My husband refuses to believe in coronavirus

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Just saying!

I've a friend who said "it's only a flu going about and get over it." Then said "he wouldn't be wearing a mask, if I get sick I get sick". He made me angry with all the rubbish he spouted about Covid, the government, etc. He's a real know it all, everyone else is wrong, the idiot. Now he's wearing a mask and hopes to be 1st in line for the vaccine as has an underlying health issue. Oh how his opinions have now changed....

Could you discuss this with another member of the family or your Dr? My husband suffers with a mental illness which although controlled, started as a response to a string of events which caused extreme anxiety and a change in behaviour towards me and family.

My daughter is similar. She doesn’t live with me. I try to keep an open mind and also keep myself safe. Who the hell knows what is going on in this crazy world. Was it started on purpose? Does it benefit countries? Who knows anything for sure. I do believe that some/many people get very sick with it. I do believe it is a new strain of infection. I do believe in being as careful as I can and following guidelines and living my life as best I can at the same time. Will I have the vaccine? Probably but I am wary as well. Do what is right for you.

I have a friend who is constantly putting up posts on Facebook about how the 'virus' is caused by 5g.....................I just ignore him! We are all entitled to our opinions but it must be awful for the people who have lost loved ones recently, to know there are people out there who deny the existence of the virus.

Could we get the person who negotiated the plan to control people with Covid to negotiate a deal for Brexit? They must be really good at it.
Sorry you are going through this, Nightwriter, it must be discombobulating to find the man you have been married to for so long and thought you knew, is believing such rubbish. I can't help wondering if it is a possibility that this virus is something that "escaped" a laboratory but whatever the source, we need to protect ourselves.

Your body , your life it's your decision to have the vaccine or not , not his .

Re.....why do governments do certain things....because they want power and will sometimes take certain actions so they continue to hold it. All of history will tell you this. There haven't been many leaders in recorded world history, if any, who actually cared about the minions they govern.

If some want to question what the media or politicians tell them then it becomes a conspiracy theory but people begin to question things because both those sources have been found to be economical with the truth on many occasions. I see people calling Boris a liar on this site all the time.

Covid is just another strain of flu. Bacteria and viruses mutate all the time; it's their survival mechanism, but where and how this strain originated is a different matter and should be able to be up for discussion without people saying someone has a mental illness for wanting to do so!!!!

Huguenot that's exactly what I was going to say. What would be the motive of the government? It just beggars belief that anyone would think like this when people are dying every day. The evidence is clear that Covid exists.

He must be saying not only the UK government but Governments worlwide are using Covid to control their people. Think there would be a few countries where the rikers rulers would be overthrown if they were using a virus to kill off, cause disabilities to the population. How does he figure all the economic devastation; those Governments are losing an awful lot of money pandering to the believers. Just some points you could ask him. If you want a vaccination, its your decision and your's alone.

Covid killed my sister in law, and I have two friends who have been really ill with it. Does he think all these people are faking it?? I would find it very difficult living with someone with such ridiculous theories.

nightwriter - I would tell your husband that you have your own conspiracy theory which is that he is trying to kill you by sticking to his - he won't be taking care and is encouraging you to do the same. Tell him also to take a look at the facebook group Yellow Ribbons and read the harrowing posts from people who have lost close relatives with covid, and if he can't bring himself to do that, to book himself some therapy with a counsellor who is simultaneously working with people who last saw their husband/wife/parent/child being taken off alone in an ambulance and never saw them alive again. I am doing that myself and it makes my blood boil to hear the nonsense coming out of the mouths of those who want to deny the existence of this virus - does he also deny the holocaust occurred?

to deny that plots/conspiracies have not been made by governments /rulers is plain dumb, read your history books! As for covid ,yes it's real, but as its not been here before, the government is struggling to get control of it.Its very difficult to get to the real truth of advice etc.

There are lot of people about like this. Trawling the internet to find like minded people and stories to back up his thinking is going to add to his certainty. You do right to tell him you won't discuss it. It's probably the only solution for someone so certain if their facts. I hope things don't get closer to home to prove him wrong. I lost my mother to Covid last month, my son in law is currently in hospital with breathing problems and blood clots on his lungs, my daughter is feeling ill with it whilst looking after 3 kids without any help from me or her dad for fear we will contract it. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, even a conspiracy theorist who doesn't believe it. Some people have to see things first hand to fully understand but stay safe so he's not in position.

