Typical Gransnetter

Sarah75 has a point regarding the ratio to posters v readers (not sure I like the word lurker), probably because there is a majority that realise that at some stage they might say something that will have everyone piling in to make them feel uncomfortable. Think we are a melting pot of ages and experience of the more mature variety. I might tick a few off of Fanny's list but certainly don't want or feel part of a tribe.

What really puzzles me (I’ve even thought of starting a thread about it) is the people who start threads to say ‘hello, I’m new’.

They get a lovely welcome from all and sundry, and then don’t post again on that thread, or indeed any other thread.

I don’t get it at all.

Probably best to sneak in quietly

I am typical in that I am a GM.
I am not typical in that I am 85, most GNers are younger.
Am I typical in that I am a widow and was married to my H, mostly happily , for over 60 years?
Like others my family life with my AC hasn’t always been easy and both of them have broken marriages.
I have one very very close GC who lives with me but not so close to 5 others, two of whom I haven’t seen for approximately 18 months.
I did not have a good relationship with my Mother but supported all of her very long life.
I am reasonably comfortable financially but not well off.
I think a number of GNers will identify with some of my points but not others.
I can’t think any will totally identify with all.
That would not be possible.
I have lived my own life and no-one else’s.

How's this for a definition of a "typical Gransnetter"... "Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety. Other women cloy the appetites they feed, but she makes hungry where most she satisfies". Charmian describing Cleopatra, in Shakespeare's "Antony and Cleopatra".... I wish...

Just remembered that one of my very first posts was jumped on for missing out a comma.
A hanging offence in those distant days.
Also in common with just a few I was sworn at by JBF.
Who remembers her when you crossed her?

It is Enobarbus that says that.

FannyCornforth

It is Enobarbus that says that.

Sorry, that was to NanaDana

JBF?

JBF jinglebellfrocks I believe. There were a lot of people wanting her back when she was banned. I wasn't one of them.

FannyCornforth

FannyCornforth

It is Enobarbus that says that.

Sorry, that was to NanaDana

Well spotted, Pike. I was wondering who would be first to spot that one.. Seriously though, that was a quote I used in my English "A" level in 1964, so I think I've done quite well to remember it. I must have quoted Enobarbus back then, as I did get a grade "A". Oh dear, and I thought I was doing so well to dredge it up..

If I remember correctly, Jingle died.

I think many of us have been upset at some point on GN and held back from posting. Sometimes unfairly.

Jinglebellfrocks also known as Jingle and Jings.
She could be acerbic to the point of being very rude.
She was banned many times but alway snuck back until she would be outed again.
Sadly she died a few years ago after an operation.

NanaDana I did A&C for A level English too (have I mentioned that Frank Skinner was my lecturer? )
We went to see it at Wolverhampton Theatre.
Kate O’Mara was ‘the tawny gypsy’ and she went topless!

FannyCornforth

NanaDana I did A&C for A level English too (have I mentioned that Frank Skinner was my lecturer? )
We went to see it at Wolverhampton Theatre.
Kate O’Mara was ‘the tawny gypsy’ and she went topless!

OMG! Kate O'Mara topless! Better not mention that to DH or he'll be reaching for his pills... He's also a big fan of Helen Mirren.. I hope for reasons other than.. As for Frank Skinner as your lecturer, how interesting. and how multi-talented. Did you expect him to keep slipping the odd joke in?

Well, it was before he was Frank Skinner really.
He was lecturing by day and hosting stand up in Birmingham at night.
Me and my best mate got free tickets for all the shows.
It was a great time.

He also lived in my street (in one of the housing association houses - I always slip that in, now he’s worth a packet )

He was absolutely hilarious, a naturally funny man.
The teacher in the next room sometimes had to come in and stop him from making us all laugh as it was distracting.

But he was also really intense sometimes. He’d just lost his parents in quick succession and it took its strain. He had recently stopped drinking too - we always wondered why he wouldn’t come to the pub with us.

He went through a really dodgy ‘lads mag’ patch in the 90s and I was really disappointed by him, but he seems much happier in his skin now.

I've come to the conclusion that there isn't a typical GN'r anymore than there is a typical Facebook user.

Possibly the only typical posters on social media are those that join a group which is devoted to one single subject / issue?

If you join ^The Wheelappers and Shunters^** SM site, for example, you might find a typical poster .

