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Losing my son

(58 Posts)
campbellwise Fri 16-Apr-21 13:21:22

I have tried so hard to help myself, but the grief I feel is so overwhelming that I can barely function some days. I have had counselling and done an online course with ataloss.org, but even after 15 months I can’t control my feelings. I would appreciate advice from anyone who has been through this and found peace.

Georgesgran Fri 13-Jun-25 19:15:16

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Whiff Fri 13-Jun-25 20:06:16

How awful to have deleted posts on a bereavement thread. Some posters must have been despectable .

Catherine33 Mon 07-Jul-25 19:59:01

Hey, I'm really sorry you're going through this. Losing a child is something no one should ever have to experience it's not something you “get over,” and 15 months might feel like a long time, but honestly, it’s still so fresh. Grief like that doesn’t follow a straight path, and it hits hard, especially on quiet days when it feels like the world just keeps moving without your person in it
It’s good that you’ve reached out and tried counselling and the course — that’s real effort, even if it doesn’t feel like it’s helped enough yet. Sometimes, it’s not about fixing the pain but finding tiny ways to carry it, or live alongside it. Talking to others who’ve been through the same kind of loss might help — not because they have the answers, but because they get it in a way most people just can't.

Some days you might just need to survive the next hour. That’s okay. You’re not failing — you’re grieving, and that’s one of the hardest things any human can do. Keep reaching out when it feels heavy. You're not alone in this.

BlueBelle Mon 07-Jul-25 20:34:52

This thread is four years old Catherine I hope campbellwise has found some peace

petra Mon 07-Jul-25 20:53:43

BlueBelle

This thread is four years old Catherine I hope campbellwise has found some peace

As much as old threads annoy me I find old threads on bereavement forum upsetting.
What if the OP is getting her life back together and has found ways to deal with her grief and then pops into GN and there is her old post 😥

Mt61 Mon 07-Jul-25 20:56:07

Sorry I have no words that can help you, grief is different for each person. I’ve lost someone close, not a child.
I haven’t been able to grieve properly, just feel empty some of the time. I wish I could cry, I am sure it would help.
Maybe my anti depressants (prozac) block my tears.
I hope you find peace soon 🫂

Mt61 Mon 07-Jul-25 20:58:27

Oh my goodness, I never noticed this was an old thread, I really must pay attention.
I really hope they are in a better place