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My husband has died

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Kate8 Sat 29-May-21 23:56:24

My husband died on the 30th of April, he was 62 and I'm 56. We'd been married 28 years and I love him with all my heart. His name is David and he had been admitted to hospital 10 days before he died. His illness came out of the blue. We have 5 children and 9 grandchildren and we're numb. David's funeral is next Tuesday. I'm numb, I wasn't ready!

ayse Tue 01-Jun-21 15:36:31

How devastating for you and your family. My thoughts are with you xx?

Shelflife Tue 01-Jun-21 15:42:20

Kate 8, so sad and so unexpected . I am thinking about you and your family. My husband and I are still jogging on together so I have no experience to share with you. I can however let you know that I and everyone on this thread are giving you a 'hug' keep posting , and don't be afraid to express your grief.

sharon103 Tue 01-Jun-21 15:44:16

So deeply sorry Kate8.
My heart goes out to you and your family. flowers

Dottygran59 Tue 01-Jun-21 15:53:57

Kate 8, please let me add my condolences. I'm 62 - it's no age at all. You've had some lovely, heartwarming responses - please keep posting, I'm sure it will help xx

GillT57 Tue 01-Jun-21 16:15:54

So sorry for your loss. I hope that you will find comfort companionship and advice on here, when a tragedy hits, GN is always here,you are never alone. Such a tragically young age to lose your husband.

ckred Wed 02-Jun-21 13:39:08

I am so sorry for your loss. My husband died last year. He was not ill, he was 56 - i am 68, he never smoked or drank and was not overweight, he used to play football and table tennis 3 day a week. Even the doctor was shocked. He just got up one morning and had a heart attack. I think the stress of the lockdown affected him as he couldn't get out and do sports and the stress killed him. I felt so numb and felt I had no purpose in life anymore. I didn't find counsellors helped but I had to keep busy, sorting cupboards, planning shopping trips, visiting people where I could. Even now there are many days when I am in tears, the heartbreak doesn't go away but hopefully in time it gets easier to bear. x

MarjieM Tue 15-Jun-21 14:00:48

I lost my husband after 54 years of marriage just before Christmas. All I can say is that if you want to sit and cry for hours on end, go ahead. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. It’s also OK to smile or laugh. I have no idea how long the numbness lasts, but I am told that life grows around the grief, and one day We will be functioning again.

toscalily Tue 15-Jun-21 15:11:03

My condolences. Take comfort from your family and friends and take time for those quiet moments for yourself, to grieve, to remember and accept that your sorrow is yours for however long it takes, one day at a time. flowers

Westcoaster Tue 15-Jun-21 16:16:40

So sorry for your loss Kate8. My husband died in February only 3 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. I am still shocked, and can't really believe what happened. So much worse with the Covid restrictions of course.

I still cry every day, but not all day. Sorry for all the years I have ahead of me alone, but mostly so sorry for all the things he'll miss. A little granddaughter abroad who he never got to meet, most of the grandkids too young to keep memories of him. He was so pleased to be a grandad and was wonderful with the kids.
I put some good photos of him onto the Echo show and they bring back happy memories of the holidays we've had, the places we've been. They always make me smile.

I hope you have family around you to help you through. Brighter days will come. flowers