My DS2 would have been 30 tomorrow

I’m sending you love Phoenix and I’ll think of you tomorrow. ?

Sending comfort, prayers & love to you Phoenix
May the sun shine on you
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At 30, your lovely boy should've had the world at his feet Phoenix. How desperately sad. I really cannot begin to imagine how you must feel .

I hope tomorrow will be a little easier than today, often we tend to dread a day like your son's birthday in advance.

I think it is natural to say "What if" in your situation, Phoenix and others who have lost a child.

People say it doesn't do any good, but I don't think they are entirely right.

After all, surely forgetting our dear ones, just because they are dead would be an enormous betrayal.

I am not explaining this well: what I mean is, we cannot and should not forget anyone we have loved. Remembering them will always bring a certain sadness, but that is surely part of the human condition.

Sending love to all those who've lost a child, tiny or adult or somewhere in between x

to all of you who have suffered the anguish of losing s child xx

So sorry Phoenix, I hope you are feeling a bit better today, my son died 17 years ago & I often find the day before his birthday is harder than the day itself.

Dear Phoenix I wish I had words to comfort you as your words comforted me when my son died. All I can do is think of you both today and tomorrow.

Many thanks to you all, your posts are appreciated.

Sending good wishes to everyone.

Sending you warm wishes. We had a suicide in our family on New Year’s Eve she was 20 years old and a troubled soul but such a lovely girl. It’s very raw and her parents and siblings are struggling but trying to work through it with the help of councillors.
There are no words just sending you hugs.

So sorry Phoenix - thinking of you and all the other brave people who have lost children.

My heartfelt sympathies to those who have lost children. ?

Phoenix thinking about you today. It’s awful losing any family member but losing a child must be unbearable. My son attempted suicide last year and a friend found him just in time. I know I’m lucky. Sending lots of hugs.

How I understand Phoenix. My younger daughter took her own life 9 years ago,aged33. She would have been 43 on April 8th. That was still a difficult day and I heard from no-one -not even my elder daughter. She left two lovely girls ,now aged 14 next week and 11. I hardly ever see them as they live 300miles away.They do now have a lovely Stepmum ,which keeps me going, but I will never stop missing my daughter ,especially on her birthday.

There can be nothing worse than the loss of a beloved child. It’s beyond my comprehension
I’m thinking of you on this the most difficult of days

My heart goes out to you.

I can relate to this too Phoenix. My 25 year old son hanged himself last October. It would have been his 26th birthday in March. I too wonder what could have been. Him getting married and having children. He was my youngest of four sons. My thoughts are with you. x

Pheonix….I'm so glad you posted this. I'm very sorry you had to though.
I would love to hear about him if you ever want to post.

Wishing you and yours peace

Thinking of you today Phoenix. X

and love.

Far too many of us have lost children, and especially to suicide. to you all.

How awful for you phoenix. We always wonder what they would be like now. Today is the anniversary of the day my brother took his own life over 40 years ago. Doesn't compare to losing a child of course, although we lost a much loved nephew aged 16 to leukaemia.

"They will be forever loved, and remain forever young"

Thinking of you, phoenix, kathsue and Maw.

And for you too trendygran, and also Smurf