The first day of the rest of my life..

Thinking of you this new day. x

So sorry. You have been a tower of strength for him. Now it is time to look after yourself and to grieve in your own way.

My thoughts are with you Maw.

So sorry for your loss Maw. Brian Patten the Liverpool poet wrote a lovely poem about what a man's life is worth. www.poemhunter.com/poem/so-many-different-lengths-of-time/
Enormously comforting. I think I've posted it before.

Beautiful words. My condolences to all who have been bereaved.

Dear Maw those of us grannies who are so fortunate as to still have our OHs must all feel for you in your loss of dear "Paw".

We all realise that we cannot tell what may be in store for us but your devotion to him in his declining years shows us the way should that be round the corner.

I hope that your many happy memories of a long life together sustain you in the days to come.

So sorry, may you take comfort in your memories xxx

So sorry to hear your sad news Maw.

Maw I hope today has been as good as possible for you and your family and that you manage a little more sleep each night. Little and often with food at the moment, as it will seem very strange just cooking for one

Good friends are with their weight in gold are they not
My lovely closest friend (also next door neighbour but one ) sent round supper on a plate last night as she cooks for her 90 year old Dad every night when he comes back from visiting his wife, her Mum in the nursing home.
She had DD and SIL to stay last week when I had a houseful of DDs, aunties etc and babysat littlest DGS here so that SIL could be with DD at her Dad’s bedside in hospital the night he died.
She also understands when I need company and when I need to be on my own.
Can’t think why I started to say this, but to those of you who have friends like that or who ARE friends like that, how would the world go on without such friendship?

Indeed. I often think I was rescued by my friends when my husband died as surely as if they had thrown me a life belt and towed me to shore.
I hope you got some sleep last night

I did thank you - sleep is the respite our minds and bodies need isn’t it?
But oh the moment just AFTER you wake up and it all floods back.
To those of you who have been there or who are there, how do you cope with the inner loneliness, the knowledge that is the first day of the rest of your life and - bottom line, it’s down to you now?

I woke up and cried every day for two years, then less, now only occasionally, usually after a dream. If I could make myself (which I couldn't always) I got up straight away, didn't even shower and went for a walk. The important thing was to start the day.
After that - actually it's too soon for this is how I coped advice. Do you have people with you?

Too soon as in too soon to be thinking abou how to deal with the rest of your life, not too soon in the morning! Oh dear, trying to be helpful....

Maw, good to hear that you managed some sleep. Also that you have such a good friend so close by. Sometimes it's almost telepathic , that when you need a friend, they appear at the door. Take care of yourself and remember you GN friends are here with an ear. {{{hugs}}}

Be gentle with yourself maw, maybe a day at a time just now. x

Good Morning Maw x

Read reading, I come across as dismissive. I'm so sorry. What I meant was that people dish out all sorts of advice and what they think is helpful, but it is usually based on what would be helpful for them and sometimes cast me into despair as they presented to me a vision of another life that I didn't want and a future that I couldn't bear.
Try not to look to far ahead.
I'm rubbish at this but I hope you feel that my true sympathy.

Each morning I think of Maw and Annie who are suffering in their bereavement and send a little vibe of support and hope for courage for them to face another day. There is not much else we can do as virtual friends. Does it help them? I truly hope it does.

I echo Gagagran

Only just caught up with this thread.............. thinking of you maw it is a long and windy path we travel and along the way collect dear friends, as on here, the love and caring that even virtual friends can bring is so comforting....take care...

Me too Gagagran. Your friend sounds lovely Maw - I'm glad she's there for you when you need her.

Thank goodness for friends such as your close neighbour Maw. I think it was Annie who posted recently she'd had an aunt who always said that if God couldn't come Himself, He'd send someone to you. Sounds like your friend is such a gift in your life and (((hugs)))

A beautiful, comforting poem Maw. Condolences for your loss. Good to hear you have great support from close friends and your family.

I read other messages and they say it all. All I can say is that at this very sad time I think and pray for both you and Annie.