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Goodbye to my Annus Horribilis. How was your year, lol!?

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Fairycakes Tue 02-Jan-24 19:37:06

Well, it's goodbye and good riddance to my annus horribilis. I ended up with stress after overstretching myself, and while dealing with that I pulled a muscle in my leg and couldn't walk. Then I suffered vertigo (for the first time in my life) - not once, but three times. While all this was going on, my husband was taken ill, and while struggling with my own health problems, I had to take care of him and phone for an ambulance (which typically never arrived). Then, just a few weeks later, we both caught covid at the same time, which was terrible to say the least. My father described all these problems as 'a dark phase' lol!

But in spite of all the problems, there were glimmers of light. The family supported me through the stress problems, everyone rallying round. My son married his sweetheart and thankfully I recovered enough of my health to attend. It was a beautiful, romantic wedding, the memories of which I will treasure forever.

So maybe it wasn't an annus horribilis, after all. We need the tough times. It's good for the soul. And from every bad situation comes good.

So here's looking forward to a great 2024!

How was your past year, and what are your hopes for the future?

Kalu Sat 06-Jan-24 09:49:36

I feared I had over shared my personal Annus Horribilis and I appreciate the kind heartfelt responses of understanding. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Nana75 Sat 06-Jan-24 11:15:01

There are so many heartbreaking posts here.I sincerely hope all who have suffered find some peace and ? happiness in the future.My own suffering in 2023 seems to pale in significance in comparison. My DH decided in order to "cheer himself up"he would start an emotional email affair with someone from his long distant past.The discovery of this crushed me.Especially as he resorted to deceit and lies to cover some of what he was doing.I,m" trying to get over it now "but it isn,t easy.I'm not sure what the future holds as he will not contemplate counselling.The" affair "has finished..,for now.However when we are having a bad day he resorts to threats to restart emailing.Watch this space,as they say!

icanhandthemback Sat 06-Jan-24 11:23:39

Nana75, whilst your husband refuses to get counselling, it shouldn't stop you. Anybody who was truly sorry for such an emotional betrayal would not threaten to start emailing again. That is not only hurtful but rather controlling behaviour. That can't be easy for you and getting a neutral outsider's assistance on how to change the dynamics of your relationship so that you do not have to suffer such crushing emotions, can only help.

Sarahr Sat 06-Jan-24 19:13:55

Awful. Sadly, all caused by other people's insecurities and unfounded jealousy. 2024 is set to be much the same. I'm just grateful for the few true friends we have and the support they are still giving us.

Missiseff Sat 06-Jan-24 19:40:21

Awful

fairfraise Sat 06-Jan-24 19:41:46

Awful.

NfkDumpling Sun 07-Jan-24 07:25:40

Kalu, sending condolences seems trite as there are no words to cover what you're feeling. But I can relate completely to where you are. flowers It is beyond horrible.