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I made a mistake and feel so guilty

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Brownhamster Wed 10-Jan-24 12:59:01

I went to town and bought a covid test kit yesterday.

Tested positive, in my car, then while in town nipped into a shop for milk and paracetamol. The shop was quiet and I kept my distance. An assistant I know asked how I was, so I told her why I was distancing.......I was not thinking clearly and she told me off!

Galaxy Mon 15-Jan-24 16:56:42

Risk and our perception of risk are interesting in itself. I am not negating anyones concerns, but I wonder what the statistics show in terms of risk of covid on a bus compared to risk of car accident. I am not talking about individuals on this thread but we as a species arent especially good at identifying risk.

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 15-Jan-24 16:58:00

You’re not alone Marydoll. There’s a distinct feeling of ‘I’m all right Jack’.

Marydoll Mon 15-Jan-24 17:07:30

It's not the risk of catching Covid, but the risk of the consequences, which is the problem.
This is a risk I am very aware of.

rosie1959 Mon 15-Jan-24 17:08:26

Everything you do in life can be seen as a risk anything can happen anytime. I have never been in a major road accident despite travelling many miles but who knows what’s around the corner. I haven’t curtailed any form of normal life due to Covid risk for a very long time life’s too short and I could pick it up anywhere usually from family in my experience. But I am not CEV if I was I would be more wary and invest in proper masks for crowds. But I am also aware from my experience both times I had Covid I was not ill in the slightest so I test even if I feel a little off or tired. If positive I would stay away from people.

AGAA4 Mon 15-Jan-24 17:13:43

When I was younger I used to dread people coming into work with a streaming cold. If I caught it it meant a severe asthma attack and a ride in an ambulance and days in hospital. Now steroids are given things are better.
I don't think times have changed much and people will still mix with others when they are ill and infectious if it's not going to affect them too much.
It's about assessing our own risk without curtailing our lives too much as we can't tell others not to mix with others when they have an infection.

rafichagran Mon 15-Jan-24 17:47:39

I feel sorry for the OP she went into the shop to get paracetamol, and something else, the nosy assistant asked if she was OK, the op was honest and said she had tested positive for covid, the assistant then proceeded to tell her off which is not her place, she is there to serve. I would have just said yes, paid for my goods and left. This assistant in my opinion was looking for a argument and to have a go at someone.

Teaching staff and hospital staff are told if they have covid so long as they don't have a temprature and they feel OK they can go in. So why are posters upset with the OP.

I would also add, that some people don't have husbsnds, partners or people to help them, what are they supposed to do starve or continue to be in pain?

MayBee70 Mon 15-Jan-24 17:53:14

Galaxy

Risk and our perception of risk are interesting in itself. I am not negating anyones concerns, but I wonder what the statistics show in terms of risk of covid on a bus compared to risk of car accident. I am not talking about individuals on this thread but we as a species arent especially good at identifying risk.

I have a certain amount of control when I’m driving. We drive a lot on the A1 and often witness people overtaking dangerously. However, we watch out for them, slow down when we see it happen ( the idiots then think they’ve timed it well and are too stupid to realise they only got away with it because we slowed down). The only control I have over not sitting next to someone on a bus that knowingly has covid is to not get on the bus. I still look after my grandchildren and visit the family. I’ve dodged a bullet there several times when one of them has tested positive shortly afterwards. But I know they wouldn’t ask me to childmind if they suspected that one of them had covid and when any of them do have it they inform everyone they’ve been in contact with. I’ve got two holidays coming up in which my children and their families are going to stay with us. They might unknowingly infect me with covid but that’s a risk I’m prepared to take. But, until then I ‘m not going to do anything that might expose me to covid thereby ruining holidays that I’m looking forward to. .

Galaxy Mon 15-Jan-24 18:10:37

It's of no business of mine what people do on an individual basis, but it is useful as a society for us to be better at managing and understanding risk. And of course that avoiding risk is a risk in itself. Particularly important for young people to take risks for example.

Bonnybanko Tue 16-Jan-24 06:43:08

You’re not on your own in making a mistake it seems I too have made one,I’m only human not perfectly perfect🤫🤫🤫🤫

Curtaintwitcher Tue 16-Jan-24 07:00:02

You obviously caught it from someone else who was not being careful enough. We cannot completely isolate ourselves from others. There would be no outbreaks of anything if we did. Just concentrate on getting well again and stop beating yourself up about it.