Did you think you were poor growing up?

I don't understand. You weren't poor growing up, your parents bought a house and you don't say anything that indicates poverty.

Some people were actually poor growing up.

Old and Proud - you sounded a bit scathing about pupils going on school trips abroad.
We were certainly not well off and my mum went to work through necessity not choice.
My brother and I went to state grammar school and my parents took out 2 small endowment policies to enable my brother and me to go abroad with the school. In fact I developed a great desire to travel abroad due to going and have been lucky enough to be able to do a lot of travelling.
My brother's school year went on a ship which impressed him so much he decided his career was to be a marine engineer and he reached 2nd Engineer and also sailed as a !st.

As per Monty Python sketch from decades ago “you were lucky!”

born 1944 and brother 1943, father never seen, but Mum was paid like a woman, despite being a very clever secretary/PA. She couldn’t cope with not having enough money in the end.
Have a friend recently bereaved and charities, council and government all chucking money at her. She is extremely well off now being widowed. Things were tough for women in 1940s and 50s.

I did not think of our family as poor. I knew money was tight - but then it was for everyone. Initially we all lived with grandparents, but before my then youngest brother arrived Mum and Dad bought their own house, following a change of job for my father. My grandmother used to come over on the bus once a week. Eating out ( tea or orange squash) was very rare and I still remember clearly the very few occasions this occurred. I shared a Welsh rarebit with my sister whilst visiting my great grandparents- I don’t remember the great grandparents but I remember the cafe and the treat!
We had a larder but not a fridge. Dad ( a physicist by day) used to mend neighbours TVs and radios so occasionally we got to watch ( intermittent) TV whilst he sat at the back adjusting valves to try and get one working better! You probably all remember thesqiffy picture when a TV valve was loose! Dad also looked after an elderly ladies garden- with our ‘help’- growing vegetables for us and the lady. Food was seasonal. I got to dislike parsnips and beetroot’s! Once my then youngest brother started school, my mother went back to work as a secretary at the local residential special school- which had a farm to help feed the children. We would sometimes go to the farm in the holidays if mum needed to work- I don’t think we were much help but it kept us busy and safe. Like most families, we mostly wore hand me down clothes and handmade, but a relative from overseas kindly bought my sister and I new shop made dresses- quite a wonder!

My parents worked in a factory on the shop floor . Not very high wages . But we had good food all cooked from scratch. I was 8 before my dad had a car. But they saved and brought their own house. My brother and me went on holiday in a caravan every year.
Not brought up with money but good values and we where rich in love and attention.

We moved into a school house when my father accepted a headteacher post. The school was right next door to our home and it was a very cold one with just one fire in the sitting room. Thankfully we had a gas fire in the dining room and the kitchen was reasonably warm. There were a few carpets and the downstairs floors were stone slabs. We had one toilet upstairs at the end of the landing and a toilet in the back yard - though rarely used. I didn't feel poor as I had the whole playground to play in after school and at weekends. To me that was wonderful and friends often came to play.. Looking back though I do remember wallpaper pealing off the walls and winter was chilly while my friends lived in nice houses nearby. I went to see the old house a while back but found it was gone. My parents moved to another area near the sea and the house my parents bought small but certainly warmer!

Thank you I found this thread interesting. Flash backs to my childhood .

Never thought we were por as ever was the same, we all had nothing but never got into debt, we were a very happy family as most were in those days, we all enjoyed life, not isolated in pods with their wealth like today,

When i was little, i didnt think in terms of poor or rich. I was happy. I was adored by my grandparents (until my brother was born). However money was scarce. We lived in a tenement flat until the council built new houses and moved into one of them. Dad worked two jobs until I was at least 4. We didnt have a fridge, phone or car until I was 8. My Christmas presents were second hand. None of that bothered me. I wasn't aware of people being well off until secondary school.

I like the late David Hockney's quote about his family:

"We didn't think we were working class."

"We thought we were first class."

Looking back my parents were not so much poor materially (we were similar to the neighbours) but in the aspirational sense. My father came from a lower working class background and the war had put paid to any ambitions he might have had to better himself. His attitude was that seeking to "get on" in life through education was an insult to your forbears and your background. He used the expression "traitor to your class" when I told him I had voted conservative.. He voted labour all his life.

My father also had very patriarchal ideas that it was not worth educating or making sacrifices for a girl. After all I was only going to "get married and have babies".

When I told him I had no intention of ever having children he said "You will have what god gives you." I told him "No, I will have what I take in this world."

I got a right battering for giving cheek.

I don't think I realised there was a state of being 'poor' until the day when a neighbourhood boy said to me "your family's poor because you haven't got a car We've got a car And a caravan."

I was shocked to my young bones! Were we poor? We didn't have a lot of money to go around but in other ways, less focussed on money, we were richer than that boy.

It's funny how things stick in your mind for over 75 years.

No. I am an only child but was not spoiled.. Yes I got more,there was only me after all, but a good education was highly valued by my parents. I went to state school then onto universitymy parents were very proud. Got to go on school cruise visited Malaga,Gibralter,Barcelona and Lisbon. Also got to go with Girl Guides to Switzerland. I was a very talented athlete so had access to top coaching. Loved all sport still do. Lots of love and always encouraged to bring my friends home. They also loved my parents. I was very lucky and I still miss mum and dad a lot

I never thought of my family as being poor until one day in my first year at secondary school, a few miles away from where I lived, my English teacher was talking to the class about local areas, and mentioned with a sneer the name of the road where I lived, saying that it wasn't a nice place at all. Up to that point I'd thought of him as a wonderful teacher; after that, well, not so much. Certainly he was lacking in tact

I didn’t think we were poor I absolutely knew we very poor

I don’t think I ever thought we were poor but looking back I realise we were. The problem was that my Dad was a gambler so our fortunes went up and down. One week Dad would take me out and spend silly amounts of money on me, much to my Mum’s disapproval, and the next my poor Mum would be looking down the back of the sofa for odd pennies but we never starved. She was a brilliant cook and could make amazing meals out of a bit of scragg end lamb or an ox tail. They did row a lot, which somehow seemed the norm, I realised later was always about money. We sadly lost Mum in her fifties and the level of Dad’s debts didn’t come to light after his death. However, I was innocently unaware of all that as a child and I still have fond memories of my childhood and my parents.

