Why can't I wear this to a wedding?

I think probably the men in the immediate family will have new suits or hired ones.

The OP is an important guest. The Grandmother of the bride and will be very visible on the day and in the photographs.

I don’t think her daughter is unreasonable for wanting her to do credit to the occasion.

My reaction was the same as KittyLester’s. I don’t think changing hat and shoes meet the point. Ànd offers to add the cost of a new outfit to your present could offend. I’d have fun finding a new outfit.

Another point, it’s now mid August, a wedding ‘in a few months time’ as the OP says doesn’t sound like lace season.

A friend of mine has fourteen grandchildren, all of whom arrived over a period of ten or so years. I doubt very much she’ll be getting a new outfit for each wedding, even if only half of them get married!

SueDonim

A friend of mine has fourteen grandchildren, all of whom arrived over a period of ten or so years. I doubt very much she’ll be getting a new outfit for each wedding, even if only half of them get married!

No I take your point.

I just can’t help feeling they really don’t want her in the coffee lace.

I certainly can't remember what anyones gran wore on their wedding days.

You sound like my mother!
She attended my eldest daughter’s wedding a few months ago wearing an outfit, shoes, handbag and hat she’d worn to another family wedding several years ago.
I offered to go shopping with her and she told me she couldn’t be bothered and didn’t want to spend money on an outfit she probably wouldn’t wear again.
I said nothing but underneath I was quietly seething that she could be so mean spirited around a close family members special day.
I’ve no idea why old people wheel out the ‘make do and mend’ war time mentality.
Money isn’t an issue she simply couldn’t be bothered to make the effort.
My lovely mother in law decided that she did want a new outfit and she looked lovely on the day much to my own mothers consternation!

I’d go for a new outfit for my own granddaughter’s wedding, and wear the same thing for subsequent weddings of others I was not so closely related to, because I’d want to make every effort to look my best for my granddaughter’s special day, and I’d enjoy shopping for something that coordinated with her chosen colour scheme too. That’s just me though, not everybody thinks the same, so go with your gut on what to do.

Princess Ann has worn oufits for years, as far as I know.
I thought she was/is rather admired by royal fans.

Wear your outfit, especially if it’s comfortable!

MissAdventure

Princess Ann has worn oufits for years, as far as I know.
I thought she was/is rather admired by royal fans.

And she often looks like a bag of washing!

That's right MissA. Mr. S. showed me a photo today of Princess Ann in an outfit she'd previously worn in 1976!!!

That sent me down a rabbit hole.

Princess Anne had a new outfit for Zara’s wedding.

Even a too notch recycler knew when to call a halt😬

I'm amazed they still fit!!!
Still, i expect she lacks guidance.

Gransnetters should write to her, I think. (Naff 'orff!)

I'm just jealous that they do MissA

Her disregard for what she considers unimportant is magnificent.

As is regard for for what she does think important.

I wish I’d been as disciplined as her when it comes to size.

Me too!
Seriously, only you can decide, Sarnia.
Very many different views on here, bt it's yours that matters, in terms of causing an upset by wearing what you want, or spending on something new to keep the peace.

Some people are very willing to spend other people’s money

Remember Princess Anne, always reusing special outfits and I believe Catherine and her Mother swop clothes. Take a hint from those in the know and with plenty of money to waste but don't. Enjoy the wedding

Just a thought: has anyone asked the bride what she prefers her Nan, Gran to wear??

Its a pity you told them as there could be an atmosphere now if you wear it. It sounds really petty though, haven't they got enough to think of? It wouldn't bother me in the least if it were my wedding, just glad to have you there.

Purely for your DD's sake, I would get a new outfit.

Can you put it on a hanger and take a photo and share it here? At least you would get opinions on the actual outfit and not about the fact that you wore it previously. Sometimes styles can date a bit, and even if it fits and is comfortable, the fact that it was bought pre-Covid might make it seem dated.
It's easy for some here to suggest buying a new outfit, but trying to find something suitable that you like can be terribly difficult.
I disagree that the grandmother of the bride is a very important person at the wedding- in my experience, older relatives are generally relegated to sidelines!

I would suggest you buy a new outfit, please don’t let something so minor, be the cause of an argument. Maybe ask your DD to accompany you to go shopping to choose. I hope you find something that makes you feel special and knowing you have the blessing of your DD will make you feel even better.

My goodness can any of us imagine telling our mothers not to wear an outfit ?
This outfit sounds perfect .
Do wear it and enjoy the wedding.