WHAT’S ALLOWED?

lemongrove

When a poster calls another poster ‘dear’ .... they have just lost the high moral ground that they were previously enjoying.

If you say so dear ?

If Loodl is a new poster she has probably run for the hills.

And some of us know what you actually meant

Welcome to the lions' den.

LauraNorder

If Loodl is a new poster she has probably run for the hills.

I’ve PMed her to take no notice and to hope she’s got the information she needed and to ignore the criticisms of her

Have to agree Callistemon we too listen to the rules for England to such an extent I have no clue what the rules are here in Wales today.
Never mind, get out the scrabble, no biscuit today but Tesco will be here tomorrow.

Oh, sweet.
Who knew you were so kind?

Not you, LauraNorder, you're always kind.

Oh for heavens sake

LauraNorder you are right. I have. Never did I expect such an unwelcoming comment especially on a forum where I would expect a certain level of maturity of thought and sensitivity towards a first time poster. I had expected to read the voice of experienced mums, who embrace and support rather than rashly judge the concerns and worries of a first time grandparent who is clearly just wanting to get things right. I was using the 'Gov's website' own wording for what amounts to a much needed couple of hours break for my daughter, whose partner is working tomorrow and due the baby crying for an hour solid at 1 am this morning, and keeping her up for most of the night, just needs a couple of hours to get back on track, take a shower and unpack a few boxes as they have also just moved and she can't do that and look after the baby at the same time. I just wanted to know whether it was legal under current restrictions, as her grandmother, to be able to keep an eye on their new born for a couple of hours max i.e. 'childcare' to use 'gov.' wording and if so, where - at her place or mine? I think I have the answer.

Just to clarify, my post of 18.02 was NOT directed at you, Loodl

Glad you came back Loodl. I’m sure if you’re all very careful and not mixing with others the new Mum will be very grateful for a bit of support.
Can I suggest you call in at the good morning Saturday thread tomorrow for a gentle welcome. Bit unfortunate you had a baptism of fire as all the posters who commented are usually kind and even amusing.

Welcome Loodl rather an unnecessary first entrance for you. I agree with LauraNorder the good morning thread is totally different. Those who like to cause a scene stay away from that thread.

Another one is soop's kitchen. People there are very supportive and you would soon get to "know" them.

Loodl two of us immediately gave you advice and information and I researched further for you. I also sent you a PM. Don’t tar us all with the same brush. I helped you with up-to date and accurate information . I immediately believed your post and didn’t for one minute wonder why you might be needed to look after a 3 week old baby. I then defended you against a totally unnecessary judgemental criticism of you. Welcome to GN.

What Charleygirl said

Suziewoozie - Very much appreciated and apologise if it seemed I was - definitely not - your support brought me back!!! Many thanks for that!!!

I’m not sure what people are trying to say on here - but where’s the criticism for lemon whose post was horrible and then for Call who repeated it? Then the ‘welcomes if you’re a new poster‘ which rang pretty hollow and are often code for something else ? The IP was treated absolutely fine to start with and helped which is more than some of you wanted to do.

I minded one of my grandsons from the age of 6 weeks, as my daughter had to return to work to safeguard her job, not through choice. He survived it, and is now 25 with 2 children of his own.
Welcome Loodl!

Loodl

Suziewoozie - Very much appreciated and apologise if it seemed I was - definitely not - your support brought me back!!! Many thanks for that!!!

I appreciate that - when you need factual information, there’s several of us who really know our stuff and if we don’t, we know how to find it. So don’t hesitate to ask again if necessary. You should be able to help out with your dgd and hopefully things will settle down soon .

Crikey Suzie I don’t know anything about codes. You were very helpful. I did think Lemon was unusually harsh hence my comment that others were usually kind and funny.

LauraNorder

Crikey Suzie I don’t know anything about codes. You were very helpful. I did think Lemon was unusually harsh hence my comment that others were usually kind and funny.

Well thanks for that because the comments were all getting very barbed and pointed but no names were being mentioned and no one acknowledged that advice and information was given very quickly by a couple of us. There was absolutely no reason for lemon to jump in as she did or for Call s comment to me. I’ll give as good as I get in response to posts like that but unlike them, I’ll give information as well and not rush to judgement

Charleygirl5

Welcome Loodl rather an unnecessary first entrance for you. I agree with LauraNorder the good morning thread is totally different. Those who like to cause a scene stay away from that thread.

Another one is soop's kitchen. People there are very supportive and you would soon get to "know" them.

Who are ‘those who like to cause a scene’? Come on spit it out rather than heavy hints.

My comment was in answer to what the OP wrote, it wasn’t harsh either usually or unusually.It was surprise that in this pandemic a grandma was going to do ‘childcare’ ( the wording the OP used) for a three week old baby. A few posters were equally surprised.
This is an opinions forum after all.

Loodl I think you really need to check the rules for the area in which you live as they can vary from country to country, area to area and can change as infection rates vary.
Don't just take what is posted on GN as absolute as much is opinion only.

No offence was meant, and no innuendo intended and I'm sorry if you have been led to believe otherwise.

Good luck.

unlike them, I’ll give information as well and not rush to judgement

Please check up to date information for your particular area, Loodl.