We weren't poor or well off. My parents took in lodgers in rented accommodation. My grandmother (army wife) could sew anything on her machine, my mum cooked from scratch, plain but solid food, my dad fixed, made, and mended everything. They did not smoke or drink and were very thrifty and saved whatever they could. It gave me a very thrifty outlook on life which I practice to this day.

Yes I know we were poor. My dad worked as a farm hand and the pay was very low.We did get free accommodation though and free milk.
We never had holidays, no car, no outings, we never went hungry though.
It was my mum I felt sad for. Stuck out in the middle of no where with no other women to chat to. I can remember a time when she had no shoes and had to wear a pair of the plastic covers that people put over their leather shoes to protect them from damp weather.
One year I got part of my school uniform for Christmas. Yes we were definitely poor!!!

I think that I was quite unique and certainly poor growing up. Born in 1948 to a single mum in the days when babies born out of wedlock were usually adopted, my mum got to keep me and we lived with an elderly aunt and uncle who were very Victorian in their outlook. Mum of course always had to work and there was never much money around. I could have gone to grammar school but mum could not afford the uniform and so I was offered a place in the new emerging junior high schools which had an o level form in them. The next problem was convincing my great uncle to allow me to stay on to take o levels as he thought I should be working to support mum! For clothes I remember only having a basic school uniform and one dress to wear at weekends . There were no holidays, just an annual days outing to the seaside with mums work.Even now at 77 years old I will not divulge details of my upbringing to most people, only trusted friends.

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Why do some people wear it as a badge of honour these days, especially MP's who want us to think they came from poor backgrounds but really they didn't.

Maybe because they want to be pitied? They think everyone likes a victim?

What I dislike is when they imply that anyone born into privilege, or who has acquired wealth, thinks they are a better person than the next petson. Or that they are stuck up, and treat poor people with disdain.

They couldn't be more wrong on this one.

Totally agree.

I know there was a short time when things were tough but we were never poor as such.

I am finding it difficult to understand why those who have been fortunate in their life feel that they have to apologise for it 🤷‍♀️

A lot who think they have been "fortunate" in their lives actually succeed because they were born into privilege in some way.
Not to say they don't work hard, but a single Mum with 3 kids that she wants to do the best for, works hard, so do many in jobs at the bottome of the ladder.

Yes, we were poor, but looking back, at the time I didn't know we were poor.
We started life in post wars slums, there wasn't much rented accommodation to be had, but when I was about three Mum and Dad were given a brand new council house on a new estate, surrounded by countryside.

I remember having a very happy, carefree childhood. Dad worked three shifts at the factory and he cycled about ten miles in all weathers to get there. Mum stayed at home when we were young and she was a very good housekeeper. Our porch gleamed. The red tiles were always polished. I think she shared a tin of polish with three other neighbours.
Our clothes were all hand-me-downs, cardigans darned at the elbows. Mum sat in the kitchen in the evening doing sewing repairs.
Our snacks were often bread and jam or bread and dripping but Mum cooked a meal every evening and was very inventive with leftovers.
I remember it being a crime to leave the immersion heater on, which provided our hot water. It was only on for short periods as it was so expensive to run..

We'd have a week at the seaside every other year and go by coach, the coaches provided by the factories when they shut down for two weeks in the summer. These were subsidised and fleets of them set off from the bus station early on Saturday morning.

I had a very formal but good education. Mum and Dad placed high value on learning. Most children left school at 15 but Dad allowed me to stay on and go into the 6th form to take my A levels.
I had to get a Saturday job of course as money was scarce so if I wanted tights and make-up as a teenager, I had to pay for them myself.
Nothing came easily.

As an adult I really appreciated the hard work and struggles my parents had, but most of all, I think being blessed with a stable home and decent parents ( no obvious displays of affection back then, but we were secure) was such an advantage.

We weren’t poor but we certainly weren’t well off. My dad worked part time in a pub in addition to his full time job and mum worked part time in a shop when my brother and I were older. We had money for the necessities and we always managed an annual family holiday in a caravan. When I went to grammar school I realised we were poor compared to other families. But I had a very happy childhood with my parents and extended family. Rich in love if not money.

No we weren’t poor - we had our own house, food on the table, mostly homemade clothes. No washing machine, no car at first. Dad was the sole breadwinner (because of his macho pride), so mum had to manage the money he brought in very well, and she did, bless her. Dad handed his wage packet to mum every week. We had a holiday every year, so I think we did very well indeed, considering, but certainly not many regular treats. Things were simpler then when I grew up in the 50s and 60s so I never felt I was missing out.

Lived in a totally council housing area. DF was a miner and DM only did adhoc jobs when I was a teenager. Suppose we were poor but basically the same as everyone else round about. Even at primary school I was aware that some girls did seem different and had more than I did but I didn't seem to be an issue. No tv until 1958, no fridge,no holidays,no telephone, no car, all the time I lived with parents. We were fed, house was comfortable and being a DF being a miner we were warm in winter.