Its two months since my lovely daughter died.

Your words and feelings which you expressed so well, really made me cry. Unless somebody has gone through the same loss they cannot understand how you are feeling but I hope can feel empathy. Sending hugs and sympathy. xx

my first DD died of brain damage aged 7 weeks ..painful,,,go forward 22 years and my beautiful 2nd daughter committed suicide due to domestic violence... I feel your pain...

Oh that's just awful downtoearth. I don't know what to say except how sorry I am.
(hugs)

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. A quote that has helped my family after losing my 31 year old daughter from accidental carbon monoxide poisoning (six years ago and two months after her wedding) is from Rose Kennedy, who, as we know, lost several children: "It has been said that time heals all wounds. I don't agree. The wounds remain. Time - the mind, protecting its sanity - covers them with some scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it is never gone."
The pain doesn't go but you begin to relish the happy memories/ I think sometimes the hardest part is that my husband and I still want to talk about Katie but some of our friends feel awkward when we do - but we feel that is their problem not ours.

Such heartbreakingly painful reading here.
I can't find the words but just wanted to say my thoughts are with you and sending my love and big hugs x

So much sadness here, my love to all.

I've only just seen your thread Kupari. I have no extra words to add but would like to send you hugs.

Your daughter will always be with you Kupari,she lives in your heart .

My heartfelt sympathy is with you. I lost my beautiful younger daughter just over 6 years ago ,aged 33 and the mother of 2 lovely little girls. She was not treated properly for PND ,which then became a psychosis and she took her own life. I miss her every single day ,as does her sister,. The pain remains but life does have to continue ,although never the same.
I know lots of Gransnettters are thinking of you and ,hopefully, giving you some kind of strength to carry on.

I do hope your friends will be supportive, you do need them at this time as well as your lovely DH. You have to be strong for the DGC but need to grieve too, and also to remember the happy times.

I know two people who have lost their DD to breast cancer, not that well, but I do feel for them and can feel empathy for them. I do hope people you know will help you through this unbearably sad time.

Kupari45 you are in my thoughts. I'm glad to hear you have a wonderful supportive OH. I hope the meal with the family goes well and that there is some comfort for all of you by being together. Let us know how your holiday goes. A little sun will do you good. I don't really know what to say about your friends. It adds to the pain when friends you think you can count on let you down. Your right though some people just can't cope with with such terrible pain. Please don't brood on it. It's their weakness and I'm sure not meant personally. I doubt they realise that they are being cruel.

I've been thinking of you kupari I'm so sorry you've felt so let down by friends. Watching you cope with such sadness may remind your friends that it could just as easily be them in your position and make them feel scared to get too close. I know that may not be a rational or compassionate response but it is what seems to happen sometimes, as well as folk just feeling they don't know what to say and then backing off. Sadly support doesn't always materialise from where we expect it to, but sometimes it comes from new or unexpected sources. I hope others are able to step in and be there for you.

Hope you haven't felt let down with us not having kept up with you at this very difficult time.
Even if we don't say anything, I'm sure most of us on this website are thinking about you at this difficult time.

Cath

I lost my son almost two years ago.
Losing a child is the most awful thing ever.
Have lost a husband, dad, relatives,best friend and none of those touched losing a child.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I feel your pain.
Have you found The Compassionate Friends (TCF) online ? It is for bereaved parents and siblings.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Those of us who have not lost a child cannot begin to imagine what it must be like. My sympathies to you and your family.