Late husband's Birthday - what to do?

For me, it's the anniversary of his death that's difficult. This year will be the 4th and as usual, I shall arrange a treat for me, either a concert with a friend or I shall invite half a dozen friends for dinner.

I'm lucky that my husband is still alive, but always think of my parents on their birthdays, not the days that they died. My father died well over 40 years ago and I suspect that I'm the only one who thinks of him now. My mother died 16 years ago and there is still a sinking feeling inside when I think of her, though I know that my own family think of him with love.

A tough one for me as late husband's birthday was the same day as mine and also our wedding anniversary. I try to enjoy the day and I make a pilgrimage to our favourite place at the coast on the anniversary of his death, which fortunately is on a different date.

Sorry, obviously "think of her with love"... typo

I always have white flowers in the house, as that’s what he liked, and DS and I toast him with a whiskey in the evening. Our two DD’s don’t live nearby, but they do the same in their homes

My DH died 2 years ago. I bought a tree in his memory - a life for a life - in a memorial park. I visit often and ofcourse on those special occasions. His ashes are scattered under the tree. I go alone most times, and that’s ok - family and close friends come with me sometimes. It comforts me to see the young tree thriving. Sending love to all coping with bereavement

I think to much emphasis is given to “dates” It’s just another day, of course you will remember your loved one as I’m sure you do everyday. I lost my husband suddenly 8 months ago, his birthday was a few months ago and Father’s Day is coming up but nothing will change… so just carry on the best you can.

Perhaps going to his favourite restaurant or eat his favourite meal or listen to some of his favourite music or perhaps go to one of his hobby events. It's about celebrating the person. Remember all the fun times and quirky things he said.

Condolences to you ( and to all of you)

What did you do when he was still with you? Could you do this with friends a family. Did you make a special cake? Make it anyway, share it or eat it all - it's only once a year.

Try to make it a celebration rather than a sadness is all I can offer.

Condolences to all who have lost their loved ones. Every loss is tough, but the loss of a child must be the toughest of all. I can’t imagine that 😢

My late husband died before our daughter married and unfortunately did not meet his grandchildren . It was his birthday last Saturday. I took my soon to be 17 yr. old GD shopping for clothes by way of a birthday present. We had a great time and ended the day in a restaurant where there was a jazz band playing. He would have liked that.

I am heartbroken and sad every hour of the day without my husband. On his birthday should I go sadder? It will just be another day - another passing of time without my best friend by my side. Every day will be the same sad day.

Macaydia yes, that’s how I feel too but today is his birthday and my heart hurts just a bit more thinking of all the happy times we celebrated and of all he has missed these past 11 years.