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My husband has died

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Kate8 Sat 29-May-21 23:56:24

My husband died on the 30th of April, he was 62 and I'm 56. We'd been married 28 years and I love him with all my heart. His name is David and he had been admitted to hospital 10 days before he died. His illness came out of the blue. We have 5 children and 9 grandchildren and we're numb. David's funeral is next Tuesday. I'm numb, I wasn't ready!

Babs758 Sun 30-May-21 10:40:38

What a horrible shock for you and your family. So sorry to hear this.

BlueSapphire Sun 30-May-21 11:17:41

So very sorry for your loss. My lovely DH died three years ago, but somehow you get through each day; you learn to deal with it.

henetha Sun 30-May-21 11:19:45

I am truly sorry for your sad loss, Kate. My heart goes out to you.

Namsnanny Sun 30-May-21 11:21:47

Sorry for your loss Kate8 condolences to your familyflowers

Callistemon Sun 30-May-21 11:46:55

My condolences to you and to your family Kate8
What a dreadful shock for you all

ixion Sun 30-May-21 13:27:38

Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.
Please stay in touch - you will get so much support from folk here ?

Georgesgran Sun 30-May-21 13:27:49

Dear Kate - you have joined the Club, none of us wanted to join. Like Grammaretto’s DH, mine too had cancer, but he died very unexpectedly in March.
I still expect him to walk in the door after a day’s fishing asking what’s for dinner.
There isn’t a textbook response to bereavement - we are all different. Welcome to GN, I hope you get some comfort from the supportive comments and I find reading the Good Morning thread is a good start to my day. ?

Charleygirl5 Sun 30-May-21 13:31:43

62 is very young- condolences to you and your family. You will be warmly welcomed in soop's kitchen.

westendgirl Sun 30-May-21 13:35:35

So very sorry to hear of your sad loss and send you deepest sympathy.
Look after yourself and let yourself grieve , mind and body .
Sending love.

glammanana Sun 30-May-21 14:08:36

Kate my heart goes out to you and know only to well how you are feeling it is such a shock for you and your family.
My darling husband died within 10mins of leaving the house to collect our DD to take her to work he pulled up his car and died at the wheel such a shock the worst thing being him being on his own without his loving family around him,even now I expect him to walk back in the house after 18mths and get cross with him for leaving me alone after 45yrs.
I know it will have been said but time is a great healer just keep all your lovely memories of your David close to your heart sending you flowers x

Aveline Sun 30-May-21 14:18:28

So very sad. It's very recent and raw for you. I suppose all the formalities are over and you're staring into a very different future. It's good that you have your family and I hope you have a few of the very good friends that we all need to help us over the difficult and painful times. Very best wishes.thanks

Blossoming Sun 30-May-21 14:23:23

So sorry for your loss, how sad and shocking for you and your family flowers

maydonoz Sun 30-May-21 15:06:55

So sorry to read of your loss Kate. I hope you and your family will find strength and comfort together as you grieve. My condolences to you. Keep posting here when you feel like it.

Justwidowed Sun 30-May-21 15:24:54

Sorry to hear of your loss Kate8 .It must have been a great shock.Apart from relatives, friends and especially neighbòurs can be of great comfort.I also found that WhatsApp helped me ,in that messages and photos kept me in contact with family and friends during Covid.

Shandy57 Sun 30-May-21 15:36:12

Hello Kate, I am so very sorry to read your sad news. My husband died aged 63, five years ago, and I wouldn't have got through the early years without the on-line support I received at the special site for widows, WAY UP. I hope you have been able to claim the Bereavement Allowance which helps so much if you are having to wait for probate. Take each day as it comes and remember to be kind to yourself. Here's the link -

ExD Sun 30-May-21 15:51:17

I don't have the words to say all the things I want to say to comfort you. Blessings and good wishes, may time help you to look back on the good times you had and comfort you.

rascal Sun 30-May-21 16:03:25

Hello Kate8 I am so sorry for your loss. Just like you I posted on here. I had just joined and had never posted before. I found everyone so friendly, sympathetic and very helpful. It was comforting to know that there were people out there that understood just how awful things were.
My husband died very very suddenly without warning a few years ago, he was the same age as your husband David. I was in my late fifties. We had been married for nearly forty years. It was a marriage made in heaven. Our family had flown the nest and we had been planning to visit places we had talked about. He had worked very hard through all the years and was going to take early retirement but that was not to be. It was horrendous. Our world fell apart. I couldn't function. You think you will never get over such a shock. Thank goodness for my family. I have found that through time you seem to adjust and move forward a bit and things start to be not so raw. Life will never be the same again. But I had to keep going for my family. Try to just take a day at a time. Don't think ahead. Things will very slowly fall into place. I will be thinking about you. Best wishes. flowers

Elusivebutterfly Sun 30-May-21 16:09:07

Sorry for your loss.

BladeAnnie Sun 30-May-21 16:12:17

Oh my goodness Kate8 - please accept my sincere condolences at this sad time. You are in my thoughts flowers

greenlady102 Sun 30-May-21 16:20:42

I am so sorry @Kate8 I too am a memeber of that horrible club and have been for nearly 10 years now. Life will never be the same again but you will survive because your beloved husband wants you too.

Hellogirl1 Sun 30-May-21 16:34:36

I`m so, so sorry Kate8. My David died just over 4 and a half years ago, aged 72, we`d been married just over 53 years. My children and grandchildren rallied round, and they keep saying how strong I am, but I`m not really, just try not to show it too much. I keep thinking "I`ll ask David when he comes in", then it hits me all over again. Keep posting on here, there`s always someone there to talk to.

Maggiemaybe Sun 30-May-21 17:31:49

My sincere condolences to you, Kate8 and to everyone else in the GN community who is grieving for someone they’ve loved and lost. thanks

hulahoop Sun 30-May-21 17:31:59

There's nothing I can add to what others have said sending hugs and take one day at a time I am glad to see you have family around you .Take care ??

emmasnan Sun 30-May-21 17:36:16

I'm so sorry to hear that, my condolences to you and your family.

Kate1949 Tue 01-Jun-21 15:31:41

How dreadful for you flowers