** I don't know if this exists!

A lot of us seem to have been ripped to bits when we joined!I remember who as well.
Regarding Seasalt my friend said she would never shop there as the stripey tops marked out the granny customers. I didn't point out what I was wearing!😀

Ah, yes, dear Jings

varian

I do not think of myself as a typical Gnetter beacause I am a very fortunate Granny in many ways.

When I read other Gnetter's stories it makes me realise how fortunate I am.

Who is the typical Gransnetter?

First - you were honest, not smug. Very nice posts acknowledging that you've had a lovely life and are blessed.

There is no typical GNetter. That's a great aspect of GN.

I'd guess 40-90, perhaps female. All political leanings represented. Married, single, divorced, widowed. Having children/GC or not. Parents may have passed on. Some have worked, some not, some sahp. Perhaps Uni, maybe not. Church goers or not. Some garden, some sew and knit, some watch TV, some have pets.

Endless interesting list.

I married at 16, have been with my love 60 years in the same house where we moved first married. I've been pregnant 8 times result: 4 lovely daughters, have 8 wonderful GC&7GGC. One daughter is a widow, soon to marry. One daughter is about to become a GGM (yikes, I'm old). We've had a variety of pets - love dogs and walking them, along with other athletic pursuits. Regularly attend Church, attempt to follow the lessons. I've never worked outside my home. Our parents, most siblings have passed - sad lonely bit of family life.

I'm indeed fortunate. I believe I understand varian's POV.

I like Jings a lot. I also grew to like Greatnan but she was one of the people who lambasted me about the tablecloth.

And, who could forget our Phoenix.

None of them typical gransnetters but noteworthy all the same.

Callistemon
It’s a bit unnerving to be told off by your peers, but then I thought, well who says they’re right and I’m wrong?, only them, possibly no one is right or wrong, just different opinions.
But I admit, I avoid anything too controversial.
I think the very first conversation I decided to join was about dogs in restaurants, was I ever put in my place.

Sara1954

Callistemon
It’s a bit unnerving to be told off by your peers, but then I thought, well who says they’re right and I’m wrong?, only them, possibly no one is right or wrong, just different opinions.
But I admit, I avoid anything too controversial.
I think the very first conversation I decided to join was about dogs in restaurants, was I ever put in my place.

Lunch boxes for me Sarah1954 😁

kittylester

I like Jings a lot. I also grew to like Greatnan but she was one of the people who lambasted me about the tablecloth.

And, who could forget our Phoenix.

None of them typical gransnetters but noteworthy all the same.

I really liked Jings

There was absolutely no malice to her, behind her sometimes snippy posts was a heart of gold.
She is much missed.

As, of course, is lovely phoenix.

I'm atypical as I'm not a gran, but I may be some day, and I'll wear my badge with pride.

A lifelong Guardian reader (my father took the Manchester Guardian) I've gone off it because of its misogyny and don't really have a regular newspaper now, online or off. Byline Times is as near as I get. I detest the Mail, though it is far more feminist than the Graun these days..

I'm indifferent to the RF, and perplexed at the strength of feeling they engender on here.

I have a Seasalt coat, in accordance with the law, but prefer Sahara, Oska and Masai for dresses and what used to be called 'separates'.

I do vote Labour, but my concern about the Guardian applies there, too.

I've been married for 42 years. I can't say with never a cross word, but we've been happy on the whole, and have 2 wonderful adult children (same applies). We're not typical in that none of us was top of the top university in the most difficult subject at a time when good grades were harder to achieve than ever before or since , but we've all scraped by in careers that have paid the bills.

I don't like lurkers (sorry). I see them as freeloaders, and believe in 'paying your way' in all things. Also it makes me nervous to know that there are people out there treating our lives as a soap opera, without so much as a please or thank you. The ones who don't post but report those of us who do are unspeakably rude!

My first post, or one of them anyway, was jumped on too (seems to be some sort of initiation ceremony!). It turned out to be part of a pattern with that poster. It didn't put me off though .

I don't know if any or all of that makes me typical, and don't think it matters. I once went to a focus group with 'people like me' and it was very strange. Honestly, the researchers had done their profiling so well it was uncanny. None of us knew anyone else, but we were like sextuplets. I don't think I'd want to post on a board where we were all alike, really. Every new thread would be met with 'I agree' 'Yes' 'Oh, you're right', and that would be that.