Hasn't some of Gransnet got shrill?

I think one more thing needs to be included in the guidelines on forum etiquette - no member criticises, or even implies criticism, of any other member's family. I have taken a lot of personal attacks in my time, and they don't bother me as mostly they are from people whose opinion I do not respect, but if anyone dared to be critical of my family it would be a different matter.

Surely there should be no personal attacks on anyone. Challenge and attack someones views by all means, but it can't be beyond our capabilities to debate without resorting to name calling

jane you seemed to be differentiating between j08s wtf and bluebell 's *FO" and saying that the former was OK but the latter was unacceptable. If you were not saying that, what was the point of the comment?

I was suggesting that what is offensive to one person is not offensive to another. Surely as grown-ups we can cope with this without morphing into "Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells".

Eloethan Yes, I think there's a difference between using the F-word in a general way to express annoyance, and directing it at someone personally.
For example, if one of my children told me to fuck off I would be upset, but if they said what the fuck? to mean they couldn't understand something it wouldn't bother me.
I am not clear why voicing an objection to swearing makes me "Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells".

WTF and FO ,

two different meanings entirely

Thank goodness I scrolled up!!! I saw the first line on its own and , well..........., suffice it to say I wouldn't use these terms myself..

I really hate the sneering remarks that have been made in the last few days. Is it not possible to express an opinion without resorting to sarcasm?

I agree with you Ceesnan

Why read a thread if it gets your gander up? If I do not like the way a thread I am interested in is going, I leave and don't not come back. For example I dipped into the MT thread, made one posting, looked at it briefly a couple of times later, didn't like the way the thread was going and haven't looked at it for days.

Surely it is possible to disagree profoundly with the views and opinions someone expresses without getting personal. I always think that personal attacks are only used when one side in an argument is unable to counter the other's points.

Why don't you use private message when someone irritate you. We all don't to moan moan . If my opinion offends someone or something I would keep it between me and who ever. I was just telling my daughter today about some of the things being said. She agreed it's up to each persons opinions and hopefully not to offend. So come on gransnet take a deep breath and treat others as to how you would like to be treated. Anne09

I cannot agree about private messages. I would rather have things out on the boards where they be dealt with fairly, rather than having unpleasant messages turn up in my inbox.

A lot of this so called "nastiness" on Gransnet has been exaggerated. It is quite acceptable for people to have strong views on this, and other suibjects. There hasn't been that much unpleasantness. And what there has been has been made worse by threads about threads. IMO

I think there has been a lot of unpleasantness .

Excoriating , Quite unacceptable and most in poor taste .

By the by , I would thank GM"s who pm"d with kind words , I will reply later.

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