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Visiting my grandson

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weeshamrock Wed 23-Sep-20 14:35:53

Am due to visit my 11month old grandson tomorrow and stay for a few days. Have only seen him once this year. My daughter rang this morning to say he has a cold. The drive takes four hours. She wanted me to have the choice of wether to go or not as it is only a cold. My husband and I stay at home mostly and are both well with no health conditions. I am a quandry and would be grateful for other peoples ideas and thoughts.

LauraNorder Thu 24-Sep-20 16:03:18

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Saddee55 Thu 24-Sep-20 16:11:57

I wouldn’t we can carry this virus without knowing we have it ..and we need to adhere to the governments advice or we’ll never get rid of this COVID .

LauraNorder Thu 24-Sep-20 16:13:35

To quote our Prime Minister ‘Your minor cough could be someone else’s death knell. My personal opinion is that those of us who can stay at home should do so, minimise the risk of spread and hopefully help to get us all through this as quickly as possible.
Sad not to see your little grandchild but maybe in six months we’ll have a vaccine and you can make up for lost cuddle time.

aonk Thu 24-Sep-20 16:57:31

I don’t understand why people are so concerned about using public toilets. There was a very interesting article in the Times recently by their gp who writes a column every week. He said that you’re no more likely to catch Covid in a toilet than anywhere else as long as you are meticulous about hand washing. He said you’re far more likely to catch norovirus!

NannyG123 Thu 24-Sep-20 17:14:16

Go, in normal circumstances would you go if its only a cold. The answer would probably be yes. So I say go now, while you can.

NotTooOld Thu 24-Sep-20 17:28:05

You made the right decision, weeshamrock. Personally, I'd rather stay alive and see my grandchildren next year and a good few years after that than catch Covid now, die, and never see them again! Others will disagree, I'm sure.

M0nica Thu 24-Sep-20 17:36:53

It really depends where you live. In a high COVID area, you would be right to be careful, but I live in an area where the incidence of COVID has always been low and is currently falling, not rising and with reasonable protection, masks, gloves, and I wear glasses, I am prepared to go out anywhere and do what ever I want to do, within government guidelines. I know that the chances of me picking up the virus are very low indeed. More likely to die of influenza, a heart attack or stroke.

Jen60jen Thu 24-Sep-20 17:49:51

Just go. Life's too short not to. My grandkids live locally,I'm lucky,hug them kiss them enjoy them. This government are calling positive tests as cases,no one hardly dying,hospitals empty. A positive test does not mean someone is I'll. If someone tests positive within 28days of dying even if they died if a heart attack,covid will be put on death cert,also post mortems can't be done if covid suspected. This government are dragging it out till they've a vaccine,as its been leaked they've shares in the pharmaceutical companies,worth billions,its in their interest for us to think this virus is deadly,so we all get vaccinated. Do not live in fear,enjoy life

Chinesecrested Thu 24-Sep-20 19:35:31

If go now while it's still allowed. If Boris imposes another lockdown you might not be able to go for many more months.

MrsRochester Thu 24-Sep-20 20:34:03


If go now while it's still allowed. If Boris imposes another lockdown you might not be able to go for many more months.”

People need to lose this mindset.
I think BJ is a moron but he’s not the reason for restrictions, a virulent disease is. Anyone with a modicum of sense doesn’t need to rely on a shambolic government to know that unless we are all extremely cautious, we are all in a great deal of trouble.

For most of us, we/our grandchildren will still be here in 6 months. We can and must wait.

For anyone for whom this is not so, they must do what best suits their family circumstances, no-one would begrudge that, whimsy keeping well away from wider society until any potential risk is gone.

MrsRochester Thu 24-Sep-20 20:34:58

Whilst, not whimsy ?

welbeck Thu 24-Sep-20 20:55:52

it is not a binary situation, that one either lives or dies from the virus.
many people suffer serous long term impairments.
for example author and poet michael rosen has lost sight and hearing on one side, and has frost-bitten toes.

Shizam Thu 24-Sep-20 21:00:29

As you’re essentially well and the child has a cold, not covid symptoms, I would go, being careful on the trip with hand sanitation etc. Who knows what the next six months will bring re restrictions?

glammagran Thu 24-Sep-20 21:13:42

DH and I caught humdingers of colds recently from DGD, just turned 2 who we look after once a week. I’ve read that colds are particularly vicious at the present time as so few people have been exposed to any viruses for some time and their immune system get depleted after an interval so getting one will “wake up” your immune system So we’re very pleased actually to have had this.

Nanniejude Thu 24-Sep-20 21:15:55

As long as neither of you live in a high Covid-19 area I’d go. Wear a mask, wash your hands and enjoy your grandchild.
Sadly 0.065% of the UK population has died of this virus so we must all Be careful.

Milo27 Thu 24-Sep-20 22:28:56

Go, Grandchildren are so precious. I drove from Manchester to Leicester to pick my 4 year old Grandson up from his first day at school and it was wonderful x
The look on his face and the cuddle was worth it xx

BazingaGranny Thu 24-Sep-20 23:17:19

I think that you and your daughter have made exactly the right decision in not going for the time being. Colds are not nice and as there’s no immediate sign of another lockdown, you can easily go when the little chap is feeling better.

My friend, aged 75, has just become really very poorly with a chest infection, etc, after catching what was regarded as a ‘mere cold’ from her grandson, and she’s now in hospital.

When I developed adult onset asthma, five years ago, the respiratory consultant said to avoid people with coughs and colds as much as possible and, yes, wash your hands, wash your hands!

Have a fabulous time with your family when you get to see them - and on the plus side, your grandson will be much happier once he’s got over his cold! ?

Frankie51 Sat 26-Sep-20 07:13:55

Don't be afraid of motorway public loos. They are being cleaned regularly, lots of hand sanitiser in them, hot water, soap for handwashing. You have to wear a mask. Have found the service stations generally very quiet and feels quite safe to go in them.