Childminding

Over the last few months, so very much has changed, both in our own worlds and in the wider world, in ways that most of us simply could not have predicted. Perhaps, sarahcyn, if you feel unable to to take on the child-minder role, you can explain that the "promise" you made, was done so at a different "time" and in different circumstances. And that now you can't do this, because of the real risk to your DH.

Janipans having a spleen removed puts you at high risk. It's not something you 'recover from. Spleens produce extra white blood cells to fight infection. I had mine removed and am fit as a flea. Doctor said you are still high risk.

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I dont understand why you have to agree to rent this house without seeing it. If its near your daughter can she have a look?

You don't feel comfortable about taking on this commitment at the moment so just be honest and say Much as I love you, I am not comfortable risking your father's health or my own at the moment and I need to look for a job myself as soon as it is practical for me to leave the house. Committing to child-minding for a day a week will severely limit the sort of job I can take.

I am a childminder but because of my age( nearly 65), my asthma and my adult son ,living with me, who has health problems, I've decided not to go back to childminding and take early retirement, although I can't have my state pension for another 14 months. But now my daughter is putting pressure on me to have her children stay over, as I used to before covid, while she works nights at a care home. I'm worried about this and not sure this is allowed yet anyway as she has a husband, who is the father of one of the three children, so she's not a single parent. She's convinced it's safe but I'm not, nor is my son

Looking after granddaughter in early September when mum goes back to work and hopefully big brother can go back to school by then if things have not changed got in as their nanny

I'm so grateful to everyone for all this clear and as far as I can see unanimous support. I feel we've made the right decision in saying "not now, but under review".
We had a socially distanced lunch in the garden for his lordship's first birthday and it was extremely hard not to scoop him up and give him a squeeze!