My husbands funeral tomorrow how will I cope?

So sorry Isummer My husband died almost exactly 3 years ago. I think my son had already moved in with me by the time we had the funeral so I wasn't alone. I can't remember much about that night so I presume I slept. DD and I had put a lot of thought into choosing the music and poems and so on so the actual service went very smoothly. My worst moment was my first sight of the coffin because that did make it very real. DD's worst moment was when she realised the service was starting with "On days like these" but it had been "our song" for 50 years, I couldn't leave it out. The youngest grandsons were 6 and 7 and behaved like angels (very impressed by the ride in the big limousine) and there was just so much support from friends and neighbours that it was all much better than I expected - even enjoyable it parts. I do hope your's goes as smoothly. It will be the first step forward. I won't pretend that life will be the same, or that 3 years on I don't still want him back, but it is survivable.

Another one who is thinking of you tonight and willing you strength for tomorrow.

So sorry for your loss. ?

Of course you want him back, I'm sorry that you can't have him back. You can do this. Together with your children you can do this.

Please rest. Prayers for you and yours.

My sincere sympathy, I myself was there 4 years ago.
You will get through it, but please do not give a second thought to what others say you can or can’t do. We are all different and while their advice might be kindly meant, you are your own person.
If you would like family to stay with you -do ask. You may welcome the opportunity to talk about happier times, but take it one step at a time.
I hope it can be a celebration of your DH’s life, that would be lovely but there is no taking away from how hard it is for you.
I felt (and still feel) like an “unwilling refugee in a strange country”
There are quite a few of us here on GN and we will offer whatever comfort and support we can if you would like us to.

Oh thank you so much. Just come back and can’t believe so many messages of help and support. Reading through them has calmed me down a lot. Not too weepy at the moment. i really appreciate the messages I feel as though you are all speaking from the heart to me.
I don’t like resorting to alcohol but just having a glass of wine from a bottle someone recently bought me, just the one then off to bed to try and sleep. Thank you ❤️

I am so very sorry for your loss.
Sending kindest thoughts

1summer I'm so sorry. There are no words that can comfort you, but I hope the strength of love and support from those around you will carry you through the day. Will be thinking of you.

Isummer so sorry for your loss. Just think of the love you shared. You will have a lot of support tomorrow …. try and get some sleep

I'm so sorry, Isummer.

Tomorrow won't be easy, but it will pass, and you will have the day to look back on. I will also be thinking of you tomorrow, and hope the collective good wishes of so many grans will help you to get through it.

One step at a time. Take comfort from those who are there to support you.

So sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you dear lady.
Can you call one of your children and tell them how you are feeling right now? Maybe it isn’t too late for someone to come and be with you.

Sending hugs and strength for the night and day ahead.

1summer, I am so sorry for your loss of your dear husband. Your feelings are perfectly normal, of course you want him back and don't want to face the kind of finality a funeral brings. But he will live on in your heart and in your children and grandchildren, so he will always be with you in a different way.
Sending you love and prayers for the strength and calm to get you through tomorrow. Your family will support you throughout, and after that just take one day at a time. Look after yourself. ???

I am so sorry for your loss. Many on GN will know how you feel.
I hope you get through with the support of your family. Our thoughts will be with you. Take care

I am so very sorry for your loss. You will get through the day with the help of your lovely family, the same way I did recently. With this last act, you will do your lovely man honour and you will feel better for it. After that, there is no right way and no wrong way but you will all take strength from each other. I will be thinking of you all tomorrow?

I’m so very sorry. You will get through tomorrow, impossible though that seems just now. We will all be there with you in spirit and your family will be there to help you too. Sending love to you. ?

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure your children will support you through tomorrow.

You have to do this for your dh not just your family. Of course you want him back but this is the last thing you can do. I don’t know how many you have coming but they will all be supportive and make you realise how others found your dh important. You will probably never get over your loss but you will learn to live with it. Don’t despair. You can do this. Don’t worry if you break down and cry everyone will be looking out for you.

No words, just sending a hug!

So sorry for your loss

Please use the support of your family and friends to go through this

1summer, of course you want him back. Your post touched me deeply. It sounds as though you’ve been brave for everyone, telling your children they don’t need to stay ?.

The suggestion you can start a journey of recovery is kindly meant but isn’t what you want to hear now. You will find strength tomorrow. Your loved ones will be with you.
Sending love x

It's because you care and loved so much that you are feeling like this. It makes it very hard.
But you will cope, with your family by your side.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You have shared a lot with us along the way and I hope you will feel that we are still with you, both tomorrow and in the future.
I am sure you will find that inner strength for the day.
Thinking of you ?

I'm not widowed, but I felt exactly the same when my daughter died.
I wanted to run far away, away from everything and everyone.

Forget about looking to the future; just concentrate on tomorrow, as awful as it is, and get through it as best you can.
I'm so sorry to know your husband died - I remember saying how handsome and kind he looked in your wedding photo a while back.

1Summer, I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. You will get through it with the help of your family, I’m sure. But yes, it will be tough. Sending you a virtual hug. Please let us know how it went, when you are ready.