My friend is a right wing racist

Tell her if she wants to talk politics then she will have to listen to your views too. Personally I would then tell her what I really think of Trump, she'll either take it and agree to differ or be so insulted that she will bother you no more.

If you haven't got the same values, it's going to be hard to continue your friendship with her. I think you have to admit that the relationship'a dead in the water. Tell her you think you both need to move on.. Its not uncommon for people to become more racist the older and wealthier they become, not everyone, it's just a generalization based on my own experience..

Just this.

Someone close to me is a massive Trump supporter and also goes along with many strange conspiracy theories. He loves to talk about all this. I listen but pass no comment and refuse to be drawn into any argument. Sometimes, when he is factually wrong, I point it out and that proves he can be wrong! Sooner or later, the conversation changes direction. I don't want to fall out if I can help it as he has some hardships to endure and is kind in many ways.

Block her !!!

Write to her & explain how you feel - how do you feel?
Unsettled, anxious, sad, concerned?
Acknowledge & tell her what you really valued & treasured about her
Thank her for her friendship over all the years.
Explain how your values are very different & you feel upset when these differences are so apparent.
For a healthy state of mind for yourself you have decided to move on.
Reject her values not the person.
And move on.

A Christian friend fell out with me because I was so incensed by her rudeness to me and her right wing views that I dashed off a polemical piece of writing entitled “Why I am a socialist” with details from my very tough childhood in a single parent family. I ended the piece by asking how anyone who called themself a Christian could vote Conservative, as what would Jesus Christ have voted. End of friendship, no debate was forthcoming. As Desmond Tutu said when someone told him that politics and religion don’t mix: “ And which Bible have you been reading?”

I remember a vicar in the DofE who said "no one could possibly be a Christian and a Conservative"

I agree with you Jaxie I often think exactly the same thing, especially lately re the free meals for children. How you can be a Christian and yet feel it right to not help the needy beats me.

A bird should have two wings, a right and a left. Otherwise it wouldn't be able to fly. The same with politics. Neither 'Right Wing' nor 'Left Wing' are bad in themselves. They mirror the symmetry of our human condition. An old friendship goes deeper than politics.

You don't have to be friends with anybody you don't want to, and actually can you really use the words 'racist' and 'friend' in the same sentence?

I was in avery similar situation some years back with an old school friend.
She had moved to the US & we lost touch.
Following bankruptcy there she returned home for a couple of years &we met up by chance.
Initially charmed to have found my old school pal I soon realised that she had become extremely right wing & racist.
When she moved back to the states we kept in contact by letters, gifts, phonecalls and even met up once again in Chicago where I was having a girls' break.
Realizing this friendship was not for me and that what once was a happy schoolgirl alliance was not going to be a happy adult friendship I started to pull back from the communications. However she really bombarded me with phonecalls, calling specifically at times I'd told her were unsuitable for me -she'd call early morning once her children had gone to school which was exactly the time my youngest got in from secondary school. The phone calls were largely right-wing racist rants
There was no reasoning with her so finally I write her a letter saying I could no longer be in this friendship and I explained why citing many instances of her prejudice.
I found it difficult on one hand to sever such a long- standing relationship but cathartic & really just honest to finally voice my opinion and my decision clearly.
I've never heard from her since.
I do think of her from time to time naturally and I do wish her well but I dont miss the relationship - only think I should have ended it a lot earlier.
It's about looking after your own emotional and mental health.
Everyone is different and entitled to their opinions.

Steer clear of those who vexate your spirit.

Look after yourself

Block her number and any way of her contacting you if you don't want anything to do with her after you have sent a text explaining why.

Messenger, social media, email, mobile, WhatsApp etc all have the block facility

Aren’t Gransnetters great? After reading all the posts on this subject I think I’d be privileged to be friends with 99% of them ( and I’m sure the remaining one percent could talk me round).

All of my friends are precious diamonds, whatever the religious or political views.As far as I know, none are racists, everyone is equal in our world, some nicer than others.

"You lost touch for years "did your life stop for years? I guess not, people like these have to be told bluntly, Politely I would suggest that you could say" I am not comfortable with your views and conversations, I have no interest in your views and conversations and stop contacting me" . I never justify myself to people who don't deserve it. I would treat this person like the cold callers telling me I had a car crash, who want me to change energy suppliers, and so on and I am not so polite with those. Have courage my dear
you deserve a peaceful life.