GrannyAnnie2010
Doodledog, which would you prefer to receive from someone whom you've made an effort for - a supermarket bought cake or a home-baked cake? It's not about the medium of the message but more to do with the effort put in. More significantly, if the recipient would enjoy a card more than a text, why send a text? You wouldn't give a diabetic a box of chocolates, would you? But if you gave a diabetic a box of diabetic chocolates it would show that you put a bit of thought and effort in. Why is it too much to ask for someone who has received a significant gift to simply get a card, write in it, stick a stamp on and post it? Is it because it takes a bit of time and effort, whereas it's just seconds to send a text, clearly demonstrating that the texter has no time for the giver?
Thanks your replying.
I'm afraid I still don't really understand, though. I don't expect people to go to great lengths to thank me for things. If I have posted a present I like to know it has arrived, but I'm not looking to pressure anyone to give me something in return.
I usually get a text with a photo of my gift, or a picture of it on Facebook, from my lot, and I'm perfectly happy with that. I would be more inclined to phone a present giver, and say thank you, but if we have a regular call I would send a text when it arrived, and thank them when we next speak.
I think it is horses for courses, then. Some people are upset if recipients don't spend time and effort on a 'thank you' and others aren't. Mismatched expectations cause trouble in so many ways, and it is such a shame. The trouble comes when the recipient doesn't know the preference of the giver, and gets it wrong.
It is sad when the pleasure of giving a lovely gift is spoilt because of a misunderstanding like that, as it is probably entirely unintentional and no reflection at all on how much they liked the gift or feel about the giver.