:33:12

I am with Bluebelle& monica‐ giving cards to somone because theyve become new Grandparent(s) is not something i would have thought was a 'fashion', must be a new thing from the 'young uns' these days- i might expect the parents of the new baby to give the grandparent a card but i've never expected to receive a card from anyone else.

Nannan2 Tue 09-Dec-25 21:36:01

A card for the new parents & new baby yes but never heard of cards for new grandparents.The card industry is clearly cashing in on this.🙄

Romola Tue 09-Dec-25 21:47:01

If someone messaged me about a new grandchild, I would of course reply and say how glad I was for them. But I wouldn't congratulate them, nor would I send a card. It must be a new thing, but then my GC are young adults and I'm old.

Nannan2 Tue 09-Dec-25 21:49:31

Louisa- our age has nothing to do with it, nor ages of gc, i have quite a few ranged from 26yrs down to just 3yrs and im only 62.But ive seen these 'geandparent' cards on moonpig etc and still dont see why we, as a new grandparent, would need congratulating for it in an actual card- maybe face to face if we bumped into a close friend, but even then i'd expect them to perhaps be offering those congrats to my own adult child via me, for the new arrival- i.e. "tell your daughter congratulations from me', but i myself havent done anything to produce the gc so would expect only cards for the parents.

Nannan2 Tue 09-Dec-25 21:50:51

* grandparent cards😁

Nannan2 Tue 09-Dec-25 22:00:44

Seems the card companies will encourage us to buy more cards for allsorts these days..Keeps them in business..I'm not saying its not a nice thing to offer congrats face to face to a friend, a sort of congrats to the whole family on baby's safe arrival.But a gp doesnt really need a card for it.

Sadgrandma Tue 09-Dec-25 22:06:42

Why has this thread turned into a snipey argument over whether or not we should send cards? supergirlsnan just asked a simple question. I really don’t understand why people have to be so inflammatory.

knspol Tue 09-Dec-25 22:09:34

BlueBelle

Why do I need a point I was just joining in the conversation
But thank you for your concern

I've never heard of it either, waste of a stamp!

M0nica Wed 10-Dec-25 08:07:56

All people are doing is expressing surprise aat hearing about something they never knew anything about until this thread started. There is nothing snipey in that.