SUICIDE OF MY GRANDCHILD - NO HELP

Grammy , my heart heart out to you and your daughter and all your family. Unimaginable distress. Along with grieving the loss of your beautiful granddaughter you are supporting your daughter and her children- you all need support. Your stress must feel overpowering, lots of support on here and I sincerely hope Chestnuts suggestions help. Good advice from Wyllow3 too.
Thinking of you and sending you sympathy and strength. 💐🌹.

I have a friend who used SOBS Gramny. They gave her huge support

Some good suggestions here. Cannot imagine how you and your daughter must be feeling right now and my heart goes out to you. Please do try to find time to offload on here.
Thinking of you 💔💐💐

So terribly sorry. We are in the Madrid Capital .. Just wanted to give our most profound condolences. So sorry to hear this.

In the uk - a lot of drs surgeries have social prescribers who the gp can refer you to urgently - please both go to the gp and impress upon them how bad it is as u all need support . Don’t leave without a referral . I feel your pain as recently suddenly lost my 22 y old granddaughter -so hard and so traumatic sending u hugs

Can't imagine what you and daughter are going through ((hugs))).
Hope you get help soon.💐
Pepples101 💐

I’m so glad there are people on this thread with practical advice and suggestions and hope you find help for your daughter and yourself soon.

Lots of help on here and I hope and pray that you will get the help you need. A friend’s son took his life at the same age but she is abroad so can offer no practical help. But I do send love and sympathy. To you and all the family . 💐

Grammy57

Im in tears, I cannot believe how you have all responded, thank you. I had tried mind and was told they don't do trauma. I think Ill try again I was used to getting doors slammed. I will also try all those other resources as I don't want her to face the negativity, or maybe I should stop shielding her so much? I have been wondering if I need to step back just a little but then I think it's way too soon. Anyway one thing at a time thankyou all

I'm terribly sorry and it's all wrong but I suggest you find a private, registered therpist.

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I have no idea what to say, I hope you can find support and help, I am so deeply sad for yourself, your daughter and the pain that your poor granddaughter must have been in xxx

As a counsellor I am familiar with all the organisations mentioned and was actually going to recommend the same. Please both of you use the Samaritans immediately their 24 hour helpline is free and always manned.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a child ( not to suicide ) many years ago and it is a loss like no other . Please get some support , try them all and use whatever you are most comfortable with. Cruse Bereavement Care is also available, in person, by phone or online and their help is free , they are a national charity and there should be a branch fairly close to you, wherever you live

Please pm me if it would help

If you can afford a private therapist please use a reputable site to find one . Two of the main sites are:

BACP ( British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy ( click on find a therapist ) and Counselling Directory. Com . You can find therapists in your local area and all will be vetted, registered and fully qualified. Look for one with bereavement/trauma experience

So very sorry for the loss of your granddaughter x

Dear Grammy57 - I am sincerely sorry for you, your daughter and your remaining grandchildren in this appalling tragedy and bereavement.

If your daughter wants to stop drinking, then some of the various associations such as AA or Blue Cross can help. Unfortunately, no-one can possibly stop drinking too much unless deep down they want to, and this may just not be possible for her in her appallling distress right now.

Bereavement counselling or groups might well help you and your grandchildren, and might help you daughter, but again it sounds to me as if no one can reach her right now.

I mean, if you, her mother cannot, who can?

I agree with the sentiment that if you honestly fear your daughter is at risk of committing suicide herself, you do need to get her GP to take that risk seriously.

You all need help - are the children's school or schools on board? Surely, there is grief concelling for children?

It sounds as if you are the only relation your daughter and her children have. Have you had a word with your doctor about your situation?

I know you are probably thinking, oh I shall cope, because I have to, that is what mothers do AS LONG AS THEY CAN, but no-one can go on coping alone indefinately, so please do find someone you can lean on.

Your daughter is understandably so devastated that she cannot cope, so as far as I can see you are the only adult trying and to a great extent managing to cope.

It must have taken courage for you to even write your post here, and I hope you will stay in touch with us . I have been greatly helped by the kindness of people on the bereavement thread myself, and I hope you will find it helpful too.

How desperately sad Grammy. I can’t begin to imagine the heartbreak you and your daughter are going through, and your grandchildren too. I believe the Samaritans should be your first contact. Another organisation is Child Bereavement UK.
I do hope you get the help and support you need. Sending love and kindest thoughts to you and your family. ♥️

I couldn't pass by, Granny, without saying how sad I was to read your post. You and yours have had the worst experience imaginable, and I hope that some of the good advice on here can be of help.
My wish is that your family can the find comfort and support you need.

I'm so sorry for your loss I can't imagine how heartbreaking this must be for you I hope you get the support you need

So sorry for your loss. Hope you can find some support from the suggestions on here.

How utterly heart breaking for you all. I'm so very sorry xx

I am very sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss...it's terrible and unfair! There is a forum for suicide's survivors...it's called "alliance of hope" it's very helpful and people there went through this horrible experience...try it! They know how to find comfort and help....hope you can find some comfort and peace...hugs