Do you understand ?

downtoearth, both your daughters , Such pain. I have a younger daughter, she moved away some years ago, I have only seen her once this year, but she is living her life and is well and happy. Yes we are on the outside looking in.

Maddy, you are suffering too , grief doesn’t only come with a death.

My thoughts have been drifting back to my two baby girls who died at birth . We wanted four children, we had four children, now I have one, we have to take what life throws at us. The grief I have for the loss of my darling daughter is the price I pay for the wonderful years we had together.

Thinking about you Annie

Thank you midgey x

Does anyone who has Lost their child find they want to talk about that child but cannot because there is no one who wants to hear ?

Yes Annie... they have all moved on,I also think that suicide is still a difficult subject,people feel uncomfortable around.xx

So true downtoearth, one of the reasons I stopped going out, couldn’t cope with the condolences! ‘ i am sorry, what possessed her to do it” she couldn’t have had anyone to turn to’ even ‘ didn’t she think of her children” .

Somebody said to me "well, this will take you a while to get over".
It was said in good faith, so I tried to be gracious about it.
I also feel that when I see people I know and they ask how I am, they're taken aback that i'll often just grimace and say "still miserable, really".
I can almost sense an imperceptible sigh from them.

It is only 10 months since my daughter died, yet I experience the same MissAdventure

when my best friend from school died age 45 her OH quickly moved on.He moved a girlfriend into their home in just 6 weeks .I was devaststed for her poor parents.It was as if she was worth nothing as he was "entitled" to move on .
I have to admit that I wasn't pleasant to him about the new woman,who was really a girl over 20 years younger than him and my friends mother couldn't even look at him.Its really hard now when in general people expect the bereaved to make a new life instantly,maybe to save them dealing with grief .I do think jumping in too fast to a new relationship is often a mistake .I couldn't understand how he could replace my lovely bright funny friend so fast .

Oh, Annie, of course I understand. Who wouldn't? Imo, losing a child is one of the worst losses there are, maybe the worst, period. And grief can come and go in waves, I think, and be triggered by many different things. it's perfectly normal that SIL and kids going to dinner with a new woman makes you think of dd and brings a fresh wave a grief. So deeply sorry! Sending lots of hugs though I doubt those will ever be enough!