Its two months since my lovely daughter died.

Kupari45, there are no words that will help so here is a {{{ hug }}}

Such a heartfelt post. My best wishes to you and all your family on your journey together.

I love my DD more than life itself, my heart goes out to you and your family

Gosh, just cried my eyes out at your heartfelt and sad post. This is not much use to you though.
We lost my beautiful niece age twenty and that was hard. My brother and SIl were heart broken . Losing a DD is unimaginably painful. I can only send hugs.

Kupari I can't begin to imagine the pain you're all going through. My niece was diagnosed with BC 18 months ago at 30 - thankfully she responded to the treatment and test results have been positive but I know two families who like you have had to face the worst possible outcome. I hope the holiday gives you and your husband some peace.

Kupari, it does get easier. You're doing all the right things: continuing to talk about her with the family and those who loved her, getting on with your life and making plans. Two months isn't long in the scheme of things, and please don't be shocked or disappointed if you suddenly find yourself laughing and having a good time as though nothing had happened OR you are suddenly overwhelmed by that pain and misery again. Those of us further down the road will tell you that there isn't a straight line from bereavement to recovery, it's a very rocky road and you really don't get over it. But you do cope and carry on. And that's the best tribute you can make to your daughter, carrying on. A big hug and .

I've just read about your loss, and can't add to what others have said, except I can't imagine the pain.
Hoping the sorrow gradually gets less and you all keep the happy memories of her.
On another forum a 94 year old man wrote about the death of his wife of 70 years, and he said "as long as people still talk about her, she's still around."

Kupari, I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. Two months is such a short time since you lost your much- loved daughter. I'm sure others who understand better are right, and things will change given time. I'm sure, as you say, you will never be quite the same person again, but you will adjust to how things are. You will be a different person but will accept life as it has become. It's sad that friends don't let you talk. I think we are not good at listening to others' grief and don't quite know how to handle it. Thank goodness your OH is so supportive and you can be yourself with him. No words really, but sending you
Lots of (((hugs))).

I don't 'know' you, Kupari, but I can't close this thread without saying how sorry I am for your loss.

My heart goes out to you Kupari45.

Condolences Kupari45 I hope your very poignant post helped you. Writing feelings down is very cathartic. I'm sure it will help others who are find themselves in a similar sad situation. I too cried at your very moving post. I wish I could say somthing to help but I know at such times words can seem useless. Please remember we are thinking of you and there is somone available on here to read your posts and support and comfort you when you feel the need.

Kupari I am so sorry that you are going through this terrible trauma. I have a daughter - and a son - and have so often, as I'm sure many do, tortured myself with the thought of losing one of them. You are living that torture and my heart breaks for you.
(((hugs))) and and wishes for a holiday where you might find some peace and maybe a moment of happiness now and again.

I hope your holiday brings you a smile or two and puts you a few more steps along the road you are travelling.

I have been looking at and avoiding this thread all day as I am useless at saying what I feel and would like to convey.
But my heartfelt wishes to you and your family

kupari my heart goes out to you. Such heartache

Your beautiful daughter is alive in your head and your heart and those of her partner and her children. It is such a difficult time, that raw year ot two after someone beloved has died. You will always miss her but living day to day may become easier. It is still early days and your grief is still with you. Take care and in time the grief will lessen.

My heartfelt sympathy to you.
My dear sister's husband died some years ago,after a terrible illness which lasted 9 years, and she says you don't get over it, you learn to accommodate it.
I wish you and your family well as you begin the l-o-n-g road without her creating new memories for you all.

I am so very sorry for your loss kupari there are no wordsI am thinking of you and hoping that there is comfort for you in knowing we here care.

Bereavement is said to take on average two years to reach ' resolution'. It is still very early. Things will get better. Xx

She will always be alive through her children. I wept for you.

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine your pain. I am saddened that your friends are tired of you talking about your DD. I sincerely hope that you have mistaken this, for them, just not knowing how to comfort you.

How brave of you to be supporting her children so well - keeping her memory alive and allowing them to talk about her. So good for them. Well done. I feel for your sadness.

Two months is such a short time. It makes me sad that you feel your friends are fed up with you speaking about your daughter. Maybe they think they're helping you by not speaking about her. Of course you want to speak about her why should you not. I'm not going to say I know how you feel but I just want to say that today and tonight you are in my thoughts and I wish you some peace. It's nice you have grandchildren to hug.

This is something we all dread, the loss of children however old they may be. The pain must be unbearable. So sorry to hear of your loss, for loss it must be. I hope you can continue to talk about your sadness and that you find some tiny amount of consolation in so doing.