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What qualities do you most admire in your friends

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LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 12:22:50

Like most I have a large circle of friends and an inner circle of closer friends.
We would often lunch together, have fun, support each other and put the world to rights.
Since covid our communication has been mainly by phone so much more one to one. This has made me appreciate their individual qualities more and got me thinking about the things I love most about each one.
Some listen to detail and show great care, some have a great sense of humour and lift my spirits, some are brutally honest but in a good way. I hope I give some of these things to my friends.
What do you admire most in a friend?

Namsnanny Fri 26-Nov-21 12:25:46

As I think more about this it gets harder!
Loyalty I think.

LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 12:43:54

I think loyalty too Namsnanny but not blind loyalty. Honesty is important if we’re not in the right.

Namsnanny Fri 26-Nov-21 12:51:58

I think loyalty means irrespective of differences of opinion, one just tries to find a way to support the individual.
As I see it, honesty can 'live' alongside other compromises.

DiscoDancer1975 Fri 26-Nov-21 12:57:10

I thought you’d left Lauranorderr

M0nica Fri 26-Nov-21 12:57:59

Eccentricity. To begin with they like me.

Seabear Fri 26-Nov-21 13:00:24

They make me laugh.

AGAA4 Fri 26-Nov-21 13:06:10

Those who stand by you when you really do need a friend.

AGAA4 Fri 26-Nov-21 13:07:20

PS. Glad to see you back LauraNorderr. Missed your humour.

Namsnanny Fri 26-Nov-21 13:07:52

I wondered about that Dd1975? But didnt like to askblush

Namsnanny Fri 26-Nov-21 13:08:58


Those who stand by you when you really do need a friend.

Would you call that loyalty AGAA4?

nadateturbe Fri 26-Nov-21 13:09:14

First thing that came to mind is loyalty. Definitely.

LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 13:10:32

Yes I came back. It wasn’t my intention at the time but Gransnet is quite addictive.
Another place where we can make friends.

MerylStreep Fri 26-Nov-21 13:13:03

They have to have a good sense of humour otherwise it’s a no no.

LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 13:13:53

Loyalty I suppose is sticking by us through thick and thin.
There are exceptions perhaps. Would you stick by a friend who had an affair with another friend’s husband? That’s where honesty kicks in.

LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 13:15:25

Absolutely MerylStreep.

Grandmabatty Fri 26-Nov-21 13:15:33

Loyalty and kindness I think. I have good friends who epitomise those qualities. I try to reciprocate similarly.

Pantglas2 Fri 26-Nov-21 13:19:54

Their unerring good judgement in choosing me as a friend...😂

Seriously, all are kind and non-judgmental - although we have very varied opinions on a lot of things, our differences can be put to one side without harming the friendship.

We always laugh a lot when we’re together (we’ve wept together on occasion too) which is why I love having them as friends.

Kali2 Fri 26-Nov-21 13:22:44

honesty, empathy, and a GSOH

LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 13:23:02

Out at lunch one day when a friend pointed to her own top teeth asked me if I was saving that broccoli until later.
A mixture of humour and honesty which saved me from the embarrassment of getting home and finding that I’d been a grinning forest all afternoon.

LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 13:27:09

I think trust too. Does that come under loyalty? I suppose it does.

MerylStreep Fri 26-Nov-21 13:30:39

grinning forest
Now that’s humour 😂

Shandy57 Fri 26-Nov-21 13:39:07

I didn't realise I valued reliability in a friend until one of them stopped being 'reliable', my young daughter said it is called 'flaky'. I suppose it goes hand in hand with trust. I dropped her when she tried to make contact again when lockdown lifted, I would rather be alone than sitting waiting with a last minute 'can't make it' text.

AGAA4 Fri 26-Nov-21 13:41:04

Loyalty by any other name would smell as sweet nansnanny

LauraNorderr Fri 26-Nov-21 13:41:47

Do you think your friends naturally assume different roles?
Some of my friends are natural sympathisers, they care about everyone and always seem to know the right thing to say. Others deal with things in more practical ways and will bake a cake or pick some flowers, others deal with tougher things with humour.
Some are extrovert some less so but all have so much to give and they do.