Today i hit 16 stone.....talk about depressed....

Am I allowed to put a link to another thread on here? Well, here goes anyway!
www.gransnet.com/forums/dieting_and_exercise/1228651-Low-carb-support-thread-2016-Part-2

Hi Junesmith11
Good that you have been able to take something from all the advice given.

Today I have started on my healthy eating .
I never call it a diet as that makes me hungry!!

I am following the slimming world plan.

if you wish to share with GN daily, weekly or even monthly,
I'm sure there will be plenty of GNers to offer their support.
Wishing you well

I'm drinking apple cider vinegar before meals, seems to be working, I've lost 2 stone give it a try!

I drink lemon water before every meal, snack, teatime, or pud. I have almost no desire to eat. And I walk 10-13k steps a day, that seems to help as well.

You sound just like me, for years I have tried everything and still stayed far too heavy. I too hate the clubs where you have to go every week, so in May one last serious attempt I joined Weightwatchers online and to my surprise I have lost a steady 1lb a week and am half way to losing the 3 stone I made my initial target. It is so easy to just add up your points(calories) by entering them online after each meal, everything is already worked out for you, but if you need to add a receipe to work out your points again it is all very easy.

I think the most important part is to get your portion sizes right for things that you need to count, I weigh everything to start with to understand what size portion I am eating, then you can have as much fruit and veg as you want. For me I was surprised when I counted up my normal days food how much fat and sugar it contained, even though I thought I was eating a healthy diet, controlling those elements has made the difference for me.

Good luck, give it one last go and expect it to take time, there is no quick fix, just healthier eating.

bytheway, Women get brainwashed about what is an 'acceptable' size, an 'acceptable', look. This look is an identikit look regardless of size, shape or genetic inheritance. If women do not meet it they are led to believe they are worthless. This is the vicious circle you have been sucked into

Forget about 'acceptable' looks, weight, or anything else. Learn to stop hating who you are and instead accept yourself for who you are, a lovely woman who has a husband who loves you and supports you. Forget about diets, eating plans, eating more of this and less of that. Just eat what you want when you want it and stop when you feel you have had enough. Throw away every diet and calorie counting book in the house, Stop looking and searching for dieting and weight loss websites. Then prepare a meal of food yo really enjoy, eat it slowly and savour the flavours.

To begin with your body and metabolism will be in utter confusion after years of different diets. So it will take a while for it to start responding normally to food. Take your time, but eventually you will find an eating pattern that suits you and you enjoy. It will probably mean that you are eating much less than at present.

Your problem seems to be more in your mind than in the body. Have you considered counselling or getting your doctor to refer you to an eating disorders clinic where you can get proper psychological support?

Whatever happens, stop fighting food and start enjoying it. Take pride in who you are and what you are and refuse to be defined by other peoples standards.

Another poster was right-the best diet is the ELMAM diet-Eat Less Move Around More. And you have to want to succeed-if your heart isn't in it, like any other addiction, you won't succeed.

Well said Newquay, I love it, but first I shall tell you about my relationship with GC(6,4) who have got their own treat cupboards which when I'm feeling abit down I'll raid , like, big time.

I shall remember ELMAM and repeat it over and over, Gnetters move in mysterious ways.

Well said M0nica.

I completely agree. Dieting doesn't work. It messes with you head.

It's good to remember that our size isn't an indicator of our worth, that model-slim is an illusion for most women (they are air-brushed and photo-shopped) and that we have to learn to be happy with ourselves today, just as we are. It's such a waste of life hating our bodies.

Food isn't the enemy.

We all know which foods aren't good for us and which foods we should eat more of. Enjoy your food, make portion sizes smaller, have the odd treat without feeling guilty and try to walk every day.

Most diets are a waste of time. It's been shown that very few people keep weight off after following a restrictive regime.

Don't buy foods like crisps, biscuits, cake, ice cream etc if you cannot resist them. They can be used to stifle low moods and then we see food as reward or treat.

I try to follow my own advice and sometimes I over indulge but I am past hating myself or scolding myself.

Being very over weight isn't good for us, but awareness is a step in the right direction. Try to achieve one 'healthy me' target a day, like a walk or having an oat cake to nibble instead of a doughnut....

Have a doughnut when it's offered if you want one...nothing should be bad, or forbidden. We can slowly train ourselves to choose the healthier option, whilst knowing a little of what we fancy is perfectly ok.

Weight loss will be slow but you'll be getting your life back on track without the agony of yet another failed diet and turning to a tub of ice cream because you've had a bad day.

That tub of ice cream can still be your friend, but you decide when to visit it. Over time you'll find you are making better choices for yourself.

Good luck. Love yourself first, just as you are.

So miserable. Have a cold and have been eating for comfort. Have put weight on again and need to get it under control.
Need to get back to not eating between meals or just healthy snacks.
Any ideas anyone?

Loopyloo
My advice would be get over your cold first.
Remember the old saying 'feed a cold, starve a fever'.

Hot soups are my fall back especially chicken broth.
No recipe just chuck in plenty of veg etc.
Whatever is lurking in the fridge and needs to be used up.

In the mean time check out some healthy recipes online and then how about writing out some daily meal plans.
So thst when you are feeling better you will be fully prepared.
Keep cakes and biscuits off the list until the end of the month, then allow
yourself a nice treat.
I have read on GN the nice idea of swapping sweet treats for a magazine or a nice bubble bath
.
hope you feel better soon

Thanks Cherry Tree. Going to have some Night nurse now and see how I feel in the morning.