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sarahcyn Wed 10-Jun-20 10:00:57

I just don’t know what is the right thing to do.
Many moons ago, before CV19, I told my son and DIL that I’d look after their baby when she goes back to work, for one day a week. I made this promise, I’ll be honest, out of duty rather than enthusiasm. I’m struggling to get work and worried my childcare duties will conflict with other roles.
Be that as it may, I’ve said now that in the current climate I cannot do the 1 day a week because my husband had pneumonia earlier this year and I’m scared about him being vulnerable.
My son will be working in a care home and DIL going into an office daily.
I read on the Govt website that childminders can now take in children of all ages. So as a grandma am I basically on the same risk level, i.e. low?
I want to help, but not to risk my DH’s life...

Davida1968 Thu 11-Jun-20 13:18:32

Over the last few months, so very much has changed, both in our own worlds and in the wider world, in ways that most of us simply could not have predicted. Perhaps, sarahcyn, if you feel unable to to take on the child-minder role, you can explain that the "promise" you made, was done so at a different "time" and in different circumstances. And that now you can't do this, because of the real risk to your DH.

Parky Thu 11-Jun-20 13:36:46

Janipans having a spleen removed puts you at high risk. It's not something you 'recover from. Spleens produce extra white blood cells to fight infection. I had mine removed and am fit as a flea. Doctor said you are still high risk.

Daftbag1 Thu 11-Jun-20 16:43:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

silverlining48 Thu 11-Jun-20 16:49:35

I dont understand why you have to agree to rent this house without seeing it. If its near your daughter can she have a look?

kwest Thu 11-Jun-20 16:51:52

You don't feel comfortable about taking on this commitment at the moment so just be honest and say Much as I love you, I am not comfortable risking your father's health or my own at the moment and I need to look for a job myself as soon as it is practical for me to leave the house. Committing to child-minding for a day a week will severely limit the sort of job I can take.

Hellis Thu 11-Jun-20 17:08:28

I am a childminder but because of my age( nearly 65), my asthma and my adult son ,living with me, who has health problems, I've decided not to go back to childminding and take early retirement, although I can't have my state pension for another 14 months. But now my daughter is putting pressure on me to have her children stay over, as I used to before covid, while she works nights at a care home. I'm worried about this and not sure this is allowed yet anyway as she has a husband, who is the father of one of the three children, so she's not a single parent. She's convinced it's safe but I'm not, nor is my son

Mistyfluff8 Thu 11-Jun-20 19:11:08

Looking after granddaughter in early September when mum goes back to work and hopefully big brother can go back to school by then if things have not changed got in as their nanny

sarahcyn Sat 13-Jun-20 12:14:14

I'm so grateful to everyone for all this clear and as far as I can see unanimous support. I feel we've made the right decision in saying "not now, but under review".
We had a socially distanced lunch in the garden for his lordship's first birthday and it was extremely hard not to scoop him up and give him a squeeze!