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‘Living life to the full’

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Artdecogran Thu 16-Jan-20 18:23:09

Living life to the full is a phrase commonly used for the more mature person or for people living with a terminal illness. What does it mean to you? Does it mean that you have to fill everyday with trips out of the house or climbing mountains, or jumping out of airplanes? If you are physically incapable of those things or don’t have a bucket list to fill are you considered as living life to the full. If you stay at home and crochet or read books can you be said to be fulfilled? Can’t wait to hear what you all think.

MissAdventure Thu 16-Jan-20 18:26:35

I wouldn't have the urge to do lots of exciting things.

Excitement is overrated and contentment underrated, is how I see it.

Urmstongran Thu 16-Jan-20 18:27:57

I think to live each day as if it were your last would be exhausting!

TrendyNannie6 Thu 16-Jan-20 18:36:55

Living each day to the full I expect would mean different things to different people, but to me it would mean doing things that gave me joy and happiness, but it wouldn’t mean filling everyday with trips out etc

Ellianne Thu 16-Jan-20 18:41:51

I'm glad people on here say you don't have to pack in heaps of activities to live life to the full. That takes off some of the pressure. We have many friends who travel the world whereas we are happy at home baking, gardening etc. I do feel a bit resentful sometimes because our health doesn't allow us to fulfil our retirement dreams but we make the best of things and are grateful for each day.

GrannyLaine Thu 16-Jan-20 18:45:51

Interesting question. My DH has often said that I'm built more for comfort than speed and its a fair comment. I'm more inclined to the crochet and books than adrenaline fuelled activities. For me, living my life to the full would be about connection with others, creativity, gratitude, happiness & contentment.

Washerwoman Thu 16-Jan-20 18:50:28

Excitement is overrated and contentment underrated.I love that Ellianne !
I sometimes feel whilst I'm still relatively young I should have a huge bucket list of exciting things to do,places to go like a lot of people.But I don't. I have just had a lovely soak in the bath after a blustery afternoon on the beach with our dogs.And I have a programme lined up to watch,plus a bit of chocolate to munch.Bliss !

MissAdventure Thu 16-Jan-20 18:51:54

That sounds blissful! smile

Hetty58 Thu 16-Jan-20 18:52:46

It means doing what you really want to, when you want to - while you can. A lot of people are too afraid to even try anything new, too concerned with minor details or possible consequences, too restricted by routines and habits.

Some are obsessed by being sensible, frugal, responsible, dutiful, predictable, available - until it's just too late to actually live!

BlueSky Thu 16-Jan-20 18:56:16

Now we have the opportunity to travel the world we or better still, I don't really want to! I know we should while we are still fit and able but why? We have done our fair share of travel already, why should I feel guilty about it?

MissAdventure Thu 16-Jan-20 19:00:49

I haven't travelled much at all, but I can watch videos of the places I fancy, I can Google to find out interesting facts about them.

It's enough for me, mostly.

NanaandGrampy Thu 16-Jan-20 19:06:57

I think I live life to the full . But I'm not constantly on the go to far flung lands or working through a bucket list. I take it to mean loving the life I live and living the life I love .

Enjoying the small stuff and taking advantage of small moments of joy.

Washerwoman Thu 16-Jan-20 19:09:16

Sorry Missadventure.Crediting the wrong poster !That saying is going to stick with me.Also I loved it when Bob Mortimer on Desert Island discs said he loved nothing better than a day full of purposelessness .
That's me.After years of dashing here and there with family, working flat out I hate planning ahead too much,or not having gaps of nothing in which to potter.Some of our friends frenetic travel plans make me feel are we dull?But a)we can't afford it b)I genuinely think flying uneccesarily with climate change is questionable and c)I just don't want or need it to feel contented.Each to their own I guess !

Hetty58 Thu 16-Jan-20 19:15:57

My friend loves her holidays and is always planning the next one. She has a list of places to go where she hasn't yet been.

I've never enjoyed travelling but used to endure it for the sake of my family. Now I don't have to - I'm on permanent 'holiday' here since I retired anyway!

Doodledog Thu 16-Jan-20 19:18:12

I quite like being purposeless, but not all the time. I'm not sure about what living life to the full really means for me.

I think maybe it's getting to the point where you know that you won't lie on your deathbed wishing you'd done this or that, and it doesn't matter what those things are - they will be different for everyone.

kittylester Thu 16-Jan-20 19:18:24

We have just been away for 4 days and I am glad to be home.

We have a fulfilled life at home - we have lots of lovely grand children, good friends, a lovely home (apart from the hall ceiling!) a (small) garden we enjoy (and open for charity) and busy volunteering lives.

We have travelled a lot up to now and are happy and content with our lives.

We have friends and family who live for the next holiday - I dont understand it!

Greenfinch Thu 16-Jan-20 19:50:14

Good post kittylester

Tangerine Thu 16-Jan-20 19:55:49

I enjoy my home and am happy with my own company.

However, I think variety can be the spice of life and I enjoy volunteering and socialising too.

It's nice to have one holiday per year but I don't feel the need for more.

Septimia Thu 16-Jan-20 20:00:43

I think it's doing the things you want to do, when you want to do them - as far as possible.

MerylStreep Thu 16-Jan-20 20:04:02

I can tell you for a fact that you'll see more of the Teraccota Army on film because there are so many people looking down over 'arena' that they're in. The same with the Forbidden City etc.
Have you ever wanted to see the Norwegian fiords? Stick with the film taken from the air, it's a much better view.
South of France? Nice, Cannes, StTropez. Too many people.
I think my favourite places are: the French alps, the west coast of Scotland and Ireland and snowdonia.

Esther1 Thu 16-Jan-20 22:40:28

I have all I want. My family were far flung around the globe for a while so of course we did a fair bit of travelling. Now they are close by I feel I am living life to the full at last. It’s a good feeling.

52bright Fri 17-Jan-20 00:10:04

I always thought that once we were both retired we would travel to far flung places rather than the anual beach chill out we took when we were both working hard and just needed to be beside the sea with some sun thrown in for a well earned rest.
Turns out that whilst in theory dh was up for all of my exciting plans, in practise he wasn't too keen. I'd talked about India for years with encouraging noises from dh. When it came to booking though turns out he doesn't fancy it. Add in all the various trouble spots around the world and he always has a good reason for sticking to Europe. A tour? No good for his herniated discs sitting long periods on a bus.

To be fair this last bit is true. Go without him? Not that adventurous and strangely I still prefer the company of the aggravating old grump to anybody else's. So turns out that 'living life to the full' for me is long beach walks with him and our dog, spending time with friends and family and getting abroad with him where ever he's willing to go. We did do a cruise to the Bahamas last year which was a great success and usually, once I've dragged him on the 'plane, he usually enjoys himself.

Joking apart I'm very aware that we're all getting older and I'm lucky to have him still around so I give him a push in the right direction every now and then and count my blessings. grin

52bright Fri 17-Jan-20 01:17:37

annual blush

gillybob Fri 17-Jan-20 02:59:53

I would love to be in a position where DH and I could just enjoy life. As it stands we are both “alive” but definitely not “living” .

absent Fri 17-Jan-20 03:59:11

Surely it is doing the things you love, being with the people you love – and who love you – and even doing the things you love with the people you love. I love all my grandchildren but only the youngest routinely spends an entire day with me each week. Today we walked all over town to find something he wanted and could afford with his "Christmas money" – a $2 bubble "sword" that produces huge bubbles, Then we went to the library and, on returning home, read both new library books plus 17 more from the shelves here – a perfect day for both of us.

If jumping out of aeroplanes is your first love and you can still do it, why not go ahead? If you love curling up on the sofa with a good book and a warm cat, do that. If you love entertaining the family but your budget or health prevents you from creating a lavish spread, you can still invite them for something simpler, such as a traditional tea with delicate little sandwiches and cake, or have a joint "bitsa" lunch. Absentdaughter and I quite often do this on family occasions, both contributing various bits of this and bits of that, some homemade and some shop-bought. As we are a fairly sizeable nuclear family – at least 11 people, comprising absentdaughter, her husband, her dad, her children, her step-father and me (plus the occasional friend), catering singly on a relatively limited budget can be costly and is time-consuming for both of us but works well when we do it together. Even if you can no longer do your most favourite thing, there is probably a close alternative. You love music or films, but can no longer travel to or no longer afford tickets. There are CDs, radio programmes, movies on television, Netflix.

I am a great believer that all problems have solutions – you just have to think about what they are.