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Bereavement

Forgive me yet again

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Anniebach Mon 15-Jan-18 20:33:11

I so need to talk.

We applied for disclose of statements from the coroner before the inquest into the death of my beloved daughter. They arrived today, I have been dreading them every day .

I don't understand the toxicology report. Mils in a litre of blood etc,

A man tried to save her , he gave his phone to a woman who was on the bridge to ring the police whilst he tried to talk to my daughter. I would like to thank him , who ever he is, I have his name, would this be the wrong thing to do?

I am so distressed because she took some photographs with her to the bridge, the report gave a full description of them and I know which they are .

One of her three children.

Her and her husband on their wedding day.

One black and white of three adults and a baby, I know this was her christening, I took a photograph of her, her darling daddy, her paternal grandfather and paternal great grandmother ,

One black and white of a female sitting on a sofa , arms around two little girls, one on each side, me and my daughters, my husband took it. We were so happy.

Why am I saying all this? Not for sympathy, because I am devasted and so turn to you yet again, so sorry,

Annie x

loopylou Fri 19-Jan-18 10:39:35

Oh dear Annie, what shenanigans for you my sisters have been warring for what seems like forever, 30+ years?
I don't know where you live but I'm another who would love to take you out for a coffee and give you a hug. I can't imagine what it must be like for you so can only keep sending you my thoughts and prayers, please take care x

Bellanonna Fri 19-Jan-18 10:56:24

Annie, you’d better keep quiet about your address or we’ll be hiring a Gransnet coach as so many of us want to come and take you out to tea/coffe and give you a warm hug!

Anniepops Fri 19-Jan-18 12:40:38

Hope you find the most comfy sofa ever. Sending a prayer and a hug. X

Anniebach Fri 19-Jan-18 12:42:52

Thank you x

I must get myself together but so difficult . I have been working on my family tree for years , I started about 14 years ago. My darling girl was given the family name and I decided to find out more about my g granny, the name is in every generation . Went on the site this morning and there was a message giving a lead of the family name back to 1789, I thought I must tell her, then it hit me, she is dead , she would have been thrilled to know i have reach her g g g g g aunt . Suppose I will get use to it, have to.

I feel your hugs x

WilmaKnickersfit Fri 19-Jan-18 12:48:10

1789? WOW! That's a labour of love then Annie. Remember, small steps and one day at a time. {{{HUGS}}}

Anniebach Fri 19-Jan-18 13:08:27

It is Wilma when trying to find ancestors on Anglesey 😀. When the 1911 census was released most on Anglesey was in Welsh, a very small group of us transcribed it all into English , three of us !

Nana3 Fri 19-Jan-18 14:28:38

I'm thinking Veruca Salt because you're spoiling her rotten🐶, and why not.
Well, I'm watching the snooker and being lazy, your family tree is undoubtedly more interesting.
I planned to go out but have no puppy to motivate me.
If I disappear it's because the b..... iPad keeps shutting down.
So (((hugs))) from me too.

NfkDumpling Fri 19-Jan-18 16:43:51

I got back via the census to 1789 on my father’s side of the family. Friends were impressed when I said the name was Smith. But it was easy really as the family hadn’t moved from the same small village in all that time. I expect I can get further back if I ever get around to visiting the church to check the registers. The rest are harder as they couldn’t read and didn’t know how to spell their own names.

NfkDumpling Fri 19-Jan-18 16:45:15

Oops, pressed enter too soon. I was going to add that it’s an all absorbing hobby and maybe just what’s needed. As long as you stop sometimes and REMEMBER TO EAT!

Jalima1108 Fri 19-Jan-18 16:51:25

The Gardening Grans could come and sort out the garden. You can plan it all (Annie* and I will supervise the digging, planting, laying of paving and and make the tea.

It is absorbing but also frustrating - but oh! the joy when you have a breakthrough.

How is Lottie? You may have updated us again, but if so, I missed it.

Jalima1108 Fri 19-Jan-18 16:51:59

sorry, I mean Family History is absorbing, not gardening!

Anniebach Fri 19-Jan-18 16:53:07

Eating is still a problem , I am eating but introducing new foods is difficult and doing so little I haven't a great appetite . I read the diet thread to see what is avoided so I can add it to my to eat list 😀

NfkDumpling Fri 19-Jan-18 16:56:05

smile. Good! Your furry girls need you!

Ambergirl Fri 19-Jan-18 16:58:17

Oh Annie....sending virtual hugs...You certainly do not have "to get yourself together"....You are going through a torrid time. Don't be hard on yourself, take each day as it comes. Anyone else would feel the same...I cannot imagine your pain..x

Cherrytree59 Fri 19-Jan-18 17:10:50

Annie how are you with porridge?
Thin porridge made with water with a bit milk round the edge.
I was always told by my Mum and Gran that porridge helped to line your stomach.

I find it filling and gentle.
but then I go and add saltblush