That's a good question, rose. It seems to me the parents are staying out of it, except that, of course, Charles was at that meeting w/ Elizabeth, I believe. Maybe he had something to say there.
It does seem this is more GM's/GMIL's issue than the parents', but maybe that's b/c she's the Queen. Or maybe the Royal Family is trying to present a united front or is just expected to accept whatever the Queen decides, anyway.
Or perhaps the parents are keeping quiet b/c they think it's Harry's and Meghan's decision. If so, I think that's a good thing.
I feel for all involved and hope all is resolved and smoothed over. But it fascinates me how similar this is to parent/AC and IL issues we hear about here and among our own friends, etc.
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic