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absent Wed 07-Oct-20 07:56:08

I joined Gransnet almost as soon as it began. Like everything in life, it has changed. Lots of members that I tended to find interesting are no longer posting and, indeed, it is rare for me to post. A few posters whose comments and posts I valued have been barred. I wonder exactly how all that happened.

Oopsminty Wed 07-Oct-20 16:16:50

I do like a well placed profanity now and then

The age old line that swearing indicates lower intelligence really is a load of bunkum

www.sciencealert.com/swearing-is-a-sign-of-more-intelligence-not-less-say-scientists

flump Wed 07-Oct-20 16:10:59

Callistemon Precisely !

Lucca Wed 07-Oct-20 16:02:51

Bluebellwould

I’m sure I have read a scientific study that showed swearing actually helped with pain perception. Would have been bloody useful to have known that during labour!

During my first la our I definitely swore. I didn’t react well to pethadine!

Bluebellwould Wed 07-Oct-20 15:59:44

I’m sure I have read a scientific study that showed swearing actually helped with pain perception. Would have been bloody useful to have known that during labour!

kittylester Wed 07-Oct-20 15:52:19

GrannyGravy13

I have been known to curse inanimate objects, however, I save all the naughty words for the idiot DR’s Ex!!!

Oh me too!! Thing is, my phone keeps thinking I mean Arsenal when I don't at all. When I add the prefix though, it understands me!!

Callistemon Wed 07-Oct-20 15:44:26

Possibly something like "Oh dear, what a nuisance, I've just hit my finger with a hammer. That really hurts" ? grin

It just isn't the same.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 07-Oct-20 15:41:18

Oops DD’s Ex, my Dr is happily married ?

GrannyGravy13 Wed 07-Oct-20 15:40:37

I have been known to curse inanimate objects, however, I save all the naughty words for the idiot DR’s Ex!!!

Callistemon Wed 07-Oct-20 15:37:38

Yes I swear not sure if I do it on here, probably not but I dont think it reflects on my language skills grin

Well, so do I, Galaxy, but I don't think I'd swear at anyone on here.
And most of my swear words I think I learned from DH - but he doesn't swear at people only at inanimate objects like hammers which hit his thumb, tools which don't work properly, cups which break themselves etc.

LauraNorder Wed 07-Oct-20 15:03:51

Illte

Oh, I'm relatively new and I do feel a bit left out on some threads where friends exchange long running banter.

I wouldn't dare go to the Kitchen or the Argy bargy and sometimes interesting threads get derailed by in jokes that have been running for a long time.

But hey, just move on.

Illte I came in to the Argy at the same time as you but have continued to join in, I'd love to see you back there.

flump Wed 07-Oct-20 14:40:58

The problem is that we all live in our own reality. There are those with whom we can find a common ground but those who are outside our view of the world can be seen as not living in the real world. But that is their reality, as strange as it may seem to us.

Re swearing, I see no reason for it in ordinary conversation and often wonder what people revert to when the need for it arises. Possibly something like "Oh dear, what a nuisance, I've just hit my finger with a hammer. That really hurts" ? grin

Ellianne Wed 07-Oct-20 14:35:31

Most of us don’t have time to spend the entire day and evening, reading and answering posts
Nope Lexisgranny, I sometimes throw in a quick reply sitting on a bench somewhere, on the tube, walking the dog, or in between juggling other stuff. Maybe some such posts are therefore more instinctive and hurried, but they come from the heart which I enjoy.

Galaxy Wed 07-Oct-20 14:18:36

Yes I swear not sure if I do it on here, probably not but I dont think it reflects on my language skills grin

Ilovecheese Wed 07-Oct-20 14:14:44

Or "loonies"

Lucca Wed 07-Oct-20 13:53:16

Re swearing. I don’t swear on here (actually do I ? I may have said “just wear the bloody mask” ). I do however swear I real life occasionally and I would like to point out that in fact an extensive vocabulary is one of the few things I am good at ,
I’d like to say that the “bullying” thing is a bit OTT. Recently a poster said “I couldn’t disagree more “. Other poster then started saying she was being “got at aggressively”. I think that’s nonsense !
Also on political threads people from the left are nearly always accused of being bullies......

Lexisgranny Wed 07-Oct-20 13:39:34

I was always told that swearing indicated a limited vocabulary and a lack of self control - and in a lighthearted manner, that the only occasion it was excusable was on hitting your thumb with a very large hammer! The cardinal sin was to swear in writing,

I think it is inevitable that political/environmental/Royalty debates become lengthier than a face to face one, but I must admit that I find the need to quote huge chunks of text to support an argument rather tedious

However the remainder of the topics have been a delight, until recently. Most of us don’t have time to spend the entire day and evening, reading and answering posts, and the current ‘monitoring’ makes it virtually impossible to follow the topic, therefore I am not a fan of the current fashion of ‘nannying’

harrigran Wed 07-Oct-20 12:52:20

Nice to see you posting again Absent.
Like you I have been here since the beginning but do not post very often now.
I had a post deleted and had an email from HQ, I stayed off for almost a month. Only one person noticed I was missing.

Gwyneth Wed 07-Oct-20 12:50:39

Well said Kamiso

cornergran Wed 07-Oct-20 12:49:07

Illte please don’t be concerned about posting in the Kitchen if you’d like to. I had the same concerns. There’s a warm welcome there for everyone, some folk post regularly others now and again.

Ellianne Wed 07-Oct-20 12:34:32

It can work the other way, Bluebellwould. I met up with some GNs in real life last month and we had so many stories and adventures to talk about which maybe in writing might have sounded boasting, ludicrous, unbelievable.
Lovely gathering of lovely different people, though on GN we could be perceived as otherwise.

Smileless2012 Wed 07-Oct-20 12:31:20

It also depends on the thread. If it's a thread where posters are talking about particularly painful and personal experiences, it's even more important to respond with a degree of sensitivity regardless of whether or not you agree with them.

FannyCornforth Wed 07-Oct-20 12:29:41

Galaxy - I think that I may have spotted you last night / this morning.
I think that we were on the same thread.

Galaxy Wed 07-Oct-20 12:25:02

I use both MN and GN and I think it's very difficult to compare the two. MN is so big that you dont recognise names in the same way. I think this can make the disagreeing on GN more personal as you could have a fairly stroppy debate with someone on MN nd then never notice them again. It's not the same here because its smaller.

FannyCornforth Wed 07-Oct-20 12:24:12

Ann - could you do an advanced search of yourself and do it that way?

annsixty Wed 07-Oct-20 12:17:27

For information, how do I check how long I have been on GN, is it possible?