Is Big really Beautiful or are we kidding ourselves?

I am a tad on the over weight side and don"t think Big is Beautiful,
one scrap !

I think if you are still young and have that beauty that you only have with youth, where your skin is good and there is still very little double chin and females don't yet have sagging breasts, and males haven't yet acquired man boobs, then yes, big can be beautiful. Young overweight men seem to get big all over, older men get stomachs and necks and chins and fat shoulders. Young girls seem to keep some sort of waist, older women become pears or apples. The faces of overweight women as they age become squarer and androgynous, if they have short hair it is sometimes hard to tell what sex they are.

Last night I was going through some photos of myself from last year and was truly shocked by one of them. Luckily I have been on a diet for the past couple of months so am already slimmer than when the photo was taken, but it made me feel really bad. It certainly made me more determined to stick to my diet. I had been convinced that I was slimmer than a friend I was with, now I can see that I was kidding myself. Comparing it with a photo of me taken only a couple of weeks ago, I can see that I look much prettier now and far younger, but I still have a long way to go.

Dawn French got away with it for years because she was so pretty, but I could pinpoint the time when her face began to drop enough for it to no longer work unless she lost some weight.

Well,
I Think I can Understand Where you are coming from in your view Nonu.
After all Obesity Can be Life Threatening and can be a cause for Major health problems such as Diabetes , Etc.
But It Being something Beautiful?
Well, That I guess is a Matter of Opinion?
Thanks for Your response.

Hi Jane,
Thanks for Sharing Your Thoughts.
I Have To Log Off Now Unfortunately But I will Come Back Later and Give My Thoughts On What you Contributed.
Thanks Again.
Kind Regards
Trevor

You've certainly been very busy with your posts this morning Trevor

In answer to your question. I wish I wasn't over weight but it doesn't make me hide away. I enjoy my life.

Thanks Nina
And Yes I Must Say I Enjoy Debating With People on a wide range of Topics.
Obesity being one for example.
I'm Glad You Don't Let Your Weight Stop from Enjoying Your Life!
Are you an Outgoing Confident Person By Nature nina?
I Think Can Help Prevent People Withdrawing Into Themselves When They Perhaps Gain A Considerable Amount of Weight.

I'm only a bit overweight... spare tyre etc., but last year I did the 5.2 diet and lost one and a half stone and felt SO much better for it. The tyre is threatening to return, so I am going to start the diet again.... right now!
I don't honestly think that big is beautiful.. not really. But that doesn't mean that I don't have sympathy for weight-challenged people... it can be so very hard to lose weight.

Ooo - weight challenged. I like that! Soo much better than just being fat - like wot I am!

I was trying to be ...er... polite, or something..... . I'm sure you are just nice and cuddly, NfkDumpling.

I have always struggled with my weight and although now a size 14 I have been a 22. I have never ever felt beautiful or even attractive and refuse many invitations because I feel so dreadful. If I do go to something I rapidly get depressed when I see how nice everyone else looks. I have seen many a lady (not a man) who I do think beautiful despite size. For me its about grooming. I think todays trends of baggy clothing (track pants) and tattoos don't do anyone any favours. You don't have to spend a fortune to look well presented its not about designer clothes etc which in some cases can look very strange when its a case of fashion for fashions sake.

I apologise for being sexist but I find some of these questions intrusive and if trevor is "offering to help" I would prefer to discuss issues of this type with somebody with the relevant qualifications.

Thanks Sue.
I'm sorry you Feel Like You Do.
I Can Certainly Understand How you feel.
I'm 11 stone now
But I still have a Bit of a Tummy which I am forever trying(in Vain to flatten)
I ended up in hospital 3 years ago as a result of overdoing exercising for tummy flattening.
However the issue of Whether Big Can be beautiful
applies More to females than males I think.
Because Females Obviously Spend More Time Putting on Make Up etc etc
To Enhance Their appearance
Whereas Men spend more Time Trying to Look Fit and In Shape.
and nowadays There is a Growing Thing for Females To Actually Be Overweight based on This Thing about Some Males That Like and Prefer Women That are Overweight.
But I doubt it That Women are Willing to Stay Overweight simply cause their boyfriends/husbands Like them that way?

What is with all the capital letters trevor???

i can't write properly sou and thats the truth hence the use of capital letters.
please try not to let it upset you Too much.

soutra

I think it's fine to be two or three pounds overweight. No more than that though. You sound fine Trevor. Well done for the weight loss.

Thanks Jinglebells.

I think confidence is beautiful regardless of size.
I've been bigger and smaller but ultimately found the times I've been confident are the times that people seem to tell you that you look nice etc. Those times have not always been the times I've been smallest. Confidence is what attracts people to be friends with / talk to people imo not necessarily their dress size.
I think thats why some people look great bigger and some don't

Well
I think you made some valid points ineed.
i find that when people say I look good that gives my confidence a lift and my self esteem as well.
i'm still quite a shy reserved person though.

Instant improvement in the capital letters/ punctuation area* trevor* congratulations.

Thanks Soutra.

Right that's sorted. What's next?

Right that's sorted. What's next?

Jane,
thanks again for your reply.
as i mentioned earlier being overweight certainly affected the way i felt about myself.
my face right down to my thighs had ballooned and so hardly any of the clothes i had fitted me anymore.
so i felt frustrated as well.
i didn't like the way I looked and felt like a freak.
i couldn't bare facing people cause i felt so ashamed of my appearance.
i was single at that time and would have been surprised if a woman found me attractive.