Both you and your husband could do to join Twitter and follow Ivor Cummins and Mike Yeadon. Both have studied viruses for 40 plus years. The virus was there in March/April but the reason for all the deaths at that time is down to “dry tinder”. Meaning the previous winter didn’t kill as many with flu as it would have done. So when this virus came along it killed many. The number of cases now are due to the cycles being run at too high a volume so throws up previous bacteria. The PCR test was never meant for finding infections this was stated by the man who founded it. The government have dug a huge hole and now don’t know how to get out of it. I personally won’t be having a vaccine that hasn’t been tested to the degree it should be. Also viruses don’t do waves, never have done. Please just research these two chaps. They speak a lot of sense and the more people who do this will see what is happening. There are too many other illnesses that need addressing, these will kill more people than any virus. I could go on but I won’t as you probably don’t believe me. At least show this to your husband.

"^Ah yes, those flat-earthers. I read somewhere that if the world were flat, cats would have pushed everything off the edge by now."^

Love it, paperback ... so true

Hello,
Would you like to send your husband to me and my husband who have suffered from long covid now since May, and does he really want a description of what this has done to our bodies and our lives, at one point we lay together waiting to DIE , we are mid to late fifties, so not 'Old' .

I would counsel you to make your own decisions about a vaccine, it has a way to go yet, but nearer the time of roll out you could privately speak to your GP about your concerns. Your husband is dangerous, not only to himself but to others. Oh covid exists alright, tell him to ask the two wives of the men who have died from it at my husband's place of work last week.

Maybe your husband should put his money where his mouth is and agree to be injected with covid to further medical research, after all, if it doesn't exist, he has nothing to worry about. I feel sorry for you as you are caught up in his idiocy, I'm sorry to be harsh, but you must trust your own instincts and be as careful as you can be.

Hope you feel better reading the support on here. There’s no convincing some folk.
When we know there’s something we simply don’t agree about, I don’t engage in discussion about it and if DH persists, I raise the subject of vasectomy. He gets so heated about that he forgets his original rant.

Sometimes getting sucked in to conspiracy theories can be a type of depression and maybe overthinking. You could encouage him to read up on other pandemics though history or join a site like Future Learn www.futurelearn.com/ where there are loads of free courses (from universities) on all kinds of subjects including a few on different aspects of Covid 19. Just go on the site and put 'Covid' in the search bar. Hope that helps.

Flat earthers are easily dealt with. If the world were flat, the cats would have pushed everything over the edge.

Seriously, though, this must be so annoying. I am pretty easy-going but, I think I would have lost my temper with him by now. Will he agree not to discuss it — agree to disagree?

You have my sympathies.

I have a long standing friend who is also convinced that Bill Gates is behind Covid 19.

The theories go on and on.

It can be really difficult to be around someone who's beliefs are such that the person has become changed by them.

It must be doubly difficult over Covid 19 as it has had such far reaching and devastating effects.

I hope you have found some support here on GN so you don't feel alone the situation you're in with your OH.

Best wishes and may we all get out of this tragic situation soon.

Unfortunately, denial of coronavirus is not confined to men, as I can attest from personal experience (not within my family, I hasten to add).

That said, one or two of the general comments about men on this thread do remind of some of the generalisations about Islam...

I have had several procedures in hospital over the past few weeks. I have had to have a Covid test three days beforehand and then self-isolate.

Could you ask your husband just why the NHS would put resources into screening patients and all have in place all the additional rigmarole concerned with protecting staff and patients from Covid if it did not exist?

I think once such an idea as is in your husband's mind has taken hold, it will be difficult to dissuade him.

I would put the NHS resources point over and tell him he is plain daft and not thinking the situation through thoroughly - and he is being an idiot.

My eldest son sometimes goes on about these theories. Fortunately he also wears a masks, sanitises his hands and distances. I have discussed it with him but now say I disagree and don't want to discuss it further. I think others are right to say that this can be a way of coping with it for some...his wife has dementia and I think he is finding it hard to deal with everything. Very hard to listen to though.