I'm turning into my mother

I’m turning into my father for much the same reason as you posted! I found myself bemoaning the cost of milk in our local shop compared to the supermarket yesterday. My dad would use his free bus pass to go to all the “best shops” to save a few pennies and could tell us all the cheapest places to get everything.

I really hope I don't turn into my mum. She's not the nicest of women!

I'd love to, she was amazing.

paddyann54, to turn into my mother - would be my worst nightmare - having spent my entire life trying to be the complete opposite.

My dear old mum was one of those ladies who everyone thinks is going to fade gently away at any minute but actually outlived them all, not sure if that was a good role model or not!

Same here, Kali2. I look just like her and I try to act like her.

Grandmabatty

I really hope I don't turn into my mum. She's not the nicest of women!

Me neither Grandmabatty.

My Mother was lovely and I don’t mind getting to be like her in some ways. But I do catch myself coming out with some of the expressions she used when I was young - and swore I’d never say them! Mind, I do hear my Son saying them to the GDs!

Those with a lovely mother are probably likely to be just like her but for those of us with a horrid mother we’re most likely to strive to be different.

I do agree with that LauraNorderr I am very concious that there are a fair few character aspects of mymum I really dont want to be remembered for.
Her weight obsession for one and her bordering on OCD house proudness,my poor dad couldn't leave a newspaper on the hall table to hang up his coat without her having a rant or her whipping the saucer from under his cup to get it washed while he was still drinking his tea.

I’m very much hoping not to!

In the fish shop especially, mum would ask for a cod's head ----for the cat ! Once home, it was boiled and mum separated the large white flakes of the fish to one side then make the most delicious fish cakes for tea.
It was an embarrassment as I got older

Then there was the marrowbone from the butcher ! Imagine being knocked down and there's your shopping bag----a cod's head and a large bone splayed out on the road.

Hetty58

paddyann54, to turn into my mother - would be my worst nightmare - having spent my entire life trying to be the complete opposite.

Same here Hetty but I would be proud to be turning into my father!

I agree with Laura.

It pleases me when I catch myself doing or saying something my mother would have said or done. She died 44 years ago, so it’s comforting to think I still have some of her mannerisms and ways, though our lives are very different.

She was a wonderful mother. ?

Blossoming

Same here, Kali2. I look just like her and I try to act like her.

I am very much like her in so many ways- but I wish I had her figure, poise and classic casual style. She was so stylish. I am more of the tea-pot school of looks.

Yes I often hear myself saying and doing things like my mum, I don't mind I feel they are often words of wisdom?. She was a hard worker who lived till her mid 90s and was still volunteering into her late 80s .

Bluesky . Snap.

Yes, another Kali follower here. My Mum had the most generous heart one could ever imagine and, happily, I look like her too. All good.

My mum was amazing, my childhood was filled with love. She never shouted or got angry. Always patient and kind.
If l can be anything like her in any way l will be very happy.
I told her every day l loved her and she told me the same.

I can see my daughter turning into my mother but find it harder to recognise in myself. On the whole I am happy to have inherited any of her traits, but I am very wary of becoming a hoarder as she was in her later years.

Those of us who feel that turning into our mother would be a good thing, are very very lucky indeed. I feel for anyone who can't feel that way. hugs

Well, I smile in passing to the shades of my mother, my grandmothers and a beloved aunt or four when I

fill a small copper kettle and place it on the radiator - it warms water well enough for washing things in lukewarm water

burn tea lights in the kitchen and turn off the electric light when we are not in the kitchen (due to the warnings of rising electricity prices)

cut up worn out t-shirts and other clothes to use as floor cloths or polishing cloths

gather pine cones to light the fire

I could go on, but these examples should do.

Hetty58

paddyann54, to turn into my mother - would be my worst nightmare - having spent my entire life trying to be the complete opposite.

Mine too. If I ever thought I was turning into my mother, I'd end it all there and then.

I haven't seen my sister for 2 years but spent this Xmas with her.
It was like being with my Dad, not a good look .