Unbearable noises!

Nell8, ?

I have misophonia and find listening to people eating is a nightmare. I’m ok if I’m eating too as I guess I’m distracted, but my DH’s bowl of cornflakes for supper is torture - I often leave the room. I also time my shower in the morning for when he’s having breakfast. My S-I-L is a really noisy eater and slurper and sniffer, he drives me crazy. I just grin and bear it though as I’m sure I’ve got things that annoy others. It’s good practice for my patience?

Certain irritating Radio 2 presenters who rabbit on and on about absolutely nothing. They just like the sound of their own voices and think they’re being entertaining/amusing. Just play more music PLEEEASE - why fill the radio airways with your inane constant chatter?! I often have to switch off or change to another channel.

Modern Jazz; it makes my stomach clench and a feeling of panic. Probably because of all (to me) random noise. Now Bach is what my head loves. It is so disciplined.

Every night about 3 am a s%%ding possum jumps onto our top verandah and runs past our bedrooms. It sounds like thunder. I watched the little beast once and it does a huge jump from one of our trees. No idea why. They look cute but their habits are not.

My husband eats crisps while watching tv and it literally makes my head go fuzzy. It’s unbearable. My heart rate goes up and I find myself breathing heavily. I know that’s not normal so don’t nag him to stop but blimey it’s horrible

Gum-chewing. Seeing someone permanently chewing the cud I simply feel is grotesque. Especially if they spit it out rather than secreting it away in a tissue.

Can I turn this thread slightly into annoying habits although there is a connection. My husband won’t or can’t blow his nose. Don’t know if it’s because his mother was Spanish and it is not done there, or considered rude. Don’t think he could have been taught as a child. But if he has a runny nose or - heaven forbid a cold - he pokes a handkerchief up the ends of his nostrils to catch the drips. Then has to do it again a few minutes later as it runs again. Just blow it! Depends on how often this happens as to whether he gets a look or a full scale shout ‘just blow it!’

Only a problem in the summer but I do like to sit outside reading & sunbathing. My next door neighbour is in her 80's & is very deaf (wear a hearing aid? Not a chance (reminds me of the Faulty Towers sketch) & she has women round all the time & they do actually shout at each other. Even if I move further down the garden I can still hear every word- mostly running down presumably other friends! I did try earplugs but then realised I could not hear the phone or doorbell. She is not the sort of person you could tactfully ask to keep a bit quieter. DH did play some loud music one afternoon to cover it up & of course she complained. He did tactfully tell her we can hear every word but she just said as she is deaf ( & won't wear her hearing aid) she cannot do anything about it.
She calls out to us if she knows we are in the garden & she has her friends round so we have to creep about- luckily we have a tall thick hedge between us. It's not just us- everyone in the road crosses over if they see her coming- I wouldn't mind if she ever had anything nice to say & not just a litany of complaints!

Children kicking a ball instantly at an internal joint wall. I just want them to go outside.
Farm dogs that yap at nothing when they hear the slightest movement. Living in the city for many years I was oblivious to traffic and the odd ambulance. Moving into the country has proved much noisier and starts much earlier.
After many years of teaching, I was immune to the slurps, burps and sniffs but not with my own family. I get worse as I get older.

Sniffing and throat clearing drive me mad. Relieved to see I am not alone

I have suffered for this past 20 years with Tinnitus. You can learn to pay no attention to certain noises. I can also choose to tune out noises I don't like. It takes concentration on something else sometimes.

Whistling - it makes me feel ill and I could quite easily hit the person who is doing it.

I totally get the custard thing! It’s soooo squeaky!!!
I can’t stand tin lids scraping against each other (ie, sardine tins when you have to flatten the lid! Yikes, I’m gritting my teeth so hard as I write this!! )
Also hate sniffers, throat clearing, loud eaters ...etc!
Good job I live on my own ... ?

Sarnia

Constant sniffers drive me up the wall. For some weird reason spooning dry custard out of the container and walking through deep snow makes my flesh crawl.

I get that. Those two sounds are very similar. They don’t bother me though.
Just about all the other sounds mentioned do bother me.

Video game music and sound effects, any visiting grandkids attached to screens have to use quality earphones. Earphones that let the sounds escape sound like mice dancing on a bisxcuit tin. uugh...

I can't stand dogs that bark constantly. Drives me mad.
Since moving to the countryside 12 years ago I now find that when I drive into town I hate the traffic noise. I do love peace and quiet.

EllanVannin I have breathing problems and I remember as a young child (8-10 years) my Dad moaning at me and saying 'why can't you breathe quietly , you sound like an old cart horse'. I used to sit there trying so hard not to breathe heavily, in the end I would have to leave the room and go sit on my own so I didn't annoy him. I am still a mouth breather and now any movement at all renders me fighting for breath, Good job I live alone I guess.

I hate the sound of smoke/fire/car/burglar alarms, etc. I know that they have to be 'alarming' for a reason but they make me cover my ears in horror.

I also cannot stand the sound of people chewing food and my DD is the same. When we had our extension built I made sure there was a spare wall in the kitchen for a TV. Hence DH and I have some rubbish on the TV during meal times and I don't have to get myself all wound up.

Those high pitched squeals and screams young girls seem to make (my granddaughter included) when they’re in a group. They get louder as they compete to be heard and really hurt my ears

Noisy eaters, especially eating with the mouth open.
Noisy breathers, my DH says he doesn't snore, but accepts he will probably be a noisy breather.

At the moment he has a vile, noisy, cough (which has gone on since long before Covid was invented) and when he sneezes - it's just as well I'm deaf!!

My MIL used an ill fitting set of dentures, she didn’t ‘get on’ with her new ones, which were only used for best!
When she ate it sounded like castanets - it used to make me shudder!

My daughter suffers from anxiety about noises. She can't bear people breathing near her or various other noises. It caused quite a lot of conflict when she was younger because she would be moaning about things which we could barely hear and it would always seem like she was being unfair to her younger siblings. We didn't understand that this was a very real problem to her and she felt very misunderstood. It is only now we are enlightened about this (and her other sensory processing disorders) that we are able to reflect on how difficult it is for her.

I don't like loud music in places that are not discos. I was in Asda this morning and the music was so loud, even without my hearing aids in, that is confused me and i found it difficult to shop. I don't like it at the health club either, David Lloyd, whne open. I do not see why we need loud music to change and shower to! If people want music they can have headphones and an ipod but if it is loudly played I can't avoid it.