This made me think today

That's lovely.

Yes. Lovely. I must take note.

Thank you for that grannyqueenie I need to print it out and put it above my desk in “that place” , in my handbag, my bedside cabinet drawer, under my pillow, in the car and everywhere else where my worries overtake me .

I'm a worrier from way back and was once advised to make a list of what worried me and then come back, maybe a year later, to see if any of it eventuated.

Some did, some didn't but I understood that none of it changed or improved through my worrying.

Didn't stop me though, I'm still a worrier but it doesn't rule my life or stop me taking action when I can.

My son says 'Worrying is only caring by another name'.

Thanks for that Grannyqueenie I too have worried needlessly all my life. Worry achieves nothing good. I shall print this off.

Thank you gq. I don't think that it's really saying 'don't worry' but seeing the small things can ease the worries a little.

I agree with your son bradfordlass.

Good to read gq. If I wake in the night, which I frequently do, I worry about all sorts of things, that in the light of day seem quite ridiculous.

Ive always been a worrier and my dad used to say "putyour head on the pillow and sleep forget today's worries". He was a great sleeper and hard worker as I think about him now as I lie awake he would be repeating that to me!

Very wise words.

Interesting reading all the different ways of managing ‘worrying’!

After a lifetime of trial and error, I find that if I allow myself say half an hour of full-on worrying, the whole worst case scenario thing along with possible solutions/reactions etc., I can then put it to rest and get on with life, if only for a while.

Of course, the true response is the ‘ Change the things that you can, accept those you can’t and be wise enough to know the difference’ poem - a work in progress for me!

I think it was Mark Twain that said 'I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened'

‘Change the things you can’ is the Serenty Prayer and is part of Alchol Anonymous 12 steps

I use that strategy too, Carolina, it can be surprisingly effective!

Lovely.
I also like the lines from Desiderata.
It's getting a perspective in any way we can. Or at least try..

I try to keep myself busy as that seems to put 'worry' well on to the back burner for me.o

Thank you grannyqueenie, I needed to read this today. I got up and took the dog out for a walk ...I didn't sing, but there's always tomorrow! x

My grandmother used to say 'Make up your mind - you can be a Worrier or a Warrior' I guess the message was you can either worry about something or do something about it. A bit misleading as I think we have more than two options but I'm sure she meant simply to galvanise us into doing something about a problem rather than just worry about it.

I so need to memorise this and repeat it daily! I am an inveterate worrier, “not happy until I find something to worry about” type. I like the saying ‘worrying is only caring by another name’*BradfordLass*.

Funnily enough, I AM going to singing this afternoon!

I don't worry. If something isn't right, goes wrong or needs sorting out then I do my best to fix it. If it's not do-able then I certainly don't worry. Worry is a useless stressor and companion and I keep all that kind of stuff firmly out of my life.

I have a postcard on my fridge which says -
'Worry is like a rocking horse. It keeps you busy but gets you nowhere!'

Thanks for those wisewords - I needed them today as I am stranded in my living room because of having my main bedroom decorated etc. The whole flat is a mess and I can’t find anything!

All these wise words are so true, aren't they? I'm a life-long worrier but feel that as I've got older I've gained a bit more perspective on life which is helpful.
Her'e something I read recently - Forget the mistake, learn the lesson - which is apt.

My Dad used to say to me “Your Mother isn’t happy unless she has something to worry about!” She was a lovely, caring person but did used to worry such a lot! I, too, am a worrier but as so many people have said, although you can’t help it, worrying about problems doesn’t help. Four in the morning is an awful time when anything I may be concerned about seems much worse. We can’t help the way we are made - I’m too old to change now - and don’t particularly want to - it’s part of my caring nature!

My GP once said to me "you can worry a little or you can worry a lot the outcome will always be the same".