Thank you for sharing your experience Friendlyghost It’s very rare on these boards to read a story of true self reflection, repentance, and reconciliation. It’s very heartwarming to hear your story, and I’m so happy for you that it’s worked out so well, although it must have been very difficult for you to come to the realization that your behavior pushed your daughter away.
I don’t think my own situation will ever resolve that way. My husband is estranged from his mother, and she has blamed me for it (the evil DIL, the 3rd party that came into the family and ruined everything). Although my husband has explained to his parents many times over the years how their controlling behavior (and subsequent tantrums when they didn’t get their way) drove us away, they continue to claim they “are baffled” and deny doing anything wrong. When my husband has tried to explain their behavior that was hurting us, they accused him of being abusive toward them. There is no self reflection on their part and sadly I don’t believe there ever will be. All we have ever asked is for the control and tantrum behaviors to stop and to stop disrespecting me and we can resume a relationship. They said no.
Scottish political mess. Is Devolution working?