If I had to choose.....just one day

There are lots, but for the purposes of the thread: January 1st 2023, the last day I could still walk up a mountain. And I’d choose a different place to do it.

This day- it may be my last and I wouldn't want to spoil it.

I too wish I could have changed one day and life might have been very different

To be able to sit with my grandmother and sew or embroider with her, or just chat. We didnt always agree and she was not a "touchy feely" person - you gave her a peck on the cheek when you arrived and left. She was not one for big hugs. But she always listened and was in many ways a very wise woman.

A positive day for us - when our second child was born, quietly at home. So much healing after a traumatic previous birth in hospital....
And our 3 year old loved him immediately. ❤️
I felt so blessed.

Camping on the beach in Calabria with my three boys watching them dive off the rocks with my husband. We were so happy

The day a doctor told me my eldest daughter would recover from a stroke a week after her 50th birthday.

I would go back to the day that a GP, on the first ever house call to our home, told my mum she had a virus.
Had I been there I would have insisted she was sent to hospital and probably wouldn’t have died that night alone in bed.

Many people here with feelings of 'guilt' What happened was not your fault!and I wish you all peace of mind.
I would love to have one more day with my Mum, see her face , hear her voice and wrap our arms around each other. I was so lucky she was my Mum and I am grateful for that and for all she taught me.

The day after D2 was born. I was in the Westminster hospital with a lovely group of mums.
It was a lovely sunny Spring morning, things had stopped hurting (my third C section) and DH was bringing D1 in to visit us.
One of those golden days when you felt nothing could go wrong in the world.
47 years ago!

Life is full of 'what ifs', and I am always cautious of 'what if' days, because, if you had done something different or whatever, you do not know how that different action/outcome would have reshaped and changed your life in the longer term.

Someone who died quickly in an accident, might live on to die after a long and painful illness. Before I married DH I had two relationships that could have ended in marriage. Each had its 'what if' moment. Both men are now dead, but I know how their lives turned out, one was diagnosed with a degenerative disease in his early 40s and had to give up his profession and retire before he was 50 as bit by bit the illness took its toll. The other chose a career that took him and his family around the world to different countries before he finally settled in Australia. having had a peripatetic childhood in a similar family. In adult life I wanted a more settled existence.

Being brutally honest, marriage to my very DH, and the life it has given me has given me so many more opportunities and so much more one I could shape for myself.

So I stick to wanting to relive days when I was ecstatically happy and have chosen one where what has followed, is what I hoped for.

A magical day in Françe with MrJ, just the weather, the ambiance, the fun, the laughter, 2015.

Of course I would like to relive the day I got married. And also many happy days with my husband and my Mum and Dad.
But sitting here thinking I remember one glorious August day on a beach in France my husband and 8 year old son playing cricket and me reading Anne of Green Gables to my 6 year old daughter it was blissful. Later that day in a beautiful bistro my son and daughter gave us a basket of dried flowers they had saved up for, it was our 13th wedding anniversary. I have a picture the waiter took and it always makes me smile. We didn’t seem to have a care in the world.

September 2007 ... can't remember the exact date ... was the day I met the man I'd marry in 2011! Almost 18 years later we're still like a pair of lovesick teenagers! He's now 62 and I'm 58.

Too many wonderful days from which to choose.

So many days happy days in the past it's hard to choose. One day springs to mind that happened last year was we'd just flown to a Greek island had picked up the hire car and we were driving through the mountains to the wonderful villa we'd stayed at the year before. I remember saying to my DH over and over again 'I'm so happy'. On days like these 🎶🎶🎶🎶

The day(s) I spent naked in the Camargue entwined with a long, dark haired, genuine French gypsy (Gitan).

Christmas Eve 2001. We had all the kids at home that year (step children we’re usually at their mothers)

We’d watched a film, had a takeaway and all the kids were in bed asleep. I remember feeling grateful that I had 2 weeks off work and we finally had all the kids at home for Xmas day.

I drifted off to sleep smiling and very very happy 😊

Urmstongran

Allsorts

To have one day with my late husband, to go a walk, call at the local pub for a drink, just an ordinary day, I still miss him as much, everyone thinks after a couple of years you’re over it.

Oh Allsorts I believe you’d never get over it. 💐
Just learn to navigate it as best as, I suppose?

You “ get over” a bad cold or an illness!!! , I never want to “get over” losing my other half, the love of my life!! That’s not to say I am unhappy, I miss him, and our life together, so much every day, in every way, but I am keeping my promise to him that I will be ok, I will be as happy as possible, look after myself and try to continue to live a good purposeful life. To have just one day, I would go back to the day we first met, I knew then we would be together forever!

To have a day with my autistic son when he would be normal for him and me

The one when it was before i had to set off for a weekend away when my mum took ill (she had already had a home visit from dr) she insisted i still go as g.p. said she would be fine.I would then cancel the trip, take her to hospital to get properly fully checked out intead..That was last time i saw her alive, a heart attack claimed her in early hours of the monday morning.That g.p.should have been struck off. It was also the weekend my friend rang to say her brother had been rushed to hospital.After a few days he died too.He was 39.I could have told her ahead of time so he could have got earlier treatment at least.

Regret marrying into his family who were so old fashioned and rude about women There attitude to the house brought up to sit and wait for his food not taught to do anything in the house Didn’t save for a house just gambled the money brought up with no responsibility My mother was a Dane and she was curious she was so up to date in the world

My heart goes out to all of you who have regrets and sad memories, and also those who want just one simple day again, with a loved one. I would like to go back to my wedding day. Quite recent, in 2018, but it was a wonderful day, great big reception in a barn, dancing, everyone relaxed - and there was magic in the air.

If i could'nt have that one then i'd have the one we all last met up as a whole family for one of my granddaughters birthday- and then change the minor event which eventually caused the huge rift between one of my daughters & her eldest brother and caused them to not speak to or see each other for about 7 years since.

being present at the birth of my granddaughter it felt like my heart just exploded with love,such a privilege!