DH's slippers- can anyone explain........?

Comfort blankets is about right, I think. DH and I have been together for nearly 8 years and he has never thrown anything away himself. I do joke that he is 'cheap to keep', but really he is very hard to buy clothes for - what //I buy just seems to sit there unused - and yet he won't go and buy for himself.

I truly don't mind him looking like a jumble sale on a home-based day, but once or twice I have blushed when we are out and about. I like to be quite smart and I often think people must see us together and judge me a as a terrible wife - obviously only concerned with my own appearance!

But I have become resigned to it over time and generally take the view that he is a grown up and I should try to accept him as he is.

My DH is the opposite!
If any item has anything the least bit tatty about it, be it slippers or anything else, he buys new ones.
Has never worn a T shirt in his life either.
Always a shirt ( but when not working, no tie.) That is as casual as he gets.

Ah - a fellow-sufferer here.

My OH's new clothes languish in the wardrobe while they "mature" sufficiently to take root in his consciousness for him to actually venture to put them on.

And as to his long underpants; all I can say is that I am glad our washing line is not overlooked.

craftycat
why are you ironing t-shirts
and if you stop ironing them maybe he will stop wearing them
old t-shirts make great quilts.they still have them but can be kept in the house or used for the beach/took dh rock shirts and made a nice patchwork throw.now gc want it for themselves

Rolande I am so sorry to hear your husband has passed away! Yes I can well imagine you would love still to be in our position. It is easy to forget.

We nearly lost my beloved husband last year. I vowed not to get so fedup of his ways.I am better than I was however do forget sometimes.

Phew to that fact I am not on my own with clothing etc. He often looks like an old tramp at home with some of the stuff he will wear. He wouldn't go out like it.

I comment I don't dress like that etc. etc. Yes to what everyone has said

My DH is the same. Loves all his ancient clothes while brand new stuff still with labels attached sit in his wardrobe, including shoes and slippers. It is only when we go somewhere smart or holiday in hotel or cruise, that I insist he wears something respectable. This years major tussle was over a cardigan that wasn't fit for anything, I threw it in the bin for recycling but he rescued it. I eventually persuaded him another cardigan was just as good and I eventually won the day. He has never worn t-shirts though.

DH is is an adult and looks after his own clothes: buying, washing, discarding etc. Except for a couple of occasions when I "lost" a couple of truly awful items. Shh!

My dear (late) father-in-law had the worst slippers. They were worn down at the back and I worried that he would trip up in them, so I bought him a new, almost identical, pair for his birthday which was in June. He was delighted and said 'I will keep these for when I visit you'. So I bought him another pair for Christmas, but they were kept for taking on holiday. To the day he died he was still wearing the old ones!

My late husband lived in track suits with a bobble hat in the same colour to match. He was very sporty though and he never looked untidy.It was probably a rebellion from wearing a uniform for thirty three years.He was in the RAF.I used to joke that if he popped off before me I was'nt wasting money on anything fancy,he could have his track suit on,he was fine with the idea,and that is exactly what i did.Miss him loads,it's been ten years now,still miss the muddy clothes , stinking of embrocation.

I had to remove all DH's winter trousers from the wardrobe, wash them and hide them because he would insist on wearing them even on a warm summer's day - even though he has several pairs of chinos.
Likewise the bloody fleece - where can I hide that?

Sorry to sound like a portent of doom Dear Gransnetters, but whilst old slippers are very comfortable, they can be a very serious safety hazard.
I have seen so many people over the years who have fallen over because their slippers have become ill fitting i.e., they have stretched so that they are so loose around the foot,so that the foot comes out of the slipper as they walk causing a trip hazard , or the soles of their slippers have become so very worn. The worst ones are the ones with soles that have become shiny from wear and have no grip at all. Wearing them, especially on a carpeted area is akin to skating on ice causing a fall.
As we get older, our bones are not so strong, so a fall can result in a break like a hip, or worse. Check your slippers, and if they are not to scratch, then replace them asap.

I use the "old slippers are very dangerous" tactic on my husband but it is an uphill struggle. I have to bin them myself just before the dustmen arrive....and he has more gardening clothes than we have garden!

On the subject of slippers, whenever DH buys a pair, he insists that he doesn't like the 'slip on' ones that don't have backs in, and yet, within weeks of buying them, he has trodden the backs down so that is precisely what he ends up with! ?‍♀️

DH put his toe through one of his very nice Fitflop slippers within a year! and insisted on me buying him another pair.

However, he still loves the chinos with holes in, the jumper with holes in (can you mend it please, dear, it's my favourite) etc.

Oh Rolande....just saw your post. So sorry for your recent loss.

I have the most tattiest looking slippers, even though I have bought a new pair, I can't bear to let my old ones go as I feel I haven't worn them out! I won't get started with the knickers with holes in them!

DH is the same with his slippers and clothes. He still has an Aran jersey which a friend's mum knitted for him while he was at uni, well over 40 years ago.

Last year when we went to a local, and admittedly casual, ski-field, I realised he was wearing said jersey under his jacket! It must have been quite uncomfortable as, although he isn't fat, he is definitely a lot more solid than he was at 20 years old. He told me, when I asked, that he thought it ought to be worn sometimes........

Perhaps I should add that he does have a very nice warm jersey that I knitted for him much more recently.

So sad for you, Rolande. I try to keep these things in mind when DH is driving me crazy. Remember the happy times.
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My dad always used to say "never throw away the old for the new" and he'd put whatever new thing we bought him into the bottom of the wardrobe and carry on wearing his old worn out thing.

I am guilty of doing the same thing, a few MONTHS ago I decided to buy a nice pair of Scholls slippers, nothing wrong with my old ones, but fancied a change, however they are STILL in a bag, from the shop where I bought them, in a cupboard. I can never use things right away.Sorry to be found guilty!

Agree with Rolande let them be

The explanation is simple. He has a Y chromosome.

WHY should I change do u mean!

When I met DH, casual meant shirt with no tie beneath a jersey. Shirts were white, white or white. Trousers and anything else were navy blue or black. Even the odd tee shirt or two. Black socks. Ties to match the rest of the clothing, dark coloured. Every now and then I throw out the old and replace it. Huge surprise when he discovered wearing a bit of colour really doesn't kill you., it's a joy to see a happy man in brighter clothes that are new or newish. Took years off him. I've cleared out too many peoples places when they kept things "for good". I use absolutely everything, even my expensive perfumes get used daily and I wear all my lovely clothes. DH will wear his going out. I refuse to be seen with someone that looks as though he dresses from the local dumpster. As for undies, well, I always remember my mums advice ? so if it starts to look past its best, it's out! There isn't anything in this house that hasn't been used yet. ??? to all those that have lost their loved ones. It does put things into perspective.