Should I say don’t come ?

angie121

stripey gran was trying to be helpful and i agree with what she said

It’s interesting how you chose the one comment I said I found hurtful to agree with!

Op

This is the beginning - what when your son marries and has kids?

Starts compromising now.

Hi. I would suggest you set up a WhatsApp group for you your son and his girlfriend. Then you can invite them both for Christmas. Get in early or you may find you’ve missed the boat. Sometimes men agree to arrangements without telling their other halves or just don’t reply to. They forget. My son does. You could also add that you will be alone and they could visit their new niece/nephew before returning home. Good luck x

If he wants to come to you welcome him, sure he's used to your cooking by now. I would however say to him that if he prefers to be with his girlfriend you understand and hope they can come another time.

Do think people on their own with family gone, find Christmas Day daunting, all those adverts of huge families dining round a table groaning with food isolates some. It's not realistic. Makes some feel very isolated.
Nexus, glad you are still seeing your mom however diffucult she must be.

On the 3rd September ceejayjay asked for this post to be closed down, so why are people still commenting and giving advice. I don’t understand!

The problem is ceejayjay,that it is difficult to separate howwe feel in ourselves, from how we respond to the events in our lives. I ama glass full andbrimming over person married to someone whose glass tends to be more than half empty and I can see how different our reactions are to the same events, good and bad.

I would just tell your son that you would love to see himm and his girlfriend over Christmas,when would they like to come and go with their response,then forget about it until a week before the event. Do not under any circumstances,try to compete with anyone elses Christmas. It will feel false and unreal. Just be yourself, act asyou always do. When our children visit they unconsciencly want the familiar. To come home and instantly know where they are and who you are. If yiur son and his girlfriend are as nice as they sound. They want to see you as you are.

Sadgrandma

On the 3rd September ceejayjay asked for this post to be closed down, so why are people still commenting and giving advice. I don’t understand!

I doubt very much that she’s still reading, don’t you?

Petra
I doubt very much that she’s still reading, don’t you?

I hope that is the case.
I think the problem is that people just read the first post and then post a reply without looking at other people’s comments. Perhaps we should all be more careful.

eeejayjay, other people will do what they choose to do, and we can not control them their choices.
invite whoever you want and leave it to them to accept or refuse. if someone refuses that does not mean they don't